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Life After Dating: Is Relationship Advice A Waste Of Time?

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I live for good advice, and sometimes I spend a little too much energy attempting to absorb others’ hard-learned lessons into my own life. When I graduated from college, my attempts to gather as much advice as I could from everyone who’d already done it left me so overwhelmed with information that I went on an advice detox for a few months. I think I figured that by asking others about their youth I’d be able to magically skip the rough parts of postgrad life (hah), but it ultimately made me crazy. I’d started to overthink my every move and was so afraid of making a mistake that would ruin my shot at a happy life that I was, in fact, ruining my happy life by dwelling on it every second. My little break forced me to notice how often my friends were taking the same route by asking anyone and everyone to weigh in on their choices. It was like an epidemic, and more than any other topic in the world, the uncertain questions frequently led back to our love lives — even when we were happy as could be with them. Keep reading »

Make It Work: How To Tell If You’re In The Wrong Job

Make It Work: How To Tell If You’re In The Wrong Job

We all have to work, whether we like it or not. It doesn’t have to be the worst thing, but it’s not always the best. Let’s tackle work issues as they come, when they come, together. Join me every Monday with The Frisky’s new column, Make It Work. Also, follow me on Twitter and holler at me if there’s a topic you’d like me to cover!

Newsflash. Work is terrible. It’s something that we all have to do, but no one particularly wants to do it. It’s a cruel trick in which you have to go to a place and do things that you would never normally do, for a nominal amount of money that is usually too little, and for a select few, just right. Sometimes, you win the life lottery and the thing that you do for 40 hours a week in a nondescript office building somewhere in the city you live in is not a soul-crushing exercise in managing disappointments. Sometimes, you’re lucky enough to really, truly, love what you do. If you are one of these people, I’m very happy for you. Please close this tab and go to that special members-only club that exists for people who have found true career satisfaction. Let me know what it’s like in there. Keep reading »

Oh Yeah, Well I: 5 Ways To Deal With A Serial Upstager

Have you ever dealt with a serial upstager? A one-upping, attention-grabbing, spotlight-stealing individual who never quits? Have you forgotten what it feels like to tell a story about work/the crazy man outside of your apartment/that time you were in Africa teaching kids to read and write/anything in its entirety? Have you’ve become all too comfortable sitting on the sidelines during family gatherings while this individual entertains aunts and uncles with tales of her days spent disciplining inner-city kids that are so absurd they definitely border on the untrue? Well, I have. And if you have, too … you know that it really sucks. Keep reading »

16 Pieces Of Advice From The Women’s Bathroom At This Café

I don’t know what inspires people to not just graffiti bathroom walls, but actually write commands. And it’s ubiquitous — at least half of what you’ll read in any bathroom is a command of some sort. Bathroom graffiti-ers know that you’ve got nothing else to look at while you’re on the john (I mean, presumably), so it’s a good place to express an opinion. But commands? That takes an extra level of bravado.

One of the cafés where I occasionally work has graffiti ALL OVER their women’s bathroom (and, I assume, the men’s as well). For your benefit, I’ve collected the soundest pieces of advice from the young twentysomething women of Chicago.

Make It Stop: “I’m Stuck Giving My Neighbor Rides Every Day”

Make It Stop: "I'm Stuck Giving My Neighbor Rides Every Day"

Make It Stop is a new weekly column in which Anna Goldfarb — the blogger behind Shmitten Kitten and Shlooby Kitten — tells you what’s up. Want a fresh take on a stinky dilemma? Email anna@shmittenkitten.com with the subject “Make It Stop.” She’ll make it all better, or at least make you laugh. Girl Scout’s honor.

First up, how to dump some who uses you as a personal taxi service: Keep reading »

Make It Stop: “I’m My Sister’s On-Call Babysitter!”

Make It Stop: "I'm My Sister's On-Call Babysitter!"

Make It Stop is a new weekly column in which Anna Goldfarb — the blogger behind Shmitten Kitten and Shlooby Kitten — tells you what’s up. Want a fresh take on a stinky dilemma? Email anna@shmittenkitten.com with the subject “Make It Stop.” She’ll make it all better, or at least make you laugh. Girl Scout’s honor.

First up, how to say “no” to babysitting: Keep reading »

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