When I look back at all the relationships that didn’t work out (that I so wanted to at the time), I realize that in every case, there were early warning signs that each guy gave me that could have given me some idea of the heartbreak I was about to experience if I had only been aware of what to look for. To spare you from what happened to me, to give you the inside scoop on what you can be on the lookout for, here’s my list of the warning signs that clearly let you know that this is a guy to avoid if it’s a real relationship you’re looking for.
1. He doesn’t call you when he says he’s going to. Granted, I know that sometimes life can get it the way, and if he’s working late on that big project with the looming deadline it’s possible that time might get away from him once in a while. But if this happens more than once or twice, it’s a sure sign that you’re just not a priority for him right now. If a guy is really interested in starting (or continuing) a real relationship with you, you will be on his mind, and he won’t forget to call.
2. He’s often late and doesn’t call to let you know. I know there are lots of reasons people can run late that are beyond their control (traffic jam, car problems, being stuck at the office), but a quick call from his cell phone will put your mind at ease, and let you know that you have a few more minutes to try on that one other outfit you were still considering. The point here is about being respectful of your time – we can forgive lateness, even chronic lateness (some people just aren’t good at judging how much time something will take), but not calling to let you know he’ll be a little late? That’s inexcusable and a sure sign that he’s not too concerned about you. Read more…
It seemed like such a good idea at the time. All Clyde Gardner had to do was kill a bear, skin it, and wear the bear skin and claws to attack his ex-girlfriend. That way, no one would be able to track her murder back to him. And yet! Somehow this foolproof plan — ripped right outta the plot of “The Wicker Man” — went horribly awry. Shocking! Eventually Gardner realized that the whole killing and skinning a bear thing might actually be kind of hard work — even though he lived in rural Malone, NY, where one might reasonably encounter a bear or two if one was really trying. So Gardner got lazy and hired a hit man.
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We’re all for giving a dude a chance. Once you get past a certain age, you realize that there are no perfect men out there. You’re going to have to be more “accepting” if you don’t intend to be single forever. Sometimes the most princely men are the ones we wouldn’t normally go for or whose foibles are easy to get used to with a little paradigm shifting. Do it — throw out your list, be open-minded, look for a feeling and not for a set of qualities. With that being said, there are certain kinds of guys that should be avoided on your dating journey. Click through to see the 10 types of guys that we advise you to steer clear of. Good luck and may the force be with you.
You can tell a lot about a man by how he acts in a strip club. Does he treat it like a consequence-free environment, or does he act like the same person he is outside? So many of my coworkers at the club make no personal use of all their professional experiences observing and interacting with different types of men. In fact, I know they’re ignoring this inside knowledge, because I hear at least one screaming fight on a cell phone a night in the dressing room. Some of us are thinking, “Girl, when he made you pay for two dates in a row, you should’ve known,” or “That man is a serial stripper dater — what were you thinking?” Bad boyfriends reveal themselves pretty readily whether they’re on dates or in the club, and I’m here to connect the dots, so you don’t have to waste your time. Obviously, not all men frequent strip clubs, but all types of men do. After the jump, five archetypal bad boyfriends and their warning signs, in the club and out. Keep reading »