Posts tagged "bdsm"

Read The Last Words of Reyhaneh Jabbari, Who Was Hanged For Killing Her Rapist

Reyhaneh Jabbari was hanged in Iran on Saturday for killing her rapist. She left her final will in the form of a voice message for her mother, which said, amongst other things, “In the court of God I will charge the inspectors…and all those that out of ignorance or with their lies wronged me…

Rebecca Vipond Brink / October 28, 2014

Anne Rice’s BDSM Erotica Trilogy Sleeping Beauty Heads To TV!

Your TiVo queue just got unbelievably hotter: a BDSM erotica trilogy by Anne Rice, under the pen name A.N. Roquelaur, is headed to TV. The popular books, The Claiming Of Sleeping Beauty, Beauty’s Punishment and Beauty’s Release, will be adapted into a TV series for the channel Televisa USA. Your mom bought these compulsively readable…

Jessica Wakeman / September 15, 2014

A Guide To Doing Anal With Your Boyfriend

As a professional dominatrix, and an all-around kinky lady, I love anal play. Your bum can play a delightful role in all sorts of fun, from a casual roll in the hay to the darkest, kinkiest scene ever. Sadly, homophobia and traditional sexual values mean that relatively few straight men consider asking to receive anal.

Margaret Corvid / September 11, 2014

Here’s A New Trailer For “Kink,” James Franco’s Documentary About BDSM Porn

“Kink,” a documentary about the porn web site Kink.com, debuted in January at the Sundance Film Festival. Yesterday, the film, which explores the largest BDSM online porn empire, released a new trailer in anticipation of a limited release. I’ve heard complaints about the film — it’s “boring” (which is unfortunately always something that some kinky…

Jessica Wakeman / August 21, 2014

On Making The Case For Kink As A Sexual Orientation

Today on Slate.com is an excellent piece about why “kinky” should be considered a sexual orientation. Writer Jillian Keenan posits how we define a person’s sexual orientation should include what kind of energies turn a person on — dominant or submissive, for example — because for people like Keenan and myself, our sexuality is more…

Jessica Wakeman / August 18, 2014

Frisky Rant: On The Great Robin Thicke Feminist Knee-Jerk Fiasco Of 2013

The first time I really listened to the lyrics of “Blurred Lines,” I was like, “This is my JAM!” It only took a few minutes of Googling and reading my favorite feminist blogs, though, before I started becoming horrified and dismayed at the feminist community’s reaction to the song. The Daily Beast kicked off a…

Rebecca Vipond Brink / July 8, 2014

Fetish Fitness With A Dominatrix Takes “No Pain, No Gain” Literally (NSFW)

For some fitness-conscious submissives in Australia, working out is synonymous with getting off thanks to dominatrix/personal trainer Mistress Anna. The Sydney dom coaches kinksters who work out in collars and gimp masks, ordering pushups to kiss her black latex  high heels and administering a spank when necessary. She even finds ways to incorporate kinky toy…

Jessica Wakeman / June 27, 2014

The Most Ridiculous Assumptions People Make About Being Kinky

Let’s set the scene: I’m 23, drinking chai in a charming coffee shop. Sitting across from me is a gloriously burly guy in a leather jacket (and, as I know from his Fetlife photos, also in possession of two equally glorious full sleeves of serpent tattoos).

Then the conversation veers from what we…

Molly Ren / February 6, 2014

Anonymous Chick Spills About The Time She Choked Adam Levine During A Makeout Session

Oh, how I love a blabbermouth. Adam Levine was just awarded the coveted (not really) title of “Sexiest Man Alive” by People magazine, which means it’s the perfect time for some random chick to spill the beans about the time she made out with the falsetto-voiced singer when he was in between Victoria’s Secret models. Over

Amelia McDonell-Parry / November 25, 2013

These NSFW Sculptures Of Miss Piggy And Kermit Will Haunt Your Dreams

Have you ever wondered what Miss Piggy and Kermit’s sex life is like?  Do you have a desire to have your childhood memories of “The Muppets” ruined forever? Then please, take a glance at Emilio Rangel’s series “La Puta di Babilonia (The Whore of Babylon),” which depicts what really happens between America’s favorite couple behind…

