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Debate This: Is Apologizing To Your Exes Before You Tie The Knot Really Necessary (Or Just Really Self-Absorbed)?

Debate This: Is Apologizing To Your Exes Before You Tie The Knot Really Necessary (Or Just Really Self-Absorbed)?

Sometime last week, I read a short little gossip item about how Adam Levine is apparently apologizing to all of his exes for his past behavior in advance of his upcoming wedding to Behati Prinsloo. I didn’t think much of it, because who really cares about Adam Levine outside of his adorably homoerotic relationship with fellow “Voice” judge Blake Shelton? But then I saw a teaser for a segment on a morning news show about how apologizing to your exes is a “trend” or something, so I did some Googling to see what Adam hath wrought. And lo and behold, according to The New York Post, NYMag.com and Fox News NY, going on an “ex apology tour” is a THING now. I’m not sure how I feel. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Is There A Statute Of Limitations On Apologies After A Breakup?

My sophomore year of college I had a boyfriend who cared for me more than I cared for him. Devin* was a nice guy who treated me well, but after maybe five months of dating, I broke up with him in the kindest way I could have. It was a clean break for me, but Devin needed — insisted, in fact — to know the details of why I was breaking up with him. If I remember correctly, he said he needed to know why I didn’t love him so he could get over me. But the honest truth is he hadn’t done or said anything wrong. I wasn’t angry at him. There wasn’t another guy. It was painfully simple: I just didn’t like Devin’s personality anymore. Somehow, at his insistence, I must have explained this to him, because eventually he stopped calling.

A year later, Devin published his first novel and gave an interview with a major media outlet and said he wrote the gang rape scene in his book after I had broken up with him. I remember sending him an email about that at the time, but I don’t remember what I said in it. I just know I was freaked out and disgusted. Keep reading »

Mary Rambin Responds: We’ve Failed (As Women) Too!

I tried to hold back posting about this again today, but then I realized most of you don’t follow Mary Rambin’s blog as avidly as I do — I also like to watch “Intervention” while eating and have been known to wear open-toed shoes in the snow, so it’s not like I’m against torturing myself. Anyway, I thought you all might like to read her apology. Or sort of apology. And we (the royal “we” that encompasses women appalled by her abortion/Botox comparison) get a shout out! Ahem… Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: The Eight Lousiest Apologies Ever

Despite what that old chestnut Love Story will have you believe, love doesn’t mean never having to say you’re sorry. In fact, one of the most important components of any relationship is the ability to suck it up and apologize every now and again. It’s hardly brain surgery, but who among us hasn’t been the recipient of an apology that wound up making you feel even worse than the original transgression?

For something that’s basically a no-brainer, there’s a bevy of ways to get it very, very wrong. In fact, the late Randy Pausch’s bestseller, The Last Lecture has an entire chapter called “A bad apology is worse than no apology.” Now granted, men are definitely more prone to the botched apology (see John Edwards, Bill Clinton, etcetera), but we ladies have also been known to blow an act of contrition on occasion. After the jump, some apology strategies to avoid… Keep reading »

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