The “toxic bachelor.” It was a term we’d never really heard of until a 33-year-old male friend, fresh off a breakup, mentioned it. “I want to settle down,” he said. “I want to start a family. Plus, I’m getting to that age where if I don’t do it soon, I’m in danger of becoming a ‘toxic bachelor.’” A toxic bachelor, he explained, is when it’s no longer cute to be single, and seems sad and desperate instead. For this particular friend, his “toxic bachelor” age was 35, and we wanted to know if other men felt any kind of desperate pull to settle down. So we asked them. Over IM.
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You can learn a lot from Cosmopolitan‘s “50 States, 50 Bachelors” expose. For example, these guys have a startling number of things to say about what a woman should and shouldn’t outfit herself in. Want proof? Check out all the advice they have to give about what a woman should wear to turn them on. That’s a lot of perfectly sculpted abs telling us how we should dress! Because these guys know what you should wear (also, maybe this was just an excuse to post a bunch of hot dudes, whatever).
Pictured here, South Carolina’s Casey Pratt, who wants to see you in anything “purple or lime green.” So, will a California Raisins costume do?
After the jump, we’ve compiled a list of Cosmopolitan‘s 2010 Bachelors’ sartorial advice. Keep reading »
Hugh Hefner: I think there is no single answer, no single road to Mecca. I have been married twice, and those were not the happiest times of my life. Part of the problem, quite frankly, is that when you get married, the romance disappears and the children arrive and the love is transferred. It shouldn’t be that way, but too often it is transferred to the children.
New York Times: There is more to life than being adored. There are other rewards to marriage.
Hefner:Unfortunately, they come from other women.
Stand-up comedian and author Aaron Karo rose to fame as a college freshman at the University of Pennsylvania, where he began writing down what he called “Ruminations,” small observations about the universal truths of college: the dorm rooms, the friends, the food, the classes, the beer pong … and the women. (A sample “rumination” from September 2000: “You know what a great moment in college life is? Those two seconds. The two seconds when you first wake up at 3 p.m. after a hard night of partying. Because in those first two seconds you haven’t yet remembered that last night you threw up on your floor, punched a cop, and hooked up with an ugly chick. Savor those two seconds as best you can.”) One email to his close friends was forwarded to their friends, and to their friends. What started as a funny late-night email grew to an email newsletter, which grew to a stand-up comedy career, which grew to three published books. Keep reading »
Jennifer Aniston has had many a studly star — Tate Donovan, Brad Pitt, Orlando Bloom, and Vince Vaughn, just to name a few. While every girl gets the breakup blues, we all know you have to get right back up on the horse and ride — and by horse we mean a new Hollywood hottie. So, now that Jennifer and John Mayer are over, we’re wondering who is a girl to do? We decided to explore her options…
Being a life-long bachelor has its obvious perks, but now it’s also as healthy a lifestyle as being married — arguably even healthier. Back in 1973, a Michigan State University sociologist started surveying men, single, widowed, and betrothed, about their health without giving them medical examinations. Since then, Dr. Hui Liu has interviewed over a million men from 25 to 80. At first, his research seemed to conclude that married men were in the best shape. But over the years, as they asked each demographic how they felt, the gap began to narrow between those who were married and those who were single. Keep reading »
So I haven’t been watching The Bachelorette all season, which may come as a surprise, but the truth is, I never find The Bachelorette as entertaining as The Bach because the men are never up to my attractiveness standards (which are high for reality TV) and I find it far more mortifying to see a bunch of dudes act like mealy mouthed wimps than to see a bunch of archaic women act like cave girls. Don’t ask me why. But I have been getting harrassed by my coworker Kim and my friend Lesley for not watching this season of The Bachelorette, which they both claim is, like, the best ever. So I kicked my man-friend into the bedroom last night and settled in with a bottle of wine and serious doubts to watch the second to last episode of the show, plus “The Men Tell All” special. And lo and behold, I totally ended up kicking myself for not tuning in sooner. My latent thoughts, after the jump… Keep reading »
The first Bachelorette‘s pick, Ryan Sutter, has written a blog for Momlogic called 10 Things You Donâ€™t Know About Dads. After reading the list, one stood out as something weâ€™d rather not know: â€œ#1 – Even when youâ€™re about to breast feed, we get turned on because weâ€™re guys and we just see boobs.â€ Whoa, man. TMI! Whatâ€™s a lady supposed to say? â€œWell, when our baby frees up the boob itâ€™s all yours, daddy?â€ Although, everyone knows itâ€™s hard to grow together as a couple over the years and keep things fresh and sexy when you have kids — especially if you met your spouse on television. So, for still feeling your wifeâ€™s sex appeal, Ryan, the women of the world salute you. But every bright side has its darkâ€¦and with breast feeding being a turn-on, the reality dating show star has truly created yet another not so classic case of â€œdamned if you do, damned if you donâ€™t.â€ [Us Magazine] Keep reading »