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Girl Talk: How Kirk Cameron Tried To Ruin My View Of Sex

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When I tell people that once, when I was in 7th grade Sunday school class, I was shown a video starring Kirk Cameron and his wife Chelsea Noble that illustrated the dangers of sex with laughing carnival workers and evil clowns, they don’t believe me. Well, here it is (presented in three parts, after the jump). 

Every time I see Kirk Cameron — especially now, speaking out about how homosexuality is “unnatural” and “detrimental” — I think of my 13-year-old self sitting in a dark classroom, terrified, watching the 1993 Focus on the Family abstinence-only “educational presentation” called “Sex, Lies & … The Truth.” The beginning of the film isn’t subtle: Shots of Kirk and Chelsea talking about delaying sex until marriage are interwoven with warped shots of haggard carnival workers laughing maniacally; close-ups of antiquated games, a cackling clown, and menacing rides; and a frightening-looking roller coaster in motion, camera placed firmly at the front car’s helm. “I think it’s real easy sometimes to look at life like it’s just this great ride or it’s just this awesome game, and you’re out to have as much fun as you can,” Kirk begins. Keep reading »

The Weirdest Abstinence Ad You’ll Ever See

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Hey, young people! If you are thinking of succumbing to the temptations of sex, just think of cuddling with your talking teddy bear. Cuddling, meaning you can go inside and hump the crap out of that thing until you are of legal age to get hitched? Or maybe Purity Bear is one of those hide-a-vibe thingies. Either way, the acting in this commercial is absolutely phenomenal. The actor who played the role of Purity Bear is a real talent.  If I hadn’t lost my virginity a million years ago, this Day Of Purity campaign may have been enough to have kept me chaste. [Buzzfeed]

Praise Be! Nicki Minaj Gets “Super Grace,” A Pro-Abstinence Parody

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Here’s something we didn’t expect: a pro-abstinence Nicki Minaj parody called “Super Grace”! It’s based on “Super Bass” and the Bible, and Jesus Christ himself gets thanked in the comments. Future civilizations will no doubt pour over lyrics like “He’s waiting for the band / He’ll just hold my hand … I want to be a wife but I must wait / oh no no no no / I have to wait / Christian boys got my heartbeat running away” wondering what they mean.

While “Super Grace” is certainly better than any youth group project I ever did, I almost hate telling these youngsters — whoopsies! — abstinence-only sex ed doesn’t actually work. [Popdust

Coming Soon To A Theater Near You: An Apatowian Christian Comedy?

First Judd Apatow produced “Bridesmaids,” a decidedly girly movie co-written by Kristen Wiig. And now, it looks like others are interested in taking the Apatowian sense of humor—gross-out comedy, adults in arrested adolescence—and transplant it to an unexpected demographic. And thus, we have “The Waiting Game,” a pro-abstinence flick for the Christian set. In other words, it’s a “sexless comedy about sex.” The flick will star Candace Cameron and it even has a cameo by Ted Haggard, the pastor of the New Life Church in Colorado who was brought down after it was revealed he paid a gay masseuse for sex. Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: UK Politicians Support Girls-Only Abstinence Education

  • Politicians in the UK advanced a bill that would require British girls — yes, only the girls — to receive additional sex education that emphasizes the benefits of abstinence. This sex ed “program,” if you could even call it that, is aimed at girls ages 13 to 16. It narrowly passed, but fortunately it’s not expected to be made into law. Um, will someone tell the Brits that abstinence-only education is not working out too well for us? Do they have “16 & Pregnant” on MTV over there? [Guardian UK]
  • North Carolina’s House judiciary committee debated a bill yesterday that would further restrict reproductive rights in the state by requiring women to wait 24 hours before having an abortion and requiring doctors to describe an ultrasound of the fetus to the woman. [ABC News]
  • Legislation that would make it more difficult for young women to obtain abortions without their parents knowledge is headed to Florida’s Governor Rick Scott, who is expected to sign it. [Palm Beach Post]

