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Erotica Titles For Hot Summer Reading

Fifty Shades of Grey is heating up The New York Times best seller list, making BDSM erotica an official trend of the Summer. But the author, British Twilight fanatic E.L. James, isn’t the first to let the racy sex fetish inspire a novel. That form of fantasy has filled the pages of many books over… More »


Girl Talk: On Calling A Man “Daddy” In Bed

He liked to talk in bed — a lot, and always dirty — and, as part of his rhetorical repertoire, he liked to tell me about other women he’d been with while he was getting me off. He’d whisper in my ear about how this one went down on him while he told her what… More »


DomConLA Bondage Convention A Big Hit With S&M Community

Bondage buffs from as far away as Europe and Japan beat a path to Los Angeles this past weekend just for the chance to get beaten.

It’s all part of DomConLA, an event now in its eighth year, that allows fetish fans, submissives, and dominants to meet, greet and beat — if the… More »


Here’s The Audio Of Gilbert Gottfried Reading “50 Shades Of Grey” That You Didn’t Ask For

We know you have reservations about reading the hot new BDSM “mommy porn” erotic novel 50 Shades Of Grey in public. What if someone from church sees?! What would your grandma think?! That’s why we couldn’t be more pleased talented voiceover actor Gilbert Gottfried has done the audiobook for 50 Shades. No one has to… More »


8 Ways To Be Positive You’re Sex Positive

Here in the land of lady blogs, most of us believe that sex and exploring your sexuality is a great thing. “Sex positive” is the go-to term for this, which is the philosophy that all consensual expressions of sexuality are good and healthy. Sex positivity also includes advocating for sex education and safer sex. Sounds… More »


FL Library Removes “50 Shades Of Grey” From Shelves

50 Shades Of Grey may well be one of the worst-written books ever. But being a blight on the face of literature isn’t the reason Brevard County Public Library in Florida pulled the BDSM erotica novel from shelves: they called 50 Shades “pornography.” But Brevard County is not consistent in what they consider “pornographic” and what… More »


Textercuff: The Perfect Sex Toy For Text Addicts

For some, the pleasure of returning text messages is one that should be denied. The Textercuff, part handcuff, part thumb gag, is the perfect sex toy for restraining your technology addict from the instant gratification he desires. Deny him the touch of his iPhone, shame him for being too plugged in, make him beg to… More »


“Mad Men” Creator Sheds Light On Don Draper’s S&M Sex Drive

“Don’s relationship — and [the] women in his life’s relationship[s] — between power and sex is very closely linked. And I think it’s part of the human experience. I think it’s an animal thing. Powerful men in particular seem to want to be controlled sexually. … I think what you’re seeing is that they do… More »


I’m A Feminist And I Love S&M

The book Fifty Shades of Grey has brought to the forefront of modern society and readers’ minds the fact that some women (and men) enjoying BDSM play in their sex lives. Shocking, right? What sort of deviant wants to be spanked or tied up or told they’re a “bad girl”? I’ll tell you: about 60 percent of my friends — mostly women,… More »


Now You Can Learn Spanking, Kink In Actual “50 Shades Of Grey” Classes

One NYC-branch of sex shop Toys In Babeland is (wisely) capitalizing on the new “mommy porn” 50 Shades Of Grey craze with cocktail party classes teaching Kinky Sex 101. The open-to-the-public classes will be free; the first 25 kinkster guests will go home with a Christian Grey-approved goody bag: a paddle, necktie, satin bondage kit, edible… More »


The Soapbox: Actually, Katie Roiphe, Feminists Are Not Perplexed About Submissive Sex

Bondage/dominance/sadomasochism (BDSM) erotica novel Fifty Shades Of Grey has swept the nation, landing itself on many a Kindle and launching a feeding frenzy for the movie rights. More digital ink has been spilled on What Does This All Mean? for women and our sexual desires than will ever be spilled on the people killed by… More »


Casting “Fifty Shades Of Grey” With Actors We Wish Would Do Gratuitous Hardcore Sex On Screen

This weekend, I read approximately 600 pages of the dirty smutty smut smut called Fifty Shades of Grey. I’m currently almost to the end of the second book in the trilogy and was up till 2 a.m. because I couldn’t wait to find out what would happen next in the Red Room of Pain. Given… More »


7 Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Vanilla Girls

Are you ladies more kinky than you’re admitting? Considering the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, the erotica book burning the laps of lady readers across the country, I’m guessing you gals might be a tad kink-curious. Of course, there is a difference between reading about kinky sex and actually doing it– but both can be… More »


Dr. Drew Is Mansplaining Your Sexual Desires For You, “50 Shades Of Grey” Fans

Dr. Drew Pinsky is utterly clueless about about bondage, dominance, and sadomascochism in relationships and has no business discussing them on national television. That is my conclusion after seeing Dr. Drew brought in as an “expert,” and yes those air quotes are intentional, on “The Today Show” recently to discuss the book 50 Shades Of Grey. As… More »


First Time For Everything: Being A Dominatrix

Yes, I was nervous, but mostly I was excited. It was my first day as Mistress Darkness, a professional dominatrix. As a black graduate student in her 20s who had previously held down employment as a gym teacher and library assistant, I surprised myself when I answered  the ad on Craigslist. I needed a flexible, part-time… More »


Keira Knightley Wouldn’t Let Michael Fassbender Spank Her

“I actually said to him before we shot the spanking scenes, ‘If you touch me I will kill you’ and he did remind me that I was tied to a bed at the time and really I shouldn’t be making any threats. … [those scenes] weren’t particularly easy.” 
 — Keira Knightley, idiot girl, didn’t want… More »


Dominatrix Suspended From New York Attorney General’s Office

Lawyers in the New York Attorney General’s office are used to cracking down on bad boys. But in Alisha Smith’s case, bad boys may have been paying her top dollar for a public spanking from “Alisha Spark,” her dominatrix alter ego. There are also allegedly photographs of “Alisha Spark” on the internet posing in skintight,… More »


Crystal Renn Is Into Bondage

There is a magazine out there called Tush. That is the first important piece of business I would like to note. Also, model Crystal Renn looks surprised to be in a leather collar/leash type of thing, as photographed by Ellen Von Unwerth. Maybe she needs some S&M tips from Rihanna? [NYMag.com] … More »


Today’s Lady News: “In The Bedroom, Inequality Beats Equality”

“Men are aroused by being dominant and by submissive women, women are aroused by being submissive and by dominant men,” writes Ogi Ogas, Ph.D. in Psychology Today. “In the bedroom, inequality beats equality.” Those broad sweeping statements are fighting words, PT! Speaking strictly for myself, I agree with Ogi. But I wonder if other folks… More »


Rihanna Loves A Good Spanking

“Being submissive in the bedroom is really fun. You get to be a little lady, to have somebody be macho and in charge of your s**t. That’s fun to me … I like to be spanked. Being tied up is fun. I like to keep it spontaneous. Sometimes whips and chains can be overly planned… More »