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Our Justice System Is Sentencing Domestic Abuse Survivors To Life Without Parole

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  • Our justice system’s misunderstandings about domestic violence are putting abuse survivors into jail for life without parole. [The Atlantic]
  • Clergy, priests, and monks sent their own photos to a Florida police department so that they would stop using pictures of Black youth for target practice. [Washington Post]
  • Read about the women who have been serving in Myanmar’s long-standing civil war. [New York Times] Keep reading »

A Very Close Reading Of Meghan Trainor’s Horrorshow Regressive Narcissistic Anthem, “Dear Future Husband”

Meghan Trainor’s new album came out this month, which passed my notice because I don’t watch TV or listen to the radio or watch music videos unless specifically recommended to do so, and also because I hate Meghan Trainor. Watching the music video for “All About That Bass” made me feel-it-in-my-muscles angry. There’s something about the tone of her voice and just all of the presumptuous arrogance and narcissism in that song that make me want to grow my fingernails out really long and then use them to gouge my own eyes out.

But good ol’ Megan Reynolds pointed me toward “Dear Future Husband,” which is even more egregiously presumptuous, arrogant, and narcissistic than “All About That Bass,” if you can believe it. It’s a list of all the things she expects from her life-partner-to-be. Highlights include: Keep reading »

Can Someone Please Explain To Me Why Pretending To Throw Your Kid Off A Balcony Is Funny?

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Let me preface this by saying I have a dark sense of humor. I find horribly grim shit that would make most people cringe laughable. That said, I can’t find a damn reason why viral prankster Roman Atwood‘s latest stunt is remotely funny. This dude pretends to “accidentally” toss his kid over a balcony to terrify his wife half to death. Nope, not laughing. Too many kids actually die in freak accidents every year. Also, while I’m not a mother, I’m going to venture that believing your child is dead on the floor in front of you tops the list of some of the worst emotions a human can feel, and to have the person she trusts most, her husband, put her in that position is just awful. Gross.

Trauma, PTSD & A Lifetime Of Loss

A note: There’s a lot of trigger-y, very heavy material in this particular essay, including descriptions of graphic fictional violence (in nightmares) and mentions of sexual violence. I included it to paint as clear a picture I could of what it feels like to have Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. All respect given to those who wish not to read that sort of thing: You take care of yourself however you need to.

“Wild,” the film adaptation of Cheryl Strayed’s memoir, came out this weekend and I know I’ll see it eventually, but it’ll probably be with a pretty heavy heart. I never read the book, either, although I read Tiny Beautiful Things and loved it.

I could just about write a eulogy for the 2014 that wasn’t. In February, I started making plans to quit my job and travel by plane, bike, train, and bus all across the United States. It didn’t work out. Right now, I was supposed to be in Florida visiting an old friend and her baby and trying not to get eaten by alligators.

That was all for the best, as long as “the best” is held to a moderate standard. I’m glad I got to spend my year with my lovely boyfriend and work on our relationship. I’m glad I got a therapist. I’m glad I got off of medications that were doing more harm than good. I’m glad I started writing and ultimately got a full-time job doing it. I’m glad I live in a nice new apartment and have a pretty good idea of what my boundaries are and how to keep myself healthy. That is a textbook definition of “a good life.” Keep reading »

On The Abuse And Sexual Assault Allegations Against Oprah’s Book Club Author Gregory Sherl

This month, author Gregory Sherl’s debut novel, The Future For Curious People is being featured as an editor’s pick on Oprah.com’s book club list, a potentially career-making achievement for such a young writer (Sherl is only 29). Any other author would be ecstatic, but instead, Sherl seems to be ensconced a self-imposed exile, riding out a storm of abuse, coercion and sexual assault accusations from numerous women. Keep reading »

It Gets 0.86 Percent Better For The Gays And Lesbians Every Year

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  • Public opinion of homosexuality improves by 0.86 percent per year worldwide. [The Daily Beast]
  • The Ku Klux Klan says that it’s embracing racial diversity in order to work toward building a “strong America.” OK. [The Root]
  • The Bath Film Festival has a feminist rating for movies this year. [Marie Claire]
  • Nico Lang dissects the cultural trope of the “crazy bitch” in relation to Taylor Swift’s new video. [Daily Dot]
  • Amanda Palmer regrets making a snap decision to continue extending an invitation to Jian Ghomeshi to join her in Toronto on her book tour. [Salon]
  • Read about the relationship between body hair and femininity. [YouBeauty]
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