I try my very damnedest to be sex positive, but I think the hardest thing for me to wrap my mind around is asexuality. Thought to represent about one percent of the population, asexuals experience no sexual feelings for men, women or themselves. Some enjoy kissing and cuddling, while others prefer no physical intimacy whatsoever. No judgement at all, everyone should do whatever makes them happy, but I just can’t even fathom the concept. It’s like trying to imagine being blind if you’ve had sight your whole life. The Sun UK interviewed four asexual women who were kind enough to speak frankly about their lack of interest in sex. I’ve included some of their most fascinating sentiments after the jump. But still, I have so many more questions. Keep reading »
This chef’s got balls.
Mao Sugiyama, a self-described “asexual” from Tokyo, cooked up, seasoned and served his own genitalia to five diners at a swanky banquet in Japan last month,Calorie Lab reported.
In most cases, “asexual” is a word used to describe a person who is non-sexual. Sugiyama, however, embraces it as a way to show that he does not affiliate with either gender.
Sugiyama sparked a firestorm of interest on April 8 with one tweet:
“[Please retweet] I am offering my male genitals (full penis, testes, scrotum) as a meal for 100,000 yen …Will prepare and cook as the buyer requests, at his chosen location.”
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Belinda’s OkCupid account opens with this message: “If you are looking for casual sex, please move on … If you are looking for formal sex, please move on as well. Actually, if you’re looking for sex in general, I’ll probably disappoint you.”
If you are acquainted with the orientation known as asexuality, Belinda’s profile makes more sense. Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction or interest in sex, and has become a formal orientation — or unorientation. This year asexuality even got attention in a documentary on the topic called “(A)sexual.” But Belinda isn’t asexual exactly … she is gray-sexual. Keep reading »
It’s like a word association game. Say the word “asexual” and the first thing people say is Clay Aiken. Poor Clay got stuck as the poster boy for asexuality when he told New York magazine that he had no libido.
“I just don’t have an interest in … any of that at all. I have got too much on my plate. I’d rather focus on one thing and do that when I can devote time to it, and right now, I just don’t have any desire. I think maybe I don’t [have sexual urges]! I mean, not really. I’ve just kind of shut it off, maybe. Is that bad?”
Now we know Clay is actually a gay man and the only thing he had “shut off” were his homosexual desires.
But with such confusing messages about asexuality, is it any wonder that “Awkward,” a 19-year-old woman who wrote to Professor Foxy, Feministing’s sex advice expert, was really confused by her complete lack of a libido? “Awkward” thinks she is asexual, but wondered how do you actually know?
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While a story about a married guy who says he never has sex wouldn’t normally shock us, in Paul Cox’s case, consider us perplexed. For a young newlywed, his celibate lifestyle is especially atypical. Both Paul and his wife, Nicole, are virgins and intend to stay that way. Just like Clay Aiken, the couple claims they’re asexual, which means they’ve never wanted to have sex or felt attracted to another person. And they’re not alone, according to the 6,000 members on Asexuality.org. How do they all not do it?! Haven’t they seen Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie? Well, while we sex crazed masses fritter away our days and chasing tail, asexuals are going on talk shows, mastering Scrabble (because what else are you going to do?), and starring on Broadway. Crap, forget robots and androids, asexuals are taking over the world! Keep reading »