Honesty is always the best policy… except when you lead a double life as a porn star. Haylie Hocking thought she knew everything about her fiancé, personal trainer Jason Brake. The 27-year-old bride was just weeks away from her wedding when she discovered Jason spent more time in the buff than getting buff. Haylie’s friend started searching online for a male stripper for the bachelorette party and came across a video of a man who seriously resembled Jason getting raunchy with another woman. Turns out, Jason was a porn star on the side, and wasn’t training people in the gym like he told Haylie. Not surprisingly, Haylie canceled the big day. Hey, nobody wants to introduce Mr. Porno as their husband, at least not without a little warning. [Telegraph] 

Oh, but Haylie is not the only one to discover something shocking about her significant other. After the jump, other people whose jaws hit the floor when they found out the truth.

For all those critics of homosexuality and same-sex marriage who say that being gay is unnatural, get a load of this: scientists have found that homosexual relationships are quite prevalent among reptiles, mammals, amphibians, and even insects. In studying a group of Laysa albatrosses (birds) where the number of males outnumbered the females, researchers found that many of the ladybirds paired with other females to raise their babies. What’s more is that dude dolphins get it on together as a way of bonding with other males. Nathan Bailey, an evolutionary biologist explains the importance of studying this behavior: “Once [same-sex sexual behavior] exists within a population, it could change the social dynamics of that population.” Is this what the homophobes are afraid of? Because, change, is, you know…so Obama. If flies can be gay…can it really be so harmful? Mother Nature clearly says no. [USA Today]

Same-sex marriage bans just got stupider: two New Yorkers just got their marriage license revoked after city officials say they were snookered into believing the bride was actually a groom.

The would-be bride, Hakim Nelson, 18, identifies as a woman and hopes to undergo gender reassignment surgery. When Nelson married 21-year-old Jason Stenson on May 26, she not only wore an orange dress, white leggings and a $10 wedding ring, but also carried a state ID card that said “female” on it. (The official who issued the state ID assumed Nelson was a female.)

Laaaaaaaaaaaaaa-dies! We’ve got a new porno mag out over in England!

But unfortunately, Filament received a sour review from the Daily Mail, which hissed, “Most of the boys pictured are effeminate and not arousing.”

Indeed, we, too, are flabbergasted with Filament‘s idea of what makes women wet. Apparently it’s skinny boy-men with soft features who either outright look like Rufus Wainwright or look like Rufus groupies. The porn mag’s web site explains Filament relied on both published academic research and their own online research to discover what turns women on and they came up with specifics like “men who are not muscle-bound” and “men with more feminine face shapes.”

No thanks! To each her own, we guess.

The Ivy League is making waves toward greater acceptance this week. First, Katie Couric was the first woman to give a commencement speech at Princeton. Now, Harvard University has become the first institute of higher education to create an endowed professorship in lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender studies. Although other colleges and universities offer courses and degree programs in sexuality studies, Harvard is the first to set up an endowed professorship on the subject. Visiting scholars will teach on sexuality and issues affecting sexual minorities for one semester each.

The Harvard Gay & Lesbian Caucus raised $1.5 million to fund the role, which is named after F.O. Matthiessen, an American studies scholar and literary critic who kept his homosexuality a secret while chairing a Harvard undergraduate program. “It’s not so much that we’ve been able to raise this money, it’s that Harvard and the faculty at Harvard have accepted this perpetual endowment for gay and lesbian studies,” said Mitchell Adams of the Harvard Board of Overseers. Now, if we could only get same sex marriage legalized across the board, we’d be one progressive society. [Reuters]

Oh, prom…I wore a poufy dress, Princess Leia buns, and goth makeup, all chosen specifically as an act of rebellion against the popular, blond, perfect prom queen, Carla Smith. Well, those days may be over. Sergio Garcia, an 18-year-old senior at Fairfax High School in Los Angeles, may be a guy, but he’s still a queen at heart. Prom queen, that is!

