I am the definition of a Scorpio. I am passionate and extremely intense in everything I do, but I am always aware of other people and their emotions—yet, I’VE NEVER DATED IN MY LIFE. I go out a lot and a lot of my friends are in relationships. Everyone has got a person to lean on, always the not so nice girls that got the bitch title have a guy. Even though their personality is not very kind, the guys they have are too good for them—and everyone wonders why I cannot get one. They say I’m nice, they say I can be cute, but I don’t have anyone to hug and cuddle with. In fall, I’m starting college as a freshman. Since I’m starting a new chapter in my life I want to have someone. My question is what are my chances of finally getting a taste of the love bug? Do you have any advice for a certain sign for me to look for? Just what are the stars saying and is there any astro advice? – K.
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I’m a Taurus and he’s a Scorpio. We used to date a while ago and he quickly became my best friend as well, but it was my first real relationship and he moved way too fast for me emotionally. So we broke up. Then last year, when I was going through a hard time and despite all the time that had passed, he was the only one I wanted to talk it through with. So I reconnected with him and ended up telling him how much I really missed him — but, I knew I wasn’t ready for a relationship at that particular time and I told him that, but he asked me out again anyway. I told him to just give me some time and he said he would, but apparently he took it as a kiss off because before I had had enough time he was dating someone new. Since then we have sporadically been keeping in touch, but now my situation has changed and we might be seeing a lot more of each other. I decided that if I got the chance to be with him again I would take it, ready or not. Although, right now he is involved (with yet another girl) and I dunno if I should push the subject now or wait it out. I’ve tried to move on, but every time I see the way he looks at me, it gives me hope and I just want to know whether or not there is a chance? – Hopeful
Up until a few months ago, I thought it was fine and that this guy I’ve been seeing liked me a lot, but it’s clear he doesn’t. I’ve listened to his awful stories about how he suffered child abuse, stuff about his mom, his depression, his asexuality and all this horrible stuff he went through. I think I’ve been very sympathetic and encouraging towards him, but all the while he’s been going to strip clubs and on every dating site he can find, like he’s hoping he’ll find somebody better. I didn’t say anything, but my feelings were hurt.
Then he told me on scale of 1 to 10, I’m a 4.5 to 5.5 and that while he usually dates girls in the 4 to 6 range, he aims for the 6, which I thought was really mean and after that I kind of went psycho and started telling him every thing I’ve been holding in for the last year and a half. I got really mean and awful. I know it wasn’t smart, but I couldn’t help it. Now he won’t even talk to me at all and I go from being really angry to being really depressed and wanting him to pay attention to me again. Anyway, I don’t know if I should just give up on him altogether or if I should try being nice all over again? I’m pretty sure he’s going to tell me he doesn’t want anything to do with me. I’m a Pisces. He’s a Sagittarius. – Torn
My best friend and I live on opposite ends of the country. A year and a half ago we admitted there were intense feelings between us that we wanted to explore in the future. We decided that we could still see other people, but essentially promised each other that something would blossom between us at some point. Just as we were deciding this, I met a man that I’d eventually move in with after a short time. My best friend knew about the guy, but when I told him I had decided to move in with this guy he, rightfully so, was heartbroken. After some time I realized that this new guy was not right for me and broke things off with him. Thankfully, my best friend, a Virgo, understands my intense impulsiveness, as a Sagittarius, and has subsequently forgiven me for putting him through an emotional roller coaster, as we both came out alive.
