Earlier this week, a friend of mine sent me an article by Mark Manson titled “Fuck Yes or No,” with a simple directive: “Read this.” Since it had the word ‘fuck’ in it, I was obviously sold, considering the F-bomb has been my favorite word since I was old enough to pronounce consonants.
The piece describes the all-too-common “grey area” of dating, where “feelings are ambiguous or one person has stronger feelings than the other.” We’ve all been there (and I can admit when I’m guilty). But according to Manson, if you’re in the grey area to begin with, you’ve already lost. To help assure you that you’re entering into an equally beneficial and enthusiastic partnership, Manson says you should apply “The Law Of Fuck Yes Or No” (TLOFYON) to each and every romantic situation. Keep reading »
I’m 28, and have never have a boyfriend, and I do not find attraction in other people. I won’t say that I *can’t* find attraction in people, because there have been a handful of guys that I’ve fallen head-over-heels for, but of course, those endeavors have never amounted to anything. I get crushes maybe once every three years. Even though I date regularly, it is very rare for me to have “butterflies.” I don’t think of myself has having a wall up, or being too picky, or being “unworthy of love” or any of that. It doesn’t matter how “perfect” the guy is; we’ll date, and we’ll get along great, and I’ll like hanging out with him, but when he goes in for a kiss, I just can’t bring myself to kiss him because I just *don’t want to.* I see all of my friends having relationship after relationship, and finding genuine attraction in the people they date all the time, and here I am unable to feel the slightest attraction toward anyone. Is this weird, or am I just overthinking it? And yes, I’ve explored the possibility that I might be gay, in case that matters. No luck there, either.
It’s hard to give you my opinion because there’s so much I don’t know about you. Do you live in a city, where you see lots of new people all the time? Or do you live in the suburbs where you never meet anyone new? Have you lived in the same place for a long time? Or do you constantly travel? Keep reading »
Attention, guys. Being a good dancer
is all in the neck and the right knee, says a new study done at Northumbria University. Researchers used 3D cameras to film 19 guys between the ages of 18 and 35 dancing. The dudes’ moves were then turned into animated avatars and shown to 35 straight women to rate on a scale of one to 10.
The female participants found men who made big movements with the neck and trunk, the wrist and left shoulder, and fast movements with the right knee, to be the best dancers. Why these particular moves? Well aside from making simply making a man look slick bumping and grinding in the club, scientist say there’s a biological component. The “good” dance moves just so happen to be signals of male fertility. Because we’re all just animals looking to propagate the species. Keep reading »
Crushes don’t happen right away, they evolve over time. Here are the 16 stages you’ll go through before finding true love (or at least something like it for the time being). Keep reading »
Anyone who has ever been unpopular, which we’re thinking is approximately all of you, knows how unfair the system can seem — it’s all about looks and money and some indefinable coolness that some lucky bastards are just born with. Well, we have good news and bad news.
The good news is that there are some unexpected shortcuts that can make a person popular, which maybe isn’t surprising, since the human brain works in some pretty freaky ways. The bad news is that they’re just as stupid and arbitrary as the ones you already knew. Read more…
Ladies, if you’ve ever wondered why you’re always heading home from the bar alone, the answer could be depressingly simple: you are too intelligent and alert. Slate.com has a really fascinating piece about an article soon to be published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior about “sexual exploitability,” or how the male of the species chooses to pursue a female of the species who seems most sexually susceptible. Or, put it in English, they wanted to find out how men figure out with whom they can score.
You should read the entire piece yourself for the full explanation, because it’s complicated and long-winded. But the bare bones version is men were studied as they responded to a bunch of qualities in potential long-term and short-term mates. And interestingly enough, pictures of women looking sleepy or intoxicated, as well as stupid or immature-seeming, were seen as the most easy lays and most attractive. Keep reading »