God, I love Etsy. Etsy is life, guys. If you want to express yourself through your possessions but don’t have the skill to make them on your own, Etsy WILL have what you need. It’s like that rule of the internet that says “if it exists, there’s porn for it” — if it exists, an Etsy artist is selling it.
Personally, I’ve gotten way into the swing of “NOPE” lately. I NOPE on social media, I NOPE to catcallers (because that’s really the bottom line, isn’t it?), I NOPE in my articles, I NOPE on my blog, I NOPE to trolls and hate mail, I NOPE when I just don’t friggin’ feel like doin’ stuff. The only thing left is to NOPE my appearance and NOPE my home.
Cue Etsy! Now you can have NOPE with you all the time. You might not even need to say it out loud.
The New York Attorney General’s office announced this week it has found “loss prevention officers” at Macy’s department store to have followed Black and Latino customers more often than white patrons. In response to these findings, Macy’s has agreed to a pay a $650,000 settlement, hire an independent monitor, and release an anti-racial profiling memorandum to employees, among other responses. (It is perhaps too soon to say “reforms.”)
This fall, both Macy’s at Herald Square and the upscale department store Barney’s in New York City drew attention after several Black customers were detained by police and accused of stealing items which they had rightfully purchased. Macy’s most high-profile incident was actor Robert Brown from the TV show “Treme” and the movie “Finding Forrester,” who was detained after making an expensive purchase at the store, then frisked, accused of holding fake ID, and told he didn’t have enough money to buy the pricey item. Keep reading »
When life gives you lemons, make alcoholic lemonade, that’s what I say (no wonder I didn’t have one of those roadside lemonade stands as a kid). Anyway, today is National Lemonade Day, which means it’s the perfect time to kick your drink game up a notch. Forget about just adding a simple splash of vodka to your lemonade, and, instead, try one of these 11 delicious and refreshing ways to spike it!
Here’s the way I identify, in my own head: Masculine bisexual cis female. That is a string of words that makes almost no sense to a lot of people in my life who would rather just be like “aren’t you kind of just … Rebecca?” And yeah, that’s true too. But my four-word identity is my short summary of who I am, what pronouns I use, what my love life looks like, and how I present myself to the outside world, or, in short, the way I relate to other people as far as my gender goes.
My presentation has changed markedly over the last few years. Part of the reason I slimmed down my wardrobe and switched to versatile basics is that I felt really inauthentic in the very loud clothing I was wearing. When I wore metallic gold miniskirts or flouncy floral skirts or bright pink minidresses I ordered from ModCloth — even when I was wearing structured dresses that complimented my waist-to-hip ratio beautifully — it felt like a costume. It felt like I was trying too hard. Switching over to jeans, leggings, basic tees, loafers, and combat boots has removed all the stress from getting dressed. Keep reading »
I’m the kind of girl who wears a bra all the time. I haven’t gone completely bra-less since 1993. My version of going bra-less is a bralet under a shelf bra, with my arms folded, propped upon a pillow as I watch Netflix Sunday mornings. Unless I bring my pair to the party, good luck finding my goodies through a maze of mixed support.
To the annoyance of many women with big or small boobs whose bras are like a blankie of comfort, designers who create tops or dresses that are strapless, backless, or with cutout details are malicious. What the hell kind of bra am I suppose to wear under that halter crop top? I don’t want to have to worry about my tits going left when I go right. God forbid there’s a strong, cool breeze. Anyone else feeling a tad nippley?
To all the women who feel comfortable going bra-less, keep doing what your doing. For the rest of us, let me save you some time and explain the reality of each of these popular solutions. Keep reading »
I have a pretty serious (and embarrassing) mommy blog-reading habit, so for years now I’ve watched internet moms traipse around in Salt Water sandals, raving about them every chance they got. I put off ordering them online for years because I didn’t want to buy shoes I’d never tried on, but I eventually just guessed my size and ordered a pair — best decision ever. Now I finally understand what all the fuss is about. I’ve spent years trying to find a flat summer shoe that’s actually functional for wearing on trips to the beach or vacations that require lots of walking, and my search is finally over. Most of us remember Salt Waters from when we were kids, so I guess they’re technically considered children’s shoes, but the grown-up sizes are equally as comfy, durable, and most importantly, walkable. They are some of the only shoes I can wear the entire day without hitting some kind of pain limit around hour five. Keep reading »