I have been emailing and talking on the phone with a man across the county who I met through a group online. His birthday is 9/10. I was born on 11/15. We get along great, enjoy the same things and I’ve developed very warm feelings for him. He says he looks forward to meeting me, as we are both traveling to meet with other members in our group next year. But I sometimes get mixed messages from him, which makes me sad, since we have been communicating for six months everyday. Then he will call me, even if I don’t call him. Do you see a romance developing? —A Drowning Water Sign

My dilemma involves a man whom I’m extremely attracted to, but very ambivalent about romantically. We’re known each other for over a year and things either seem to move at a snail’s pace or just come to a screeching halt entirely. The last time we were in the same vicinity was sometime in October. He called me at 3am under the guise of being too drunk to drive. Being the kind soul that I am, I picked him up and let him crash at my place. I felt nervous and awkward, but my altruistic side won out. He apologized for his antics, swore up and down that he didn’t blame me for hating him, etc. Naturally, this fueled my frustration and I may have ripped into him a little about his actions towards me. We fooled around, but no intercourse occurred. This is the second time he’s stoked my fire just enough, but not enough to go all the way. I feel cautious because it feels like he is hiding something, but I can’t put my finger on what. I want to believe that he cares, but his broken words leave me doubting. It feels like I should walk away, but very time I seem to get to that point is when he happens to show up again. I don’t know whether this is one to walk away from or try to make a go at it. I don’t know if my head or my heart or both are right in this situation. My DOB is March 10, 1984 (birth time 5:30 pm Nassau, Bahamas) and his DOB is 12/4/1980.—When To Walk Away?

“My boyfriend wants to start swinging. He says it has been something he’s wanted to do for a long time. It has nothing to do with being bored with our sex life, but he feels it could add a new dimension to the way we have sex and love each other. I trust him and I feel that it’s great he can be open about his sexual fantasies with me, but I don’t want to do it. I’m a Capricorn; he’s an Aquarius. I think with diseases out there, it sounds unsafe. He won’t do it without me, but I know he’ll be upset if I didn’t say yes. How can we both be happy?” —At A Standstill

“I am so confused, lost and upset. I just found a stash of gay porn in my fiancé‘s car trunk. We are set to get married in December this year. What should I do? How do I confront him? I’m a Libra and you know we hate fighting. Anyway, I don’t suspect my Gemini boyfriend could be gay, but who knows.”—Dating A Dandy?