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7 Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Vanilla Girls

Rachel Rabbit WhiteMarch 16, 2012 //
50 Shades Of Grey
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Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Vanilla Girls
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Are you ladies more kinky than you’re admitting? Considering the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, the erotica book burning the laps of lady readers across the country, I’m guessing you gals might be a tad kink-curious. Of course, there is a difference between reading about kinky sex and actually doing it– but both can be hot. Why not give those fantasies a whirl in the bedroom?

Being a vanilla girl who is curious about BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism) can be intimidating. You’re probably conjuring images of dog collars, dungeons and leather-clad man who calls himself Master DragonBallz. Fret not, there are ways for a normal gal to try this stuff out with her partner in the comfort of her own bedroom. No dungeon necessary. Click through for some tips on how to dip a perfectly manicured toe into the dark waters of BDSM. And remember, you can use your safe word at anytime during this slideshow.

Dr. Drew Is Mansplaining Your Sexual Desires For You, “50 Shades Of Grey” Fans

Jessica WakemanMarch 14, 2012 //
50 Shades Of Grey
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Dominant Sex
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Dr. Drew Pinsky is utterly clueless about about bondage, dominance, and sadomascochism in relationships and has no business discussing them on national television. That is my conclusion after seeing Dr. Drew brought in as an “expert,” and yes those air quotes are intentional, on “The Today Show” recently to discuss the book 50 Shades Of Grey. As you may have heard, the explicit, erotic BDSM romance novel about a dominant/submissive relationship has become extremely popular with women across the country — slightly surprising considering how being whipped and spanked is not everyone’s cup of tea. I have not read 50 Shades myself yet, but I’ve read numerous other BDSM novels, short stories, and  true-life tales, and I’ve been in consensual submissive/dominant relationships since the age 18 or 19. So I can say with 110 percent confidence that he does not know what he is talking about and Dr. Drew actually did a huge disservice to women and men when he called the book “actual violence against women.” Keep reading »

First Time For Everything: Being A Dominatrix

Niki DraytonFebruary 2, 2012 //
Kinky, But Not Easy
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On Sex Work & Feminism
Actress Billie Piper talks about sex work and feminism. Read More »

Yes, I was nervous, but mostly I was excited. It was my first day as Mistress Darkness, a professional dominatrix. As a black graduate student in her 20s who had previously held down employment as a gym teacher and library assistant, I surprised myself when I answered  the ad on Craigslist. I needed a flexible, part-time job to supplement my graduate assistantship stipend and the $65-$85/hr compensation sounded like easy money. I had always been intrigued by the sex industry, but the thought of being a sex worker clashed with my feminist ideals. I decided to make an exception for this dominatrix listing, which seemed different to me with its strict “no sex or nudity” policy. Keep reading »

Keira Knightley Wouldn’t Let Michael Fassbender Spank Her

Jessica WakemanNovember 10, 2011 //
Getting Spanked
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“I actually said to him before we shot the spanking scenes, ‘If you touch me I will kill you’ and he did remind me that I was tied to a bed at the time and really I shouldn’t be making any threats. … [those scenes] weren’t particularly easy.” 

 — Keira Knightley, idiot girl, didn’t want to be spanked by my boyfriend Michael Fassbender during their sex scenes for “A Dangerous Method.” It turns out that the spanking scenes in the movie — in which Fassbender plays Carl Jung and Knightley plays a client of his with a BDSM fetish — are totally faked.  Idiot, idiot, idiot, idiot girl. I would have happily been your sexy stunt double! [Mirror UK]

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Dominatrix Suspended From New York Attorney General’s Office