My guy’s birthday is 9/16 and mine is 6/23. We dated for five months when he was living in my town for work. He asked me to move with him to his town and I agreed. Shortly after moving, he became distant. After a year, he broke up with me and I moved back to my hometown. Five months later, we began to see each other on occasion and I’d spend nights. Everything was wonderful, as it was in the beginning. Last month, I saw a profile he had online, which said, “…not looking for a bulls**t partner for life.” I was devastated. I thought we were working on building a new foundation. He said he felt used and that there were things in me that he didn’t want to be around for the rest of his life. This is the first time he has said anything about our breakup. Yes, he is right, I am emotionally insecure at times, but also very loving. I miss him so much and have apologized for my mistakes. He said he was done. Do you see us getting back together? How and when should I approach him again? – Lost in Michigan
I’m a Gemini who has been in a rocky relationship with a Sagittarius for almost three years. We dated exclusively for six months and then were “dating” for about a year. We broke off our exclusivity after he decided we were done and took off. I didn’t hear from him for months. I started dating a mutual friend of ours. When that rebound relationship ended, since me and my Sagittarius were in the same group of friends, we started hooking up and hanging out again. We have never reinstated our exclusivity, but yet he cannot let the fact that I have been with other people go. We seem to argue about who I’ve been with all the time, and although obviously it bothers him, he still comes around and we usually spend our weekends together.
I’m an Aquarius in a relationship with a Sagittarius. We’ve been together for about six months. He was married before we got together and separated from his wife just before he got with me. He was also my boss (that’s how we met). At the beginning, he was very happy to be with me, spent time with me, told me he loved me, etc. I love him very much.
However, in January he went a bit funny. It turns out his ex wife had been speaking to him, telling him she loved him and that they should be together and this confused him. He didn’t want to hurt her, but he loves me and wanted to be with me. Anyway, I thought we had sorted this out, but recently he has been doing the same thing again, acting different with me, as though I am just a friend, and acting as if he doesn’t want to talk to me or want me around. This is very hard for me to deal with, as I am six months pregnant, and I want to talk to him. I still love him.
I want to know if this is going to keep happening? Is he going to keep running back to his ex? He says he doesn’t love her or want her, it’s me he loves and I want to believe him, I really do. I just find it hard to trust his word, as he has said all this before. What am I supposed to do? I love him too much to just leave him. Can you help? – C.
I’m a Gemini (Capricorn rising, Scorpio moon) in a long-distance relationship with a Taurus man (5/2/80). We have incredible chemistry and have been together just over a year, six months of which we lived in the same town before I left to pursue a Masters and PhD . He works in my hometown and has lived in the city where I’m studying before, but had a bad experience with an ex, as well as trouble finding work in his field here. He seems to be carrying around a lot of baggage about that period in his life. He says he wants to be with me, just preferably not in this city. I love him, but I really hate the distance — and though I haven’t cheated, I am starting to find being faithful rather difficult.
I am an Aquarius and the man in question is an Aries. He has a lot of good qualities and he’s always encouraged his guy friends to treat their women with love and respect. I like him; however, he has yet to take me on a real date. He wants me to come over, but only when his friends aren’t around. He said it would cause too much drama. All he wants to do is have sex. I did once and it wasn’t all it’s cracked up to be, but his kisses are magic.
Anyway, he asked for another chance to show he wants to be my boyfriend, so I said OK. We were going to go out yesterday, but plans changed — we wound up having sex, and then he got a call from his friends asking if he wanted to hang out and asked if I wanted to go. I wasn’t too thrilled, but said maybe. Then he said we’d have to take separate vehicles to avoid suspicion. It’s like he hit it then hit the road.
I can’t carry on a conversation without him trying to initiate sex. In person I just don’t feel connected. Sex feels disjointed too, but what’s messed up is how intensely I want him! What in the world should I do? – Doomed
I have been seeing this Sagittarius for a few months now. Things are going great and we are both really into each other. The only problem is we live on opposite sides of the country. He just happened to be in my area for work for around three months. Now that he has returned to his coast, he helped pay for a trip to go out and visit him and I have now met all of his friends, neighbors and co-workers (he took me to work to show me around).
Now, I am a Sagittarius as well, and the idea of commitment weirds me out too, but when the whole “what are we?” conversation came up, I was surprised when he told me he didn’t want a label. “Why ruin a good thing by putting a label on it. Why don’t we just see what happens and where things go?”
Normally this is a line guys use to tell you they want to date other people or don’t want anything serious and you aren’t much more than a fling. However, he isn’t actually seeing anyone else. He treats me like a queen, dotes on me and calls me, as well as texts me all the time, and has confessed to being very attached to me. What is his deal? — Confused