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I grew up in a small town. It was in the “heartland”– the middle of the country, yet everyone had twangy Southern accents. The town didn’t have much money or restaurants or people. But we did have churches. Churches in pole-barns, churches whose congregations were made up of only one family, churches in the hills with members who spoke in tongues and fancy churches with stained glass that told you to vote for George Bush.

All through my youth, I probably would have said I was a Christian. It was just the default. My parents did take me to church when I was little, I grabbed from the tin of sugar-cookies and drank dixie cups of watery Kool-Aid, but I had somehow remained a bit feral. Keep reading »

How To Stop Women From Having Sex

“To give [anti-abortion] campaigners more time to enjoy life instead of making stunt videos that have no point, here is a cut-out-and-keep list on how to stop women having sex, guaranteed:

  1. Chop off genitals at birth. They can have them reattached at their heterosexual
    wedding, in between the cake and the throwing of the bouquet.
  2. Force all teenagers to watch their parents having sex. Effective, although there is a risk they will never have sex again and the human race will die out.
  3. Rearrange human biology so that it’s men who get pregnant. It might not end verboten sexual relations, but it will probably put an end to old white guys trying to ban abortion and targeting the most vulnerable women, from rape victims to the needy poor, in the worst circumstances.

— British journalist Hadley Freeman‘s tounge-in-cheek suggestions for better ways that anti-abortion extremist groups like Live Action can use their time rather than playing “gotcha!” with Planned Parenthood by secretly videotaping them in stunt videos with fake pimps and prostitutes. Hadley suggests, quite rightly, that as much as some anti-abortion extremists are against abortion, they seem to just be plain against women having non-procreative sex, period. I recommend her whole article; it’s a good read! [Guardian UK] Keep reading »

Christian Ladies (Put A Purity Ring On It)


I gotta say, as a non-Christian who practices excessive amounts of pre-marital sex (well, at least before the sabbatical), I kinda like this pro-abstinence take on Beyonce’s “Single Ladies.” The lyrics don’t roll off the tongue as easily as in the original, but I gotta give props to these gals for using such a popular song to spread their message. I love a music video with a story line, especially one acted with such skill. Babe. [BuzzFeed] Keep reading »

Purity Rings Have An Expiration Date On “RHOA”

I wanted to be excited that Kim Zolciak’s 13-year-old daughter Brielle actually asked her mom for a purity ring on the latest episode of “The Real Housewives of Atlanta,” but the whole thing fell apart for me when she started negotiating her abstinence expiration date. 18? 19? 20? I don’t know a whole lot about abstinence rings (or abstinence), but I was under the impression that wearing one meant you were saving yourself for marriage, not for college. So just to recap, Brielle got a $3,000 diamond ring to keep her hymen intact until college. And Kim thinks this is brilliant. Am I missing something here? Do purity rings expire whenever you want them to? And … what the hell is Kim wearing? Please help me understand. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’m Afraid To Tell My New Boyfriend I Practice Abstinence”

I’ve been seeing this guy for a bit now. The only thing we’ve done is kissing (no touching) and I’ve never invited him over to my apartment (for fear of him initiating sexual activities). I like him a lot and I see a potential relationship with him. However, I made a decision to abstain from sexual relationships due to my religion, but also I just don’t think I’m ready to be sexually intimate. I’m not sure if I I’d like to remain abstinent until marriage yet, but I definitely couldn’t be intimate with someone after only a couple of months. I’m afraid that when we finally discuss this he will leave, but at the same time I think there is a need to address it. I’m just not sure how to bring it up or when it would be appropriate. I’m 20 years old and he is 26. I was brought up in a very conservative country and he is more liberal. He recently moved to NYC (four hours away) for a job offer, but he comes back every weekend or so since he still has an apartment here. He has asked me to go visit him next weekend, but I’m afraid about sleeping arrangements so I haven’t said yes. — Not Willing to Give It Up

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Bristol Palin And The Situation Talk About Sex, Baby

It seems as if this would be a “Saturday Night Live” skit, not an actual safe sex PSA, and yet The Candie’s Foundation has managed to blow our minds with a little video clip of Bristol Palin and “Dancing With the Stars,” um, coworker, Mike “The Situation” Sorrentino talking about abstinence. The Situation says he totally respects abstinence–it does have the word “abs” in it after all. Watch in horror as The Situation says the word “situation” about 5,000 times and Bristol swears that she’s going to wait until marriage (you know, except for that whole “having a kid with Levi Johnston” thing). [Candie’s Foundation] Keep reading »

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