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A Look At War Machine’s Suicide Note And The Mental Health Of Abusers

War Machine, or Jonathon Koppenhaver — the MMA fighter who beat his ex-girlfriend/model/porn star Christy Mack within inches of her life in August this year — tried to commit suicide by hanging in his jail cell last week. TMZ obtained a copy of the suicide note he left, and MMANews transcribed it (h/t Gawker for… More »


Life After Dating: Moving On From The Past

Yesterday, while I was getting ready to go to CostCo with my boyfriend, Michael, I told him a story a friend had told me about how much her dad hated her grandfather. I said, “I wonder what it’s like to have parents who you really deep-down hate.” Then I paused and thought about it, and… More »


Woman Dies Shielding Baby Daughter From Violent Boyfriend

This is an utterly tragic story. Jessica Arrendale, an Atlanta area mom, died shielding her six-month-old daughter Cobie’s body from Cobie’s violent father. The 37-year-old was shot in the head and managed to maneuver her body over the baby to prevent her from facing the same fate. Arrendale and Cobie’s father, 30-year-old Antoine Davis, had… More »


What To Do When Someone You Love Stays In An Abusive Relationship

I’ll try to write about this with as little abject fury as possible. Yesterday morning, my Facebook feed was full of sympathetic posts about Janay Rice, some good burgeoning conversations about domestic violence and how it’s been swept under the rug and normalized by our culture — but by the afternoon more than half the… More »


20 Powerful #WhyIStayed And #WhyILeft Tweets From Twitter’s Domestic Violence Conversation

Yesterday, after TMZ released video footage of Baltimore Ravens player Ray Rice brutally attacking his then-fiance Janay Palmer, Rice was cut from the team by the NFL. Instead of sympathy or concern, Janay has mostly been the target of criticism, in particular for marrying her abuser and/or somehow inciting the violence in the first place. More »


This Domestic Gun Violence PSA Is Hard To Watch, But It’s So Important

When gun violence is addressed, the first thing that comes to mind are horrific mass shootings, but one of the most common victims of gun violence are women with abusive partners. Abused women are five times more likely to be murdered by their abuser if the abuser owns a gun, and more than half of… More »


This Is How A Domestic Violence Victim Falls Through The Cracks

Berryville, Arkansas — Two days before she died, Laura Aceves stood on the side of the road and frantically dialed the police for the last time.

It was early afternoon and the 21-year-old had finished her shift at the Berryville Tyson Foods plant, where she worked on an assembly line deboning chicken. Moments… More »


Frisky Q&A: Hip Mama Editor Ariel Gore Talks Parenthood, Abuse & Her New Memoir

Mother’s Day is when advertising distills motherhood down to home-cooked brunch, a bracelet, or a fragrant bouquet. But for far too many people, the relationship with their mom is a complicated one. Not all mothers have been nurturing and caring; not all daughters and sons have overcome the trauma of their childhoods as adults.  There… More »


On Dylan Farrow, Being Triggered & Dealing With Trauma

I woke up the morning after feeling irritated, a clutching pain behind my eyes. Alert, but not wanting to do anything. There it was, that vague feeling of dis-ease, a familiar disconnection.

It’s difficult to admit how personally triggered I was by Dylan Farrow’s open letter in The New York Times. I would… More »


Meet The Photographer Who Shot Those Infamous Photos Of Charles Saatchi Choking Nigella Lawson

Calling himself only “Jean Paul,” the photographer who snapped over 1,000 photos over 27 minutes of Charles Saatchi and Nigella Lawson during their now-infamous lunch in London on June 9 is interviewed in the upcoming issue of Vanity Fair“I saw her lurch violently backwards,” the paparazzo told the magazine about the incident. “I thought Charles was… More »


Nigella Lawson Denies Being A Raging Cokehead, Reveals What Really Incited Saatchi’s Violence

Earlier today in a UK court, TV chef Nigella Lawson took the stand to tell her side of the story about how those photos of ex-husband Charles Saatchi strangling her outside of Scott’s restaurant came to be. Oh, and to defend herself against the charge that she’s a major cokehead and that he wasn’t stranglingMore »


How To Tell If You (Or A Friend) Are In An Abusive Relationship?

Does your significant other constantly chalk his bad mood up to something that you’ve said or done, then apologize almost immediately? Is your friend’s new beau always listening in to her phone calls or reading text message conversations over her shoulder? These seemingly normal scenarios can also fall into the category of abusive behavior, according… More »


Very Disturbing: Girl Caught On Video Beating Her Boyfriend In Public

This video of a girl berating her boyfriend — both verbally and physically — on the streets of Hong Kong reminds us that men can also be the victims of domestic violence. It’s never OK to hit your partner even if he did cheat or lie or invite the “ugly” girl over to his apartment… More »


Study: 50 Shades Of Grey “Perpetuates” Abusive Relationships

50 Shades Of Grey is still a thing people are talking about, I guess?  But the latest news isn’t casting rumors for the big screen adaption of E.L. James’ kinky sex trilogy — it’s a pearl-clutching new study that warns 50 Shades “perpetuates” abusive relationships.

The Journal of Women’s Health published a study… More »


Girl Talk: On Cutting Ties & Letting Go Of Toxic Relationships

For as long as I can remember, I’ve wanted people to like me. For years, I tried to please everyone, tried to juggle countless personalities and identities, hoping to please everyone and be universally liked. I tried to be everything to everyone, to the point where I didn’t know who I actually was. But as… More »


Rihanna Talks A Lot About Her Reunion With Chris Brown In Candid Rolling Stone Interview

Welp. There’s no denying it now. Rihanna is officially back together with Chris Brown, less than four years after he assaulted her to the point of hospitalization the night before the 2009 Grammy Awards. In the new issue of Rolling Stone, on stands this Friday (but excerpted quotes are already making the rounds), the singer is pretty… More »


True Story: This Morning, I Watched A Man Commit Domestic Violence While Bystanders Did Nothing

This morning, something weird happened: I woke up at 5:30 a.m. as alert as if I had been mainlining espresso. Anyone who knows me knows waking up at even 8 a.m. is a struggle for me. When I couldn’t fall back asleep, I got out of bed to shower and do my hair and makeup. More »


Beauty Vlogger Covers Up To Expose Domestic Violence

Lauren Luke, a very popular beauty vlogger, teamed up with the anti-abuse group Refuge to create a beauty video about covering up bruises caused by domestic violence. While watching this video, I knew that it was completely set-up. What I did not know, though, was that it would leave me with total body chills for awhile… More »


British Actor Helpfully Explains Why “It’s Not Difficult For A Woman To Make A Man Hit Her”

“It’s not difficult for a woman to make a man hit her. … The problem with strong, intelligent women is that they can argue well. And if there is a time where you can’t get a word in … and I … I lashed out. I couldn’t end the argument. Something must have brought it on. When… More »


I Was In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Why is that women stay with their abusers? A little less than two years ago, I certainly couldn’t have told you the answer to that question. Now I can. And that’s because I did.

I’ll never be able to pinpoint the exact moment when my relationship with Chris started to become unhealthy. It… More »