One of the things I’ve been thinking about during this drinking/dating/sex sabbatical of mine is how you know you actually like someone. I’ve come to realize that in addition to being an extreme emotions junkie, I’m what Dr. Drew might call a “love-a-holic.” A motivating factor in my desire to sleep with someone is for that amazing but temporary feeling of love and desire and wholeness that washes over me when I’m in bed with them. I lovvvvve the feeling of being in love, feeling love, having a crush, etc. Looking back, I’ve felt love for people that I barely know, let alone know well enough to deduce if I actually like them. So, in the last 20 days of being sober and date/sex-free, I’ve felt the feelings of liking someone hit me and instead of obsessing over them and rolling around in that feeling of like, I’ve tried to think about why I have that feeling. Keep reading »
What I’m about to say isn’t going to make you love me. It isn’t PC, and it certainly wouldn’t get high marks from the judges in a beauty pageant question and answer round. It is shallow, and a thing that none of us are supposed to say. But it is also honest:
Looks matter to me. Sometimes a lot. Keep reading »
Here’s the scenario: you meet a new guy and within the first 10 seconds you know whether you’re attracted to each other or not. Happens all the time, right? But what you may not realize is that within those first ten seconds, the guy is spending half that time checking out a specific feature of yours. Think you know what it is? Find out if you’re right after the jump. Keep reading »
In our relationship study of the day, researchers from University of Newcastle, Australia have discovered that attractiveness is all in the tilt of a head. OK, maybe it’s not all in the tilt of a head, but research indicates that women and men can make themselves more attractive to the opposite sex by angling their face a certain way. In the study, participants were shown “computer-generated, three-dimensional models of male and female faces” and were asked to rate each for attractiveness, masculinity and femininity as they were “tilted up and down in five different positions.” Keep reading »
Attraction is complicated – it’s about his personality, how he smiles, how he moves, and so much more. But in that first initial encounter it’s all about the face, right? Well, this may come as the no-duh news of the week, but for dudes it depends. A recent psychology study out of the University of Texas shows both men and women consider the face the most important indicator of attraction when it comes to long-term relationships, but when it comes to one-night stands, men are more interested in a woman’s body. Keep reading »
A new study shows that dudes only need a millisecond to determine if they want a woman as a potential mate. Translation: they know if they want to sleep with you before you even open your mouth. The study mapped the brain waves of 20 men and women when shown the faces of potential partners of the opposite sex, ranging from ugly to very attractive. The results? The men were very easily distracted by pics of beautiful women and made snap judgments within a millisecond of seeing her face. Shocker! But scientists say that the results shouldn’t make us think of men as shallow. This is merely an ancient evolutionary reflex of their lizard brains to help them produce lots of children. A pretty face is, after all, a sign of fertility. Women, on the other hand, proved to be undeterred by the pics of hot men. Why? Because we are looking for other things in a mate like reliability, personality, and ability to commit. Yet another study that proves that men and women are evolutionarily incompatible. [Daily Mail] Keep reading »
Creeeeeepy. The online dating site OKCupid just sent an email informing me in the subject line, “we have data on your attractiveness.” Data? Really? So, of course I clicked on it and their email told me that based on a three-year-old photo (many pounds and a haircut ago) of me that I used on my profile, I’ve been deemed attractive enough to be recommended to date other attractive people on the site. This is apparently an “elite status” and an “important privilege.”
Funny, because this photo never got me laid, not even once. Keep reading »
Yesterday, a guy friend of mine was telling me about a dude he knows who I might want to do a story on. He said the guy’s name was Hunter and gave me some other interesting tidbits about him, to which I replied, “He sounds hot!” My friend didn’t get how I had deduced that this guy would be good-looking based on so little info and without seeing a pic.
“His name,” I said. “Ninety percent of guys named Hunter are hot.” Keep reading »
Get ready to eat, drink, and age naturally because two new studies show that old and fat are in vogue during times of economic hardship. Well, not exactly “old” but “mature” and not exactly fat but “taller and heavier.” The two studies, one using American movie actresses from 1932 to 1995, the other surveying Playboy Playmates from 1960 to 2000, found that beauty icons tend to be slightly taller, heavier, and more mature-looking with larger waists and less babyish facial features when money is tight. Why? Biologically baby-faced features are associated with neediness and small waists and big hips with fertility, while women with smaller eyes, larger chins and bigger bodies tend to be more independent and stronger emotionally. The theory is that when times get tough, it might be better to shack up with a woman who is a survivor rather than someone who looks hungry. Keep reading »
What’s your type? Tall, dark and handsome, with a good sense of humor? Yeah, right.
According to a new poll, women may say that’s what they want, but what they really get hot for is a slightly chunky, hairy guy with a propensity to cry during movies. Or so 2,500 women told one polling firm. The data collected by OnePoll.com found that “a little stubble” is women’s number one turn-on, followed by a “geeky” personality and a hairy chest. (Gray hair and crying during movies were also among the secret peccadilloes.) Women also admitted to preferring a dude who is soft and cuddly versus one who is totally ripped.
Is your unconventional type in the list? Read more … Keep reading »