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Purity Rings Have An Expiration Date On “RHOA”

I wanted to be excited that Kim Zolciak’s 13-year-old daughter Brielle actually asked her mom for a purity ring on the latest episode of “The Real Housewives of Atlanta,” but the whole thing fell apart for me when she started negotiating her abstinence expiration date. 18? 19? 20? I don’t know a whole lot about abstinence rings (or abstinence), but I was under the impression that wearing one meant you were saving yourself for marriage, not for college. So just to recap, Brielle got a $3,000 diamond ring to keep her hymen intact until college. And Kim thinks this is brilliant. Am I missing something here? Do purity rings expire whenever you want them to? And … what the hell is Kim wearing? Please help me understand. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’m Afraid To Tell My New Boyfriend I Practice Abstinence”

I’ve been seeing this guy for a bit now. The only thing we’ve done is kissing (no touching) and I’ve never invited him over to my apartment (for fear of him initiating sexual activities). I like him a lot and I see a potential relationship with him. However, I made a decision to abstain from sexual relationships due to my religion, but also I just don’t think I’m ready to be sexually intimate. I’m not sure if I I’d like to remain abstinent until marriage yet, but I definitely couldn’t be intimate with someone after only a couple of months. I’m afraid that when we finally discuss this he will leave, but at the same time I think there is a need to address it. I’m just not sure how to bring it up or when it would be appropriate. I’m 20 years old and he is 26. I was brought up in a very conservative country and he is more liberal. He recently moved to NYC (four hours away) for a job offer, but he comes back every weekend or so since he still has an apartment here. He has asked me to go visit him next weekend, but I’m afraid about sleeping arrangements so I haven’t said yes. — Not Willing to Give It Up

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Bristol Palin And The Situation Talk About Sex, Baby

It seems as if this would be a “Saturday Night Live” skit, not an actual safe sex PSA, and yet The Candie’s Foundation has managed to blow our minds with a little video clip of Bristol Palin and “Dancing With the Stars,” um, coworker, Mike “The Situation” Sorrentino talking about abstinence. The Situation says he totally respects abstinence–it does have the word “abs” in it after all. Watch in horror as The Situation says the word “situation” about 5,000 times and Bristol swears that she’s going to wait until marriage (you know, except for that whole “having a kid with Levi Johnston” thing). [Candie's Foundation] Keep reading »

Teen Pregnancy: It’s (Statistically) A Southern Thang

Country music, Chick-fil-A, and teen pregnancy: three things that can be found anywhere in America but are heavily concentrated in the South. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention released reports last week which show the top 10 states with the highest rate of pregnant teens in 2008 sweep across the Bible belt: Kentucky, Tennessee, Arkansas, Mississippi, Louisiana, Oklahoma, and Texas (along with New Mexico, Arizona and Nevada, which are more in the Southwest). Obviously, geographic location alone doesn’t make someone eligible for “16 & Pregnant.” Experts say the same states full of pregnant teens are the ones in which “sex education” teaches abstinence as the only form of birth control. Keep reading »

Frisky Q&A: Adult Film Star Ryan Keely

For all the sex positive writing that I do, I’d never actually talked with someone who worked in the adult entertainment industry for a living. Like a lot of people, I just assumed they all were failed actresses and cokeheads.

That was unfair of me.

Over the summer, I met up with Ryan Keely, an adult film star, Penthouse Pet and Penthouse advice columnist, and an erotic dancer. Ryan, who is originally from Seattle, is as smart as she is beautiful; it’s clear from spending time with her that her heart lies in bringing the joy of sexuality and sensuality to others. Recently, Ryan has been teaching seminars for Porn Star Sex Life, co-founded with Josh Rosenberg, a pick-up artist who created UpYourAttraction.com. I was a little skeptical, too, of Porn Star Sex Life classes. Generally speaking, I think porn gives us stupid role models. The actors and actresses fake great sex and know how to make it look really awesome on screen. Why would we want to emulate that? But Ryan is an approachable educator: she’s had a lot of sex with a lot of partners, both men and women, both onscreen and off, and she is ashamed of nothing. “What it takes to be a porn star is you want to explore your sexuality,” she told me. “The people that are in this industry for the right reasons are people are want to take sex to the next level. We’re sexual athletes.”

I walked away from an afternoon of cake and milk with Ryan thinking, “Damn, I want this girl to be my best friend and I want to sleep with her.” After the jump, Ryan opens up about why missionary is the best sex position for women, her stance on sex positive feminism, why she hates KY Jelly, and her one-woman campaign to bust sexual taboos! Keep reading »

Study: Schools Teach Abstinence, Not Contraception

Teens learn about the birds and the bees in high school sex ed — but they’re not, apparently, learning about birth control. A report from the Centers for Disease Control found that 97 percent of teens received sex education by the time they turned 18, but an alarming 30 percent of teens said that contraception education wasn’t a part of their sex ed curriculum. Keep reading »

106-Year-Old Virgin Sings The Praises Of Abstinence

Scottish woman, Isabella Blyth, is a happy, spunky centenarian. At 106 years young, Isabella has yet to lose her v-card, or even kiss a man for that matter. She attributes her longevity and happiness to never having been romantically involved with anyone. Keep reading »

Quotable: “True Blood” Creator Alan Ball Takes A Shot At “Twilight”

“To me, vampires are sex. I don’t get a vampire story about abstinence. I’m 53. I don’t care about high school students. I find them irritating and uninformed.”

– Alan Ball, who brought “True Blood” to the masses, takes a well-deserved shot at Stephenie Meyer‘s Twilight series, which I hear has implied sex in the fourth novel that I’m too frustrated to read. [Just Jared] Keep reading »

New Video Game Is Like “Avatar,” But Teaches Teen Girls About Abstinence

An open dialogue about sex? That would be much too simple. Instead, the University of Central Florida has created an “Avatar”-like video game “that promotes sexual abstinence,” according to Fox News Orlando. How does it work? A pre-teen girl puts on a “motion capture” suit outfitted with marks which are picked up by infrared light and then simulated on-screen. Then the girl gets propositioned by another avatar. “A boy similar in age might approach the person playing the game and might ask her to make out or there might be some sexual innuendo,” explained UCF Professor Anne Norris of the UCF Institute for Simulation and Training. “They’ll have an opportunity to interact with the avatar and they’ll get points for social skills that they develop.” Which I assume means she says “no” to sex.

And hey, Floridians, the whole shebang will cost you $434,000 in federal tax dollars! Keep reading »

Provincetown, Mass., Offers Condoms To All Students — Yes, Even Elementary Schoolers


Starting in September, the small, seaside town of Provincetown, Massachusetts, will give a condom to any student in grades 1 through 12 who asks for one — but only if they listen to a “birds and the bees” talk first. Keep reading »

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