The holidays are good times — everything is sparkly and Mariah Carey is blasting wherever you go. But they also create the perfect storm of getting-to-the-airport, gift-giving, bring-on-the-crazy stress. The good news: Your body has your back. “The way the body responds to stress is the same during the holidays as during any other time of year,” says Ari Novick, Ph.D, a psychotherapist and founder of the AJ Novick Group for Anger and Stress Management, in Laguna Beach, California.
First, your heart rate and blood pressure go up a notch (or two) spurting out chemicals to amp your fight or flight response just in case things get out of hand; then, having this happen on a daily basis may lead to feelings of anxiety or depression and the next thing you know, you’re snapping at the Starbucks barista for no apparent reason. But, why do you need to chill out right now more than ever? “The holidays bring up additional stressors that may be don’t exist in our day-to-day lives,” says Novick. That means extra anxiety on top of your already-stressful life, which could cause a full-blown meltdown. Here’s how to nip those holiday WTH moments in the bud. Read more…
Every Thanksgiving and Christmas, my mother makes two different kinds of dip. One is an onion dip, made by combining a tub of sour cream and a packet of onion soup mix. The other is a beef dip which I think is just warm pastrami all chopped up and combined with uh, another tub of sour cream? Whatever it is, it’s sheer insanely delicious meat-magic for your insides. My mom makes them because her mom used to make them.
She serves the onion one with ridged potato chips and the beef one with Fritos (I KNOW RIGHT?), though I can attest that, in a pinch, chips are not required to enjoy them. She got the recipes from her mom, who also made both dips for the holidays. That’s right — it’s a family dipdition, sat-fat style. Zero shame in that game. Keep reading »
“Ask Amy” is back! This time, Amy Poehler is stopping a pint-sized people pleaser in her tracks. “Maybe you can stop trying, turn that energy back on yourself, and you become more attractive when you love yourself. You attract the right things when you have a sense of who you are,” Amy advises. “I know it’s tough at 15 to have that. It’s tough at 41 to have that! But I think that may be the way in: to stop trying and let go.” Amy seems a little choked up this time. Is it just me or do you imagine she might be calling upon her split from Will Arnett in this one?
I turned 20 years old this year, and with that birthday came the 10th anniversary of my father’s death. This past decade has given me plenty of space and time to orchestrate my thoughts about losing a parent.
Unfortunately, I don’t have a magical secret to healing. I wish I did. Still, what I can do is let you know what I’ve learned since 2002. I’m going to speak in terms of losing a parent, but, really, almost everything I say can apply to the loss of anyone you love. Keep reading »
Thanksgiving can be one beautiful holiday, but depending on your situation, it can also be a lot of condensed family-filled time. Since your family is obviously interested in your life and what you’ve been up to, lots of questions are bound to pop up. Some will be easy to answer, but others you may not be comfortable with. In order to make your Thanksgiving as smooth and painless as possible, read through these five easy tips to help you set healthy boundaries before you set the table.
1. Tune into your feelings. Start getting comfortable with tuning into yourself and what makes you tick. If someone says something or is acting in a way that makes you feel uneasy, that’s a cue that they’re crossing a boundary. Read more…
The phrase “holiday travel” instantly conjures up images of endless lines, delayed flights, cranky babies, and even crankier adults. We know that taking a trip during the hectic holiday season will never be the easiest endeavor, but there’s no reason you can’t make the experience a bit less hellish, and a bit more fabulous (yes, really!). Here are 10 simple ways to make your holiday journey the best it can be…. Keep reading »
You guys, I’m so glad you liked my first installment of relationship advice! That’s good, because I have a buttload more advice to share. Basically, even though I am generally a wreck and mess up on the daily, I hope you find these words of wisdom helpful. And don’t forget to share your favorite advice in the comments! Keep reading »
“I just got a job that requires ‘business casual’ attire, but I have no idea how to make that look fashionable, so I either end up over-dressing or just wearing boring slacks and a button-down. I work in the recovery field with mostly men, so I also need to stay on the conservative side. The specifics: I am an hourglass size 10/12, I live in San Diego (so heavy winter options are unnecessary here), and I cannot wear jeans. Help!!” — Michelle
Ugh, business casual, such a nebulous, unclear concept, right? If it was really casual, you’d be able to wear sweatpants with impunity. And if it was really business, you could wear biz suits and not feel out of place. But alas, it is in the weird, stupid void in between. I feel your pain.
The key to dressing biz cash is finding the appropriate mesh of fabric and silhouette. You need to find items that are in textiles that are comfortable and wearable, and in shapes that are flattering. I think a few cotton or rayon A-line dresses could do the trick. Paired with a blazer and flats, and you’ll look professional and polished — but not too dressed up. Let me know what you think of these…
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So many men, so little time. That’s why you’ve got to figure out which ones to avoid right off the bat. Thankfully, comedienne Sarah Colonna has teamed up with Benefit to guide us through the murky world of dating. Pro-tip: If he’s stealing your makeup, he’s probably not worth your time. [YouTube]
Okay, so I would never claim to have it all figured out, but I can say that I’m pretty good at solving other people’s problems. That’s always the way, isn’t it? My friends come to me for love and support and advice, and I can usually give them a little nugget or two of truthy, kind, realness to help them determine what to do.
But because we’re not friends (YET!), you’re missing out on all my awesome advice. Which is why I’ve compiled a small listicle of things to remember, when it comes to relationships and dating. Please enjoy after the jump! And share your own wisdom bites in the comments. Keep reading »