If you know anything about Kanye, you know he loves his Balenciaga sandals and neon. Some people think he looks moronic. Some people think he looks awesome. Apparently, some people think he looks “gay.”

Blogger Elizabeth Gates at the Daily Beast noticed how homophobic and racially motivated some commenters’ replies were about recent paparazzi snaps of Kanye and his entourage at Fashion Week. “Only gay guys wear that [crap!]” one wrote. “Bootylishious,” wrote another. But this isn’t anything new. Two years ago, 50 Cent made waves when he complained that Kanye got invited on “Oprah,” not him, which he said proved Middle America would be OK with their kids being gay.

Ah, April — the month of fools, taxes and same sex kisses? Well, yes. Apparently, Starbucks, because it’s one of the most “gay-friendly, corporate spots in the world,” will be hosting Same Sex Kiss Day on April 15th this year. Exploiting the LGBT community, Starbucks is encouraging everyone to come out and buy a cup of coffee from them and uh, kiss someone of the same sex, because, like, LGBT people don’t yet have the same rights to file their federal taxes jointly and everyone knows a coffee and a kiss will solve that! Don’t have someone of the same sex to make-out with? No Problem! There’s a Facebook page, of course, where you can “find someone cute in your town.” And no, you don’t get a free cup of coffee is your participate. How would that help Starbucks, I mean, the LGBT community?!

How’s this for an evil/nonsensical “trend”—in South Africa, the number of lesbian women who’ve reported being raped to “cure” them of their gayness is on the rise. “What we’re seeing is a spike in the numbers of women coming to us having been raped and who have been told throughout the attack that being a lesbian was to blame for what was happening to them,” said Vanessa Ludwig, the chief executive of Triangle, a gay rights organization. Additionally, local authorities are not classifying these attacks as hate crimes when the women report them, nor are they taking significant steps in trying to solve these cases or curb them. These crimes are hardly few and far between, especially in a country where incidents of rape against women in general are disturbingly high.

When you’re really attracted to a man, it can be hard to tell if he’s attracted to you—especially if he doesn’t know if he’s gay.  Even a sexpert like myself has been blindsided by a boyfriend’s (or two) sexuality. But just like cheaters, there are some tell-tale signs if he’s homosexual. So, look out for the red flags that show he should be waving a rainbow one.

With the proliferation of straight girl-on-girl action being popularized in the media—from “Girls Gone Wild” and Miley Cyrus’ sleepover kiss, to Katy Perry’s hit “I Kissed A Girl” and super-babe Megan Fox admitting she had a girlfriend—there has been a great change in the way female sexual orientation is perceived. It has become more of an open spectrum than a box. There is a clear upside to straight women making out with another woman without anyone batting an eyelash—we should all be free to do what and who we feel without judgment. However, Details magazine has tried to explain the downside. In the article, “Flirting With Disaster,” men recount how their lesbian fantasies became an obsession that turned into a variety of devastating scenarios.  From the guy who pressured his girlfriend to the point that she felt violated, to a guy whose threesome dirty talk made his wife realize she was gay, sometimes taking a chance that seems irresistible can bring about the downfall of a relationship. However, the real problem here is that men often feel like they are responsible for and therefore dominate the desires and sexual expression of both people in a relationship.