Megan Reynolds / October 17, 2013

Melissa Gorga Is Not Happy People Say Her Book Advocates Marital Rape

“That is so awful. That word is like so disgusting to me. That’s horrible. It’s just about the playfulness, about teasing, it’s about ‘hmmm, no, I don’t want it tonight’ but he’s going to take it. It’s about being aggressive and trying new things in the bedroom. It’s not about, ‘hey, I have a headache,…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / September 30, 2013

Ranking Cosmopolitan’s “12 Kinky Quickies” Sex Moves On A Scale Of 1 – 4 Handcuffs

Couples who engage in kink in the bedroom are happier and more secure in their relationships, according to a study cited in the October issue of Cosmopolitan. Girl, you don’t have to tell me this! BDSM sex, when it is safe, sane and consensual, is pretty amazing for all partners.

But hold u…

Jessica Wakeman / September 20, 2013

Real Talk: On Literary Erotica, Part 2

This edition of Real Talk — read Part 1 here — delves deep into the seduction that is literary erotica. This week I’m joined by two popular writers within the genre, as well as an avid reader/blogger. We talked tropes, stereotypes, and the stigma surrounding erotica.

Delphine Dryden writes award-winning contemporary erotic romance for Carina Press,…

Avital Norman Nathman / August 29, 2013

Radical Feminist Interview On Thought Catalog Takes Potshot At Sex-Positive Feminism & Kink, Questions Consent

Last night, I was reading a piece on the blog Thought Catalog in which writer Marie Calloway interviewed two young women about the current state of “radical feminism.” I read it not only because feminism is my beat, but also because the current understanding that I have in my mind about radical feminism is based…

Jessica Wakeman / June 27, 2013

Study Says BDSM Correlated With Better Mental Health

People who are into kinky sex may be psychologically healthier than those who are not, says a new study. Researchers found that people who were involved in BDSM — bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism — scored better on certain indicators of mental health than those who did not bring kink into the bedroom, reported LiveScience.
The study, which was published i…

Somebody At The Vatican Is Downloading BDSM Porn

Look, we’re not saying the Pope has anything to do with this, but somebody at the Vatican is getting their rocks off to some hardcore porn on the job. The folks at Torrent Freak discovered that someone with the Vatican’s IP address is downloading tons of very porny porn. Stuff like “Whipped Ass,” “Russian Slaves&#8221…

Julie Gerstein / April 9, 2013

The Soapbox: BDSM Is Not “Consensual Domestic Violence”

I don’t want to write this post.

I really don’t want to write this post.

I really don’t want to write this post because all the ways that Slate columnist/link-baiter William Saletan is wrong about BDSM are so numerous and so glaringly inaccurate that I have half a mind not to…

Jessica Wakeman / March 6, 2013

6 Ways The New York Times (Of All Places) Got It Right About Kinky Sex

The New York Times Style section has gotten the memo: 50 Shades Of Grey is a book the ladies be readin’. Cue interviews with various and sundry New Yorkers who are involved in the kink scene, from sexual submissives to fire players. Actually, this article was written by a friend of mine named

Jessica Wakeman / February 28, 2013

Watch The Trailer For “Kink,” James Franco’s Documentary About BDSM Porn

When he wasn’t otherwise occupied writing poems about the president, James Franco has been busily producing a documentary about Kink.com, the premiere web site for BDSM porn. “Kink,” which is debuting now at the Sundance Film Festival, explores the production company that runs Kink.com and their film shoots in San Francisco’s Armory. Franco and hi…

Jessica Wakeman / January 22, 2013

Fetishes 101: All The Basics About Having A Sexual Fetish Or Paraphilia

“I have a shopping fetish!”

“I have a total fetish for caramel-covered popcorn — it’s my favorite snack!”

“She watches the Kardashians’ shows because she has a weird Kim fetish. She’s wants to dress like her so badly.”

You’ve probably heard a comment like this at least once a…

Jessica Wakeman / January 18, 2013