Anyone who has ever been unpopular, which we’re thinking is approximately all of you, knows how unfair the system can seem — it’s all about looks and money and some indefinable coolness that some lucky bastards are just born with. Well, we have good news and bad news.
The good news is that there are some unexpected shortcuts that can make a person popular, which maybe isn’t surprising, since the human brain works in some pretty freaky ways. The bad news is that they’re just as stupid and arbitrary as the ones you already knew. Read more…
Ladies, if you’ve ever wondered why you’re always heading home from the bar alone, the answer could be depressingly simple: you are too intelligent and alert. Slate.com has a really fascinating piece about an article soon to be published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior about “sexual exploitability,” or how the male of the species chooses to pursue a female of the species who seems most sexually susceptible. Or, put it in English, they wanted to find out how men figure out with whom they can score.
You should read the entire piece yourself for the full explanation, because it’s complicated and long-winded. But the bare bones version is men were studied as they responded to a bunch of qualities in potential long-term and short-term mates. And interestingly enough, pictures of women looking sleepy or intoxicated, as well as stupid or immature-seeming, were seen as the most easy lays and most attractive. Keep reading »
Seriously, I wish someone would have taught me about the six types of attraction way earlier in my life. Like when I was nine. So I would have known the difference between my Squishes and my Crushes. It would have saved me so much trouble. I think I am going to start referring to all my friends Squishes. [Transgender Student Life]
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Lez-be-honest, you know it’s true: over half of all women are attracted to other gals, according to a study at Boise State University of Idaho.
In a poll given to 484 students of varying sexual orientations, 60 percent of the female participants claimed “some level of attraction to other women,” 45 percent had kissed another woman, and 50 percent had fantasized about another woman. This study provides another example of the fluidity of sexuality, rightfully showing its complexity extends beyond a “do you like penis or vagina?” duality. Yet kissing other women, especially in a college/party environment, has been famously glorified by Katy Perry and others, and in some (some!) cases is done to incite attention or pleasure from male onlookers. Likewise, what does attraction mean? Possibilities include everything from the enjoyment of pornography to the appreciation of another woman’s physique or style. (I don’t make these points to contest the study’s results, only to highlight the subjectivity of the findings.) Keep reading »
Fact: women are too often judged solely on their appearance, and treated differently based on how they measure up to men’s ideas of what they should look like. This much is obvious, and I’m sure the majority of us here applaud the women who stood up and continue to stand up to this offensive treatment that reduces women to just one aspect of who they are, while ignoring their many other strengths. But—there had to be a “but”—women should acknowledge that they often do the same thing to men—not based on looks as much as on our jobs, careers, and success. Keep reading »
This might surprise you, but I didn’t find out until recently that most women do not feel the same way as me when it comes to loving vertically challenged men. When most women find out about my preference for smooching shorties, it’s usually met with crinkled noses and “I could never” or “gross” or the occasional “oh, hell no!” I smile and say, “Great! That leaves more short guys for me.” And they look at me like I just recited one of Hitler’s speeches in German. Keep reading »
A new study done at the University of British Columbia may explain our penchant for bad boys. No, it’s not because they treat us like crap. Phew, that theory has always really irked me. It’s all in their smile, or rather, lack thereof. Researchers found that women ranked images of men “brooding” far more sexually attractive than images of men “smiling.” Ah, but here’s the rub; men found images of women who were smiling more attractive than those who were brooding. Men and women have opposite sexual responses to smiling. Isn’t that fascinating? And so easy to fix for all parties involved. Guys (especially the nice ones) should smile less, girls (especially the serious ones) should smile more, and then we will all live happily ever after in a Utopian lovefest. Sounds plausible, right? [Daily Mail UK] Keep reading »
Forget about your outfit, your makeup, or your breasts. A new survey done by Pantene found that dudes are pretty much obsessed with our hair. About three-fourths of men said they notice a woman because of her locks. In fact, most men notice hair before our clothes, our legs, our makeup, or our breasts. Yup, most men would approach a girl with hot hair over a girl with hot cleave and about 60 percent of men said they prefer nice hair over a nice rack when it comes to choosing a girlfriend. Gosh, I find this so hard to believe, but that’s what the survey says. Well, girls, I guess we’d better load up on those Pantene products for healthy, shiny hair. That’s the whole point of this survey, right? To motivate us to buy Pantene. The only thing that would actually motivate me to buy Pantene is Stacy London’s commercial. She’s so cool. [Glamour
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One of the things I’ve been thinking about during this drinking/dating/sex sabbatical of mine is how you know you actually like someone. I’ve come to realize that in addition to being an extreme emotions junkie, I’m what Dr. Drew might call a “love-a-holic.” A motivating factor in my desire to sleep with someone is for that amazing but temporary feeling of love and desire and wholeness that washes over me when I’m in bed with them. I lovvvvve the feeling of being in love, feeling love, having a crush, etc. Looking back, I’ve felt love for people that I barely know, let alone know well enough to deduce if I actually like them. So, in the last 20 days of being sober and date/sex-free, I’ve felt the feelings of liking someone hit me and instead of obsessing over them and rolling around in that feeling of like, I’ve tried to think about why I have that feeling. Keep reading »
What I’m about to say isn’t going to make you love me. It isn’t PC, and it certainly wouldn’t get high marks from the judges in a beauty pageant question and answer round. It is shallow, and a thing that none of us are supposed to say. But it is also honest:
Looks matter to me. Sometimes a lot. Keep reading »