Jessica WakemanSeptember 20, 2011 //

Lawyers in the New York Attorney General’s office are used to cracking down on bad boys. But in Alisha Smith’s case, bad boys may have been paying her top dollar for a public spanking from “Alisha Spark,” her dominatrix alter ego. There are also allegedly photographs of “Alisha Spark” on the internet posing in skintight, latex fetish gear. According to an investigation by The New York Post, the 36-year-old Manhattan lawyer performs at BDSM events for pay — which has caused the AG’s office to suspend her from her job. A source told the Post her employers are concerned she may have been paid for doing this sex work — not just because it could be potentially embarrassing to her employers but because workers are supposed to get approval for any outside work for which they would earn over $1K. Even, uh, kinky work. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: On Calling A Man “Daddy” In Bed

adminSeptember 20, 2011 //
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He liked to talk in bed — a lot, and always dirty — and, as part of his rhetorical repertoire, he liked to tell me about other women he’d been with while he was getting me off. He’d whisper in my ear about how this one went down on him while he told her what a whore she was, or how that one responded when he called her a slut while she was on her knees in front of him. When I told him he wasn’t allowed to call other women by my name — “slut” — anymore, he kissed me so hard I couldn’t breathe and nailed me until I couldn’t see straight. Keep reading »

Crystal Renn Is Into Bondage

Jessica WakemanMay 8, 2011 //

There is a magazine out there called Tush. That is the first important piece of business I would like to note. Also, model Crystal Renn looks surprised to be in a leather collar/leash type of thing, as photographed by Ellen Von Unwerth. Maybe she needs some S&M tips from Rihanna? [NYMag.com] Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: “In The Bedroom, Inequality Beats Equality”

Jessica WakemanApril 11, 2011 //
  • “Men are aroused by being dominant and by submissive women, women are aroused by being submissive and by dominant men,” writes Ogi Ogas, Ph.D. in Psychology Today. “In the bedroom, inequality beats equality.” Those broad sweeping statements are fighting words, PT! Speaking strictly for myself, I agree with Ogi. But I wonder if other folks find this blanket statement about bedroom dynamics to ring true. Read the blog post and let me know in the comments. [Psychology Today]
  • Indiana lawmakers are toiling away at anti-abortion legislation which would require women to be told in writing that abortion could increase their chances of infertility and breast cancer, despite the fact that is medically false. Here, read the National Cancer Institute article about how the abortion/breast cancer link does not exist. And lawmakers are trying to legislate that scare tactic? SERIOUSLY, people?! [IndyStar.com]
  • A transgender woman named Brittany Novotny was elected president of Young Democrats of Oklahoma this weekend. Last year, Brittany challenged a homophobic politician for a seat in the state’s House of Representatives. Although Brittany didn’t win the election, she did win almost 35 percent of the vote. [Advocate]
  • Anyone else think far too much of “Saturday Night Live” this weekend was about Helen Mirren’s hot body? [TV Squad]

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Rihanna Loves A Good Spanking

Jessica WakemanMarch 30, 2011 //
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“Being submissive in the bedroom is really fun. You get to be a little lady, to have somebody be macho and in charge of your s**t. That’s fun to me … I like to be spanked. Being tied up is fun. I like to keep it spontaneous. Sometimes whips and chains can be overly planned — you gotta stop, get the whip from the drawer downstairs. I’d rather have him use his hands.”

— Rihanna may sing in “S&M” that “chains and whips excite me,” but IRL the girl just loves a good old-fashioned spanking. Hawt. [Rolling Stone] Keep reading »

Rihanna Spanks Perez Hilton In Her New Video For “S&M”

Jessica WakemanFebruary 1, 2011 //


You don’t have to love S&M to love Rihanna‘s new music video for “S&M,” but it certainly helps! The pop princess’ ode to bondage, dominance and sadomasochism features bondage gear, pink latex, ball gags, and leather switches, and stars gossip blogger Perez Hilton lead around on a leash. (And yes, the fact that Perez Hilton gets a spanking in a video that arouses me is making my head explode.) The costumes, hair and makeup in “S&M” are incredible and it’s by far the sexiest “sexy” music video Rihanna’s ever put out. Obviously, Amelia wants me to get nothing accomplished for the rest of the day, so I’ll just … hit replay … and be .. right … back …. [Vevo via Popdust] Keep reading »

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