Sometimes you know a friend of yours is gay, but it’s hard to put into words.  While Ryan from the “Real World: Brooklyn” tried to help Chet come out by strumming him a song, that awkwardly hilarious ditty didn’t work because Mormon Chet thinks being a metrosexual isn’t a “sin.” Sigh. Luckily, YouTube sensation Nuglah has stated the obvi in an even better techno track! It’s definitely a hot beat to dance out of the closet to. [World of Wonder]

Don’t want to give you baby girl some plastic doll with a wack sense of what women look like? Well, check out DYKEdolls, an alternative action figure that positively portrays ladies and the lesbian lifestyle.  Just look at the adorable family of Kelly, Christine and baby Soo! Or how about a total Betty in a basketball uniform? There’s even a gayelle Cali skater chick! Now these are gals we’d all like to play with…regardless of sexual orientation. [DykeDolls.com via Buzzfeed]

With the passing of Proposition 8, 2008 has left a bad taste in a lot of our mouths.  But it would be sad to let a year full of PR triumphs for one of the hardest working and most outspoken communities slip by without acknowledging all the honors and milestones that have been achieved! So, forget the h8terade, from the death of “don’t ask, don’t tell” to the first openly gay prime time news anchor, there were a lot of wins to be proud of—just take a look at the long list of Great Gay Headlines In 2008!

The passing of Prop 8, the California bill banning gay marriage, has been causing marches, rallies, debates, and now it’s even spawned a musical! With an all-star line up including John C. Reilly, Neil Patrick Harris, Kathy Najimy, Rashida Jones, Maya Rudolph, Margaret Cho, Andy Richter, and Jack Black as Jesus, here’s hoping jazz hands can stop the hate. Even if you aren’t famous and you can’t sing and dance, your voice still needs to be heard, so if you want to do your part, Join The Impact. [Funny Or Die]

Hilary Duff is against the use of the word “gay” when it means “bad” or “uncool,” not homosexuality. Surprisingly, the above PSA is kind of awesome. [via Missbehave]

Tyra is a diva who likes to pull stunts like a bra burning.  But nothing is as inflammatory as sexuality.  So, now the talk show host is demanding some guests who want to stop being gay.  Say what?! Maybe she’s planning on showing a leopard can’t change it spots by ruining an exotic fur couture coat? Or perhaps she’ll fix ‘em up with her “America’s Next Top Model” gays Mr. and Mrs. Jay? But if there’s anyone crazier than her, it’s a homosexual trying to straighten up. [Feministing]

Now that Clay is out, he needs some love!  But who is the David Burtka to match his Neil Patrick Harris?  We ladies at The Frisky, like his surrogate Jewish grandmothers, want to fix him up!  Here are the studs we think would fire up Clay:

Lance Bass: Former member of boy band N’Sync, Lance Bass just hasn’t been the same since his break up with the man who helped him come out of the closet—Reichen Lehmkuhl.  While Reichen has already moved on, Lance has been a mess!  He’s unsuccessfully dating dudes like his married personal trainer (yikes!) and a bad tipping bartender! So he clearly, Sir Lancelot needs someone who will fight for his honor and share his love of highlights. Clay could be his bottled-blonde Prince Charming.

There’s only one thing I love more than reality television—my gay BFF!  We go together like a penis and vagina, except that we don’t have sex, obvi. Now even Bravo wants to get in on our sweet action. Rumor has it, the network that brings you Kathy Griffin and Project Runway has a new reality TV show in the works. According to gossip king Michael Musto, it will be about couples comprised of gays and the girls they love.  Although the premiere date has not been announced, I’m already making space on my DVR!  I hope this show really helps break down discrimination—and I don’t mean just against homos. The ladies who love the gays often get called hags. As if! Listen, I might not be Angelina Jolie, but I’m sick of being called a paper bagger just because I hang out with guys who aren’t interested in packing my box! And let’s face it, that name is a misnomer in most cases—Margaret Cho, Madonna, Chelsea Handler, Katherine Heigl (pictured at left with her GBFF), and even Clay Aiken’s baby mama are totally slammin’! Speaking of which, I hope Clay and his special lady/womb at least have a guest spot. Still, I wonder what the show will even be like…an “Amazing Race”-style adventure, a style show like “Top Design”, a buddy comedy like “Beauty and the Geek”?  Supposedly, the concept comes from a book that contains a collection of essays called “Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys”. Well, whenever and whatever it is, I’ll be watching!