In my twenties, I dated a guy who was 12 years older than me. In my thirties, I went in the other direction, dating a dude 11 years my junior. (Don’t you dare call me a cougar!) Although both ended rather badly, I feel like that while the gaping age difference didn’t directly cause either relationship’s demise, it certainly didn’t help. Mostly because I wasn’t very graceful about handling it.
So, learn from my mistakes. Whichever way your May/December relationship skews, there are certain pitfalls you should do your best to avoid. Keep reading »
I have forever dated older men. Some by a year. Others by four years. Another by ten years. My theory came to be that ten years might be the ideal age difference. I felt five years older than my age, and men were usually about five maturity years younger than their actual age, so if I was 25, my ideal mate would be 35. We would meet at the figurative age of 30. It all made perfect mathematical sense. Keep reading »
Last year, I had sex with a grandfather. That sounds bad, but I didn’t know he was a grandpa until after we’d done it. Plus, he’s a good thirty years younger than my own grandfather. But still, at 53, he had two kids and a baby granddaughter, while at 32, I’m itching to give birth to my own babies. When he confessed his real age to me over lunch following our hotel-room hookup (he’d told me he was 48), I assured him that I didn’t mind.
And at first, I didn’t. Part of what attracted me to him was that he was mature. He owned his own home, had a secure job. His life wasn’t as precarious as the other guys I’d recently dated. He seemed steady and solid, thoughtful, and I liked the idea of him presiding over a family. It made me feel like he’d be protective and gentlemanly, but still hot. Keep reading »
We’re so ready for the weekend, especially because today is Friday the 13th, and you never know what’s gonna happen: You might end up inside Jamie Lee Curtis’ body. But we hope you’ll come say “hi” in the Forums no matter what. Also, don’t forget that Father’s Day is Sunday. Dads need love, too.
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The older a man is when he gets married, the more likely it is that his bride will be significantly younger — even if he’s poor — according to new Stanford University research. Men in their 40s tend to marry women who are an average of seven years younger; for men in their 50s, there’s usually an 11-year age difference; and if a guy’s in his 60s, his wife will be about 13 years younger. “In first marriages, men are typically a couple years older than women,” said Paula England, co-author of the study. But, “the older men are when they marry, and it doesn’t matter whether it’s a first or a second marriage, the more years they marry down.” Keep reading »