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Anti-Domestic Violence Groups Protest Vogue Homme’s Choking Cover

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Groups that work to eradicate domestic violence and help survivors are protesting magazine behemoth Conde Nast over the lastest cover of Vogue Hommes International, on which the cover model is being choked. Supermodel Stephanie Seymour is held from behind by hunky Marlon Teixeira, whose face is rapturous as one hand reaches around to choke her neck and the other reaches around to grab her breast. Keep reading »

“50 Shades Of Grey” Magazine: Yeah, We Bought It & We’re Sharing the Dirty Details

Like it or not, Fifty Shades of Grey has become a bonafide global phenomenon we can’t seem to shut up about. So it’s no surprise E.L. James’ steamy series has actually inspired its very own MAGAZINE. If you’ve been to a magazine stand, you may have noticed that there’s an actual periodical devoted to all things Fifty … and it’s entitled, Fifty Shades … of American Women Who Love the Book & Live the Life. Yes, I am being completely serious. No, this is not a very early April Fools joke. The one-off publication is basically a collector’s item for Fifty fans — filled with silly, Cosmo-ish sex quizzes, Fifty Shades-inspired beauty tips, blurbs from women who swear the books transformed their sex lives, and true tales of real people living the BDSM lifestyle. In other words, if you’re one of those fans who is waiting with bated breath for the fourth book and first flick, this fanatical publication might be able to tide you over for, oh, a couple of hours or so. Read more…

Totally Appropriate: “50 Shades of Grey” Onesies For Babies

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How are babies and BDSM related, you ask? The answer is the new 50 Shades of Grey baby onesies found on Etsy.com. Your baby will be sure to turn heads wearing these white ensembles, sporting phrases like “9 months ago mommy read Fifty Shades of Grey,” or “all mommy wanted was a night with Mr. Grey.” I pity the child who grows up and sees baby pictures dressed up in poorly written erotica-inspired attire! [Gothamist]

5 Myths About Kinky Sex From “50 Shades Of Grey”

As someone who has identified as kinky for over a decade, both professionally and personally, I have to admit I was absolutely appalled when the 50 Shades trilogy first hit the mainstream. I read all three books, and as I read some of the myths and stereotypes, I had to do some deep breathing.

I couldn’t help thinking, “These are the books that have become the cultural reference point for kink?” As I thought this, a bit of my kinky little heart broke. But, my opinion has changed since then.

I still think the books are poorly written and that there is much better erotica out there. Regardless, these are the books that have everyone talking about sex and kink. At this point, the value of that far outweighs some tired writing clichés. Read more…

About Venik, That Amazing S&M-Like Spa Treatment I Got

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When my friend told me that she was having her birthday party at a Russian bath house, I was expecting to do some shvitzing, swimming, and relaxing. I didn’t expect to be beaten with burning hot leaves and then dunked into a pool of freezing water by an old, fat Russian man wearing a funny hat.

The birthday girl was like, “I dare you to try venik,” and, being as that I can’t refuse a dare, I agreed even though I had no idea what I was agreeing to.

I was ushered into a 200 degree sauna, where an old, fat Russian man wearing a wool cap began to beat me me, YES, beat me, with a bundle of oak tree leaves. When I started to scream that it was burning, he rushed me out to a freezing cold shower and dunked my head under until I was gasping for air. Then yelled, in his accent, “Cold dunk,” which meant I had to submerge myself in a pool of 38 degree water. To give you a point of reference, imagine rolling around in a snow bank naked. It was so cold my skin was stinging. Then he marched me back to the sweltering, hot sauna to be beat again with leaves. Rinse and repeat five times. Keep reading »

NOFX’s Fat Mike Talks His BDSM Lifestyle, Persecution For Being Kinky

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“I haven’t always been open but I always felt lucky that there was something in my life that I felt passionate about. I think most people don’t feel that way about sex. But yeah, I’ve had a dungeon in my house for the past 20 years. … Both me and my girlfriend [who is a dominatrix] are kind of missionaries. I think it should be talked about. It should be out in the open because people don’t enjoy their desires enough. You’re allowed to do whatever the fuck you want as long as it’s consensual. You might as well live out your fantasies and not be ashamed of it.”

I’ve never listened to NOFX, so I had never heard of Fat Mike (aka Mike Burkett). But now I’m kind of in love with his mind right now. The singer spoke to VICE about a new record and had a whole conversation about being kinky and into BDSM — that’s bondage, dominance and sadomasochism. Everything he’s saying here is stuff I’ve wanted to scream from the rooftops. After the jump, he talks about the persecution of BDSM as a “deviant sexuality.” Keep reading »

Hotel Replaces Bedside Bibles With “50 Shades Of Grey”

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Christian Grey is damn near God-like — at least according to guests’ bedside tables in The Damson Dene Hotel. Bibles have been booted and E L James’ BDSM erotica novel 50 Shades of Grey has taken their place in every room within the English inn. Damson Dene’s owner said providing a copy of the book to every guest within the 40-room hotel was “a hospitable thing to do.” Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Misunderstanding “50 Shades” & Kink Is Hurting Those Of Us Who Practice

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I haven’t exactly kept it a secret around here the way that I’m sexually wired. For the most part, though, the only person whose opinion matters on the subject is my sexual partner. (And any roommates who have to listen to occasional smacking.) Yet, every so often, BDSM — that’s bondage, dominance, sadomasochism — pops up in mainstream popular culture and us kinksters and spankos get to hear the mainstream’s opinion on our lives.

“Secretary,” starring Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader, a flick about a secretary who enters into a dominance/submission relationship with her boss, came out while I was in college. Although the flick was understandably controversial, it explained to a lot of people, “Hey, we’re just regular folks like you. Except, you know, not so regular!”

More recently, it’s the BDSM erotic novel 50 Shades Of Grey that has people talking. It seems everyone has an opinion on the subject — including those who are completely misguided about who kinksters are and what we do. Take, for instance, feminist blogger Morgane Richardson and a piece she wrote calling 50 Shades “a glimpse into domestic violence.”

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First Time For Everything: A Spanking Party

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“Call me in one hour and tell me your boyfriend dumped you,” I told my girl friend as we stood outside the movie theater where we had just seen “Magic Mike.” “If the party’s weird and I want to leave, I’ll say ‘Oh my God, are you okay? I’ll come meet you!’ Got it?”

“Sure thing,” my friend promised.

“I’m texting you the address I’m going to right now,” I told her, tapping on my iPhone. “Just in case these people turn out to be rapist-murderers.”

“I’m sure they’ll be fine,” she soothed me. We hugged goodbye and parted at a street corner. “Have fun!” is what she called as I walked away.

Have fun at your spanking party is what she meant. Keep reading »

Erotica Titles For Hot Summer Reading

Fifty Shades of Grey is heating up The New York Times best seller list, making BDSM erotica an official trend of the Summer. But the author, British Twilight fanatic E.L. James, isn’t the first to let the racy sex fetish inspire a novel. That form of fantasy has filled the pages of many books over the years, and in fact, erotic writing dates back at least two millennia to the Greek poet Sappho. If you want to give steamy reading a chance, here are seven titles to try besides Fifty Shades.

Delta of Venus is filled with a wide range of characters and situations. There’s a Hungarian man who seduces rich women only to steal their money, and a Parisian housewife who ends up in Peruvian opium dens. Something for everybody. It was first published in 1977 by French writer Anaïs Nin. Read more …

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