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Abstinence Panties Will Be Very Effective At Stopping Horny Teenagers

Forget about comprehensive sex ed. The best way to keep girls off “16 & Pregnant” is with pro-abstinence panties and T-shirts bearing slogans like “Zip It,” “Not Tonight” and “Dream On” sold on a site called What Would Your Mother Do?. According to WWYMD:

We created a line of underwear to use as conversation starters to help reinforce family morals as they relate to relationships and dating. One part Victorian, three parts frisky, these adorable undies put new meaning to saying it loud and proud.”

At last someone has realized that the first thing teen boys do after taking off a girl’s pants is read the slogan on her underwear. [What Would Your Mother Do? via Ms. Magazine] Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Bristol Palin Makes Bank Preaching Abstinence For The Candies Foundation

  • According to an investigation by Jezebel reporter Irin Carmon, The Candies Foundation paid $252,500 in fees in 2009 to pro-abstinence teen mom Bristol Palin, while only giving $35,000 to actual anti-teen pregnancy initiatives. Color us shocked. That PSA that Bristol Palin made sure paid big, didn’t it? [Jezebel]
  • Vince Neil of Motley Crue has been charged with domestic violence and disorderly conduct for allegedly forcefully poking his ex-girlfriend in the shoulder blade with his finger in March while in Las Vegas. Neil reportedly began poking several people with his finger, including his ex, while saying “f**k you.” [TMZ]
  • Remember the anti-abortion billboards in Chicago depicting President Obama which imply women who have abortions could be “killing” the next great leader? Well, abortion rights activists hung banners over them. [Chicago Tribune]

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Girl Talk: I Dated A “True Love Waits” Christian

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I grew up in a small town. It was in the “heartland”– the middle of the country, yet everyone had twangy Southern accents. The town didn’t have much money or restaurants or people. But we did have churches. Churches in pole-barns, churches whose congregations were made up of only one family, churches in the hills with members who spoke in tongues and fancy churches with stained glass that told you to vote for George Bush.

All through my youth, I probably would have said I was a Christian. It was just the default. My parents did take me to church when I was little, I grabbed from the tin of sugar-cookies and drank dixie cups of watery Kool-Aid, but I had somehow remained a bit feral. Keep reading »

How To Stop Women From Having Sex

“To give [anti-abortion] campaigners more time to enjoy life instead of making stunt videos that have no point, here is a cut-out-and-keep list on how to stop women having sex, guaranteed:

  1. Chop off genitals at birth. They can have them reattached at their heterosexual
    wedding, in between the cake and the throwing of the bouquet.
  2. Force all teenagers to watch their parents having sex. Effective, although there is a risk they will never have sex again and the human race will die out.
  3. Rearrange human biology so that it’s men who get pregnant. It might not end verboten sexual relations, but it will probably put an end to old white guys trying to ban abortion and targeting the most vulnerable women, from rape victims to the needy poor, in the worst circumstances.

— British journalist Hadley Freeman‘s tounge-in-cheek suggestions for better ways that anti-abortion extremist groups like Live Action can use their time rather than playing “gotcha!” with Planned Parenthood by secretly videotaping them in stunt videos with fake pimps and prostitutes. Hadley suggests, quite rightly, that as much as some anti-abortion extremists are against abortion, they seem to just be plain against women having non-procreative sex, period. I recommend her whole article; it’s a good read! [Guardian UK] Keep reading »

Christian Ladies (Put A Purity Ring On It)


I gotta say, as a non-Christian who practices excessive amounts of pre-marital sex (well, at least before the sabbatical), I kinda like this pro-abstinence take on Beyonce’s “Single Ladies.” The lyrics don’t roll off the tongue as easily as in the original, but I gotta give props to these gals for using such a popular song to spread their message. I love a music video with a story line, especially one acted with such skill. Babe. [BuzzFeed] Keep reading »

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