If you think it’s a George of the Jungle you’re looking for in the bedroom, think again. Despite our fantasies of Don Draper or Christian Grey, it’s most likely a Michael Cera type who will be able to satisfy us the most sexually. A new Yale University study published in the Sex Roles journal (yes, that exists) found that men who believe they need to be dominant during playtime are less comfortable asking women about their sexual needs and discussing their own.
The study surveyed 357 women and 126 men ages 18 to 29, all heterosexual and sexually active, on their sexual confidence and assertiveness.
Turns out that adhering to traditional gender roles could damage a man’s confidence — and make him less likely to use protection. In the survey room, there was a bowl of female condoms with a sign that read: “Protect yourself and your partner. Please take some! Free Female Condoms.” The more the subjects believed in traditional power dynamics, the less they were likely to take the condoms. Read more…
I’m as disinterested in whether Joe Biden waxes his undercarriage as I am in whether Kirsten Gillibrand reads 50 Shades Of Grey. But someone — hopefully someone currently hiding under their desk in shame? — thought it would be a good question to ask New York Senator Gillibrand and her challenger Wendy Long during a debate on Wednesday night. The candidates were participating in a rapid-fire round of yes-or-no questions. But included in still-kinda-stupid-but-kinda-legitimate questions like “Do you write your own tweets?”, they were asked if either had read 50 Shades Of Grey. And while I couldn’t care less if either woman read a SEXY SEX BOOK ABOUT HAVING SEX, I can’t imagine why this information is the least bit important to, you know, governing. However, I will hold off on declaring this question sexist until someone asks two male politicians whether they’ve read another famous sadomasochism tome, The Story Of O. (Seriously. Please. Someone do that.) [NYMag.com] [Photos: Getty/Amazon]
Groups that work to eradicate domestic violence and help survivors are protesting magazine behemoth Conde Nast over the lastest cover of Vogue Hommes International, on which the cover model is being choked. Supermodel Stephanie Seymour is held from behind by hunky Marlon Teixeira, whose face is rapturous as one hand reaches around to choke her neck and the other reaches around to grab her breast. Keep reading »
Like it or not, Fifty Shades of Grey has become a bonafide global phenomenon we can’t seem to shut up about. So it’s no surprise E.L. James’ steamy series has actually inspired its very own MAGAZINE. If you’ve been to a magazine stand, you may have noticed that there’s an actual periodical devoted to all things Fifty … and it’s entitled, Fifty Shades … of American Women Who Love the Book & Live the Life. Yes, I am being completely serious. No, this is not a very early April Fools joke. The one-off publication is basically a collector’s item for Fifty fans — filled with silly, Cosmo-ish sex quizzes, Fifty Shades-inspired beauty tips, blurbs from women who swear the books transformed their sex lives, and true tales of real people living the BDSM lifestyle. In other words, if you’re one of those fans who is waiting with bated breath for the fourth book and first flick, this fanatical publication might be able to tide you over for, oh, a couple of hours or so. Read more…
How are babies and BDSM related, you ask? The answer is the new 50 Shades of Grey baby onesies found on Etsy.com. Your baby will be sure to turn heads wearing these white ensembles, sporting phrases like “9 months ago mommy read Fifty Shades of Grey,” or “all mommy wanted was a night with Mr. Grey.” I pity the child who grows up and sees baby pictures dressed up in poorly written erotica-inspired attire! [Gothamist]
As someone who has identified as kinky for over a decade, both professionally and personally, I have to admit I was absolutely appalled when the 50 Shades trilogy first hit the mainstream. I read all three books, and as I read some of the myths and stereotypes, I had to do some deep breathing.
I couldn’t help thinking, “These are the books that have become the cultural reference point for kink?” As I thought this, a bit of my kinky little heart broke. But, my opinion has changed since then.
I still think the books are poorly written and that there is much better erotica out there. Regardless, these are the books that have everyone talking about sex and kink. At this point, the value of that far outweighs some tired writing clichés. Read more…
You guys, it is only Tuesday and I’ve already read a press release about a Fifty Shades of Grey-themed compilation of classical music. This doesn’t really spark a lot of confidence for the rest of the week, does it?
Yes, it’s true: the 15 pieces of music that are mentioned in the books comprisising the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy will soon be available in one convenient place: your car, or your Discman, or your very fancy home stereo system that you’ll show off to all of the vapid women you have over to seduce in your high-rise condo because you think such a thing is an accurate display of “personality,” and because the women you bed are probably into the ideas of entry-level BDSM and fucking to Mozart. (Haha just kidding, that will never happen to you, especially if you own this CD.) Keep reading »
You will never catch me reading 50 Shades of Grey, so pardon me if I get all my info about Christian Grey etc. from watching this He-Man mashup from “Late Night with Jimmy Fallon.” I’m going to assume that Christian is a Skeletor-looking motherfucker, who happens to be really into butts.