Something you should know about me: I am not spontaneous. Actually, that’s not entirely true. I am super spontaneous when I’m on vacation. But I haven’t been on a real vacation in almost two years. So, I don’t think that counts. In my day-to-day life, I operate on two speeds: Routine and Hedonism. I mostly run on Routine. And in the past few years, as my responsibilities have increased and my free time dwindled, Routine has become more stringent. This means, most of the time I’m locked into a schedule where every second of every day is planned and accounted for and it never changes. And then, every so often, I hit a wall where I can’t keep it up anymore and I combust into a fit of Hedonism. On these nights you’ll find me at a bar at 4 a.m. booty popping to ’90s dance music, even if I have to work the next day.
I realize this way of living is unhealthy because it’s unbalanced. Too much Routine, and I’m a robot. Too much Hedonism, and I’d never get anything accomplished. My Inner Fun Person has been getting the shaft for too long now. She deseves to express herself, too. That’s why I took a Spontaneous Weekend to reclaim her. Here’s what I did … Keep reading »
Healthy boundaries in your relationships don’t just happen. They require discipline and willpower. I know this sounds about as appealing as going on a diet, but without healthy boundaries, you can end up a victim of a man’s bad behavior.
Why do you need to make the effort to stick to your personal boundaries? They give you self-respect. They are how you take care of and protect your mind, body and spirit. They give you a say in how you want your relationship to unfold; how much to give of yourself and when. Read more …
Let’s begin with a personal story.
I’m in the healthiest relationship of my life, with the most amazing guy who treats me like gold. I love everything about him, but it hasn’t always been like this. I, ever so sweetly of course, love to remind him of our first online date, when we’d had such a wonderful time and connected on so many levels, and he promised he’d call…said he couldn’t wait to see me again, yada yada.
I didn’t see him again for two months. He’d come and go as he pleased, pull me close and then push me away. This cycle repeated time after time and each time I promised I wouldn’t give him another chance. I tried to date other guys, and online dated like it was my job, but each time my phone vibrated, I hoped it was him. Read more …
We were thinking over here at The Frisky: No one gives better advice than a mom (well, 90 percent of the time). That’s why we’re offering up our moms to give you guidance. They’ve done a good job for us, and we think they can do the same for you. If you need the kind of solid advice that only a mother can give, send your questions to firstname.lastname@example.org. After the jump, meet the experts … we mean our mothers. Keep reading »
Maybe it’s because it’s spring, and everybody’s winter relationships are disintegrating, but I’ve been seeing an awful lot of crying girls shouting into their phones on the street lately. Is this a thing? The unbridled dramatics with which people’s lives seem to be falling apart in the past couple of weeks make me think that everybody could use a dose or two of good advice (and um, maybe some good waterproof mascara). So I’ve assembled The Frisky staff’s top bits of all-weather advice, starting with my own fave: “The biggest mistake you can make is thinking that an impermanent feeling or situation will be permanent.” That was said to me by my friend Dustin who was told that by his very wise mom. It basically means, bad feelings and situations will pass and you won’t always feel this way. You just have to give yourself time. Remember that the next time you want to murderball someone while sobbing out your guts on the corner of Lexington and 40th, okay? More wise words, after the jump.
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Karley Sciortino is the lady behind the hilarious sex blog Slutever — and now she’s the new face of Vice’s sex vlog. In her debut episode, she attempts to uncover the secrets of successful dating by asking a few “experts” — including her mom, a love expert, a gay prostitute and a neuro-scientist. This isn’t necessarily SFW, but it’s definitely worth a watch. See it after the jump! [Vice]
UPDATE: We’re trying to get the video to play. Sorry!