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A Professional Dominant On Navigating Consent & Respecting Boundaries In BDSM

Recently, I’ve been talking to people in the BDSM community about the sexual assault allegations made against porn star James Deen by a dozen women late last year, and noticed that a number of the men I spoke with had a look of nervousness flash across their face when the subject came up. So, I started… More »


Why Would Anyone Go To “Extreme” Haunted Houses?

I am not averse to horror, but riddle me this: Why is our culture all right with “extreme” haunted houses like McKamey Manor and Blackout, where you sign yourself into letting complete strangers rough you up, bind you, gag you, strip you, and force-feed you for upwards of four hours, whenMore »


S&M 101: Get Schooled By France’s Most Famous Dominatrix

A night with Catherine Robe-Grillet, France’s 85-year-old dominatrix. More »


WWJDD: “Is It Normal To Sign An NDA Before Having BDSM Sex?”

Blame “Fifty Shades of Grey.” For everything. More »


WWJDD: “What’s The Right Way To Dominate My Man?”

He likes to be topped and she’s down to make him her bitch, but, like, HOW? James Deen has advice for dominating your man. More »


True Story: I Attended A Luxury BDSM Weekend

Queue my domme spirit quest. More »


WWJDD: “My Husband Wants To Come On My Face, But I’m Not Into It”

Her husband is obsessed with coming on her face, but she doesn’t get the appeal. Is there something she’s missing? James Deen, who’s given quite a few facials himself, weighs in! More »


WWJDD: “How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Dominate Me In Bed?”

Think of this as an opportunity to tailor-make your own sexual fantasy… More »


A Woman Will Be On The Ten-Dollar Bill

The U.S. Department of the Treasury announced that a woman will be featured on ten dollar bills in the near future; also, Hillary Clinton is putting paid apprenticeships for young people on her campaign agenda. More »


Re-Learning To Say No: Life As A (Formerly Depressed) Cautious Hedonist

I lost my early 20s to depression. The most fun I had during that time was not wearing pants while frying bacon. I went from being a successful event promoter to being a shut in who only left the house for food and books. If you’re wondering how to put on 90lbs in under three… More »


BDSM, Cuckholding & A Spunky Take On Hot Potato: Where Do You Draw The Line Between Kinky And Just Plain Nasty?

Say what?! More »


5 Essential (And Naughty!) BDSM Tips For Beginners

When I first became interested in sex, or sex with people other than myself I should say, I was immediately turned on by the world of BDSM, albeit, at an early age. There was something illicit and natural about the kinkiness that it didn’t take much for me to warm up to it. Back then,… More »


“Fifty Shades” Has Turned Into A Real-Life Sexual Assault

The kink community’s warnings about “Fifty Shades of Grey”’s poor demonstration of what consent looks like in BDSM has turned out not to just be paranoid speculation: A student at the University of Illinois at Chicago, Mohammad Hossain, has been charged with sexual assault following an incident in which he claimed to be “re-enacting scenes… More »


Pat Robertson: Women’s “Fifty Shades” Boiling-Oil Fantasies Are Promoting Sex Trafficking

Over the weekend, “The 700 Club” played a clip of an interview with Christian anti-sex trafficking activist Benjamin Nolot, speaking at Pat Robertson’s Regent University, who claimed that “Fifty Shades of Grey” is promoting sex trafficking. I’m not sure he’s seen the movie or read the book, because all it really promotes is neurotoxicity, but… More »


PornHub Has “Fifty Shades” To Thank For Increased BDSM Searches

Pornhub has proven definitively that consumption of “Fifty Shades of Grey” translates to real-life curiosity about BDSM, with a new sets of infographics on search terms immediately following the movie’s release last week. Shocker: A lot more people are searching for BDSM and BDSM-related terms than usual.

It’s women, in particular, who are… More »


Hillary Clinton Is Having Brainstorming Sessions With Elizabeth Warren

Hillary Clinton met with Elizabeth Warren to brainstorm policy in December. [New York Times]
A new strain of HIV has been identified in Cuba. [MSN]
Women scientists in Nigeria are killing it. [NPR]
Sexual harassment at work has only become more complicated with the advent of social media. [Cosmopolitan]
Science… More »


50 Shits Of Crap: A Professional Dominant Excoriates The Worst Movie Of All Time

I knew that I was going to have to watch “Fifty Shades of Grey” eventually, it was just an issue of watching in a way that would be, you know, tolerable. And it occurred to me pretty quickly last week: One of my very best friends in the world is a veteran professional and recreational… More »


Frisky Q&A: Joanna Angel Talks About The Evolution Of BDSM, Safe Words & Her New Sex Toy Line

Joanna Angel is the queen of alt pornography. With hot pink streaks through her raven hair and a petite frame adorned with colorful tattoos, the Brooklyn native “punk princess” of porn created her production company, Burning Angel, shortly after graduating from Rutgers University with degrees in literature and film. This time of year, Joanna is… More »


Congressional Staffers Walked Out Of Their Jobs On Thursday To Protest Police Killings

Black and Hispanic congressional staffers on Capitol Hill walked out of their jobs to protest police killings yesterday. [The Root]
The median net worth of White households in America is THIRTEEN TIMES that of Black households. Are we still denying systemic racism? [New York Times]
Shonda Rhimes wants Sony to admit that… More »


The UK’s BDSM Ban In Porn And Cultural Condescension

UK’s Parliament has gone off the deep end with sexual regulation by amending their 2003 Communications Act to ban certain sexual acts in video-on-demand porn produced in the UK. The acts included are:

Spanking
Caning
Aggressive whipping … More »


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