This is how it begins. He asks me to stand before him in my lace underwear, high heels, hose and bra. He sits in a chair and watches closely as I disrobe, making approving noises, even winking to put me at ease.
“Turn around please,” he says and then, “Yes, right there. Stop there.”
Even though we’ve been married for over three years, I’ve never done anything like this sober. I don’t know what to do, or where to put my hands. Without the buzz and fog of alcohol, I am clumsy and giggly and awkward. Keep reading »
In an interview with Family Circle magazine, Kathie Lee Gifford did that thing where she speaks without thinking. When asked about parenting 19-year-old Cassidy and 22-year-old Cody, she said:
“I’m not a perfect mom, but my kids haven’t been arrested, in rehab or kicked out of school, so I must be doing something right!”
What’s wrong with this statement? Well, for starters, it’s judgey and ignorant. It implies that parents are responsible for causing or preventing addictive behaviors in their children. Keep reading »
Many of us will ‘fess up to being a little Facebook-obsessed. Maybe we update our status a little too often or scroll through the newsfeed during boring dinner parties, but is it possible to actually be addicted to Facebook? Norwegian researcher Cecilie Schou Andreassen thinks so, and she’s devised a questionnaire to support her theory. Take the Facebook addiction test, after the jump! Keep reading »
Your relationship with your cellphone may be harmful to your health. A recent Harvard Business School study has shown that most of us have risky attachments to our cellphones that may be affecting our work, personal lives and health. One of the recent concerns is the harmful effects the blue light emitted from mobile phones may cause. Apparently, itsuppresses melatonin needed for sleep and dreams by confusing our brains into thinking it’s daytime. Without adequate sleep, we become cranky, anxious and generally not a pleasure to be around. Keep reading »
The following piece was originally published on The Fix.
Since I was 19, I’ve worked on and off as a prostitute in New York City. I learned a lot about men during my decade of escorting, from seeing the insides of their apartments and uncensored sexual requests, but it wasn’t until I quit drinking and using drugs three years ago that I began to notice that many of my clients shared a surprising characteristic: They were sober.
As soon as I was looking for the signs, it became obvious that I was seeing a disproportionate amount of recovering addicts. Eventually, I would start bringing up drinking just to test my own hypothesis. Over and over again, I would find out that the guys who were paying me to drool all over their junk had been sober for a decade or two.
And most of them were married, too, of course. Keep reading »
“She doesn’t drink,” my Mom said when someone offered me a glass of champagne at my sister’s wedding last summer.
“Mom!” I hissed. “Can you say ‘She doesn’t like to drink’? People are going to think I’m a recovering alcoholic!”
But after nodding no time and again to waiters coming around to refill wine and passing my empty glasses back to them, I noticed that to the casual bystander, I appear to be a recovering alcoholic. I don’t know anyone else who just doesn’t drink because they don’t like to, and won’t even have a sip of champagne for a toast. Unless they are sober. Which is when I realized that I have a lot in common with recovering alcoholics. Keep reading »
Surely you have noticed that our fearless leader Amelia has a little bit of a thing for Ryan Gosling. We feel that it might have gotten out of control in recent weeks (months/years) and it might finally be time to act. Inspired by our favorite television show, “Intervention,” and our favorite recovering addicts/interventionists Candy Finnigan and Jeff VanVonderen, we’ve decided to stage a Ryan Gosling Intervention, hereafter referred to as “The Goservention.” It’s time for a New Year, New You — Won’t you join us in supporting The Frisky and Amelia as she takes these next important steps in her life?
As your friends and colleagues, we feel it’s time that you take steps to fight back against the crippling addiction that has overtaken your life. We are speaking of your obsession with Ryan Gosling and all Ryan Gosling-related news, photos and information. If you don’t get help soon, we fear it may be too late. We understand that “Drive” was a very good movie. Also, that he broke up a fight on the street that one time. And yes, he has a cute dog.
But your Ryan Gosling addiction has gotten out of control. And it has affected our lives negatively in the following ways:
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I’m not an addict, and I’m not an alcoholic. But as offensive as this may sound, I sometimes I wish I were, if only so I could have a language and a community to help me deal with what often seem like out of control urges—a structure surrounding me to help me cope with, well, life. But there are no 12-step meetings for people who simply have trouble getting up every day, who feel hollow and weak and unworthy, but who don’t gloss over those feelings with a single, predictable vice. Over the course of my life, I’ve certainly used alcohol, sex, shopping and food to help quell those feelings, and they’ve each worked, in limited doses, but eventually their effects wore off.
The thing is, though, my rock bottom moments don’t revolve around alcohol, though I’ve consumed my share, or drugs (I’ve attempted to smoke pot twice, and basically failed each time); sometimes it’s food, sometimes it’s sex, sometimes it’s shopping, but I fundamentally believe that the core part of me that hates myself in those moments when I’m eating an entire box of cereal, screwing someone I’m not that into, or buying a pair of shoes I don’t need and can’t afford, is the same impulse that drove, say, my father or grandfather to drink (both are recovering alcoholics). Keep reading »
Not every celeb must reach public infamy like Lindsay Lohan or Charlie Sheen to seek help for addiction. We knew him as the funny guy who did an amazing Bill Clinton impersonation on “Saturday Night Live,” but behind the scenes, things weren’t so funny for Darrell Hammond. According to his new memoir, God, If You’re Not Up There , I’m F**ked, a traumatic childhood led him to drink, do drugs, and cut himself. Click on to hear more of Darrell’s shocking revelations and see other celebs who we never even knew were addicts until they told us.
“It’s not really a shock.” When a famous person dies from causes related to drug or alcohol addiction, this, or something similar, is one of the more common responses people have. While there are plenty of crueler things people can and do say, this bored and blase lack of surprise over the death of a human being tends to bother me the most.
That is because my father is an addict. He’s been an addict my entire life. And to not be shocked by someone’s death at the hands of addiction would mean I would have to have to reached some sort of placid acceptance that my dad will also inevitably suffer the same fate — that his getting “better” is out of the question. Keep reading »