An interesting, if disturbing question has been posed to Cary Tennis at Salon. “Want Him To Know” writes:

“Recently while I was on Facebook, the man who date-raped me in college showed up as ‘people you might know.’... I never filed charges, never told people for years afterward, and didn’t even think of it as rape until five years ago. But now that I think about it, it infuriates me that he was able to victimize me without consequences. I don’t want to bring legal action, or shame him publicly, but I do want him to understand what he did was wrong. I’d like an apology…. Should I attempt to contact him, or just let bygones be bygones? Honestly, I could take it or leave it. My only worry is that he will think date rape is OK.”

Tennis’ advice is lacking, despite being nearly 300 words long—see a rape counselor! Probably wise, but it doesn’t really address her desire to know that the person who date raped her doesn’t do it again. So what do you guys think? Should “Want Him To Know” get in touch with the person in question? Should she move on? Or do you think that any response he gives her wouldn’t give her the peace she desires? Tell us your thoughts in the comments! Maybe she reads The Frisky…

“So?” he asked me. “Is there anything else you want to say?”

Sure, the Web has made many aspects of our lives easier, but it’s also complicated a few things—specifically, how we date, flirt and meet potential love interests. And while the date movie du jour, “He’s Just Not That Into You,” may seem a few years behind, we’ve pulled together a helpful up-to-date guide to Flirting 2.0.

British men have been in the news a lot lately, but not for their admirable qualities. In fact, these men are rather jealous and insensitive and, oh, have a habit of murdering their partners. More after the jump.

According to a new poll, women are way more likely than men to “stalk” an ex online, with 62% of the 1700 people polled admitting to looking up a former love online. I totally believe that women use the Internet more often than men to garner information on a crush, look up the whereabouts of exes, and check out a former flame’s new significant other. In fact, Catherine and I were just discussing the fact that none of our recent dates seemed to have Googled us, which I kind of find…insulting. But I don’t think “looking up” an ex (or a crush or the competition) online is the same as “stalking.” After the jump, I break down the differences between just snoopin’ and totally stalking when it comes to online behavior.

Attention Chris Brown‘s lawyer. You should probably get your client on the horn and tell him that when he facing allegations that he assaulted a pop music princess, he shouldn’t be responding to those allegations via his Facebook. According to the New York Post, Brown updated his private Facebook page yesterday, changing his status to “single” and putting up the message, “You’ll begin to see her true colors. Believe it!”

It’s safe to assume he’s referring to Rihanna, which is further confirmation that she was the female involved in the alleged incident and that she and Brown are definitely OFF for now. As we await updates from, you know, the police, I am going to befriend Brown on Facebook so I can keep further tabs on his online alerts. Like he can reject me, BTW, considering he needs all the friends he can get right now. Who else is there? Jordin Sparks? [NY Post]

Some Average Joe ending his marriage isn’t newsworthy. Similarly, someone changing their Facebook status isn’t remarkable. But when these two events combine, we take notice, especially when the wife is unaware her marriage is over, and dozens of others find out before she does. One day, Neil Brady of Lancashire, England updated his Facebook status with this message: “...ended his marriage to Emma Brady.” He obviously thought his wife wouldn’t notice. But a concerned friend in Denmark let Emma know she was single by asking a seemingly innocuous question: How was she handling the breakup? Let’s just hope Emma didn’t read the comments regarding her husband’s new status because one read: “You are better off out of it.” Although Neil claims his wife was having an extra-marital affair, we think this was an effed up way to dump her. Adults should be able to handle adult situations without the use of a social networking site.

Facebook is great for finding old friends, classmates, and that guy you met in the bathroom stall at that club. It also lets you keep track of your not-so-close friends. But since everyone, including relatives and current/past employers, is on Facebook, it’s also the perfect place to embarrass yourself or someone else. After the jump, other Facebook mishaps. Hopefully you’ll think before you post another drunk photo or update your status with your favorite sexual position.

1. I think I’m awesome, but seriously, why do you think I’m awesome?

2. I can speak dolphin. Which is how I help them.

3. I don’t have a driver’s license and I don’t know how to drive a car. But I know how to drive the ladies wild and I have a license to freak, freak you sweet and spicy, freak you like a jungle cat made out of lava.

4. I write poetry. Here’s a sample, “She walks in beauty, like the night/Of cloudless climes and starry skies/And all that’s best of dark and bright/Meets in her aspect and her eyes.” I just made that up, right now, on the spot.

5. Yes I can, did, will, etc.

Facebook, the social networking site that has connected more than 150 million of us with people we wouldn’t recognize if we bumped into them on the street, turns five today! In honor of the big day, I’d like to reflect on the gifts that Facebook has given to us over the past five years. After the jump, the top ten gifts for which you can thank Facebook.

Burger King ran a promotion this month called “Whopper Sacrifice,” in which a free burger was offered to anyone who deleted 10 friends on Facebook. When Burger King started sending notifications to castoffs letting them know they’d been dumped for a tenth of a whopper, Facebook suspended the campaign. All this got me thinking: what else besides the lure of free fast food makes people un-friend someone? And how do people decide whom to friend in the first place? In an article in the Times this week, a recent graduate of Harvard (where Facebook got its start) advised “culling your friend list once a year to remove total strangers and other hangers-on. Keeping your numbers down gives you more leeway to be selective about whom you approve in the first place,” he said.

If you’ve been guilty of snooping through your luvah’s internet history, you’re definitely not alone. A recent UK survey found that a whopping 70 percent of Brits regularly check their partners’ online activity. These aren’t isolated incidents—respondents admitted to snooping at least once a month to see if their partners had been surfing porn sites, trading sexy photos or love notes with anyone, or had been up to any other sneaky activities. “There really is nowhere to hide on the web anymore; especially now that people are so active online, with social networking sites and forums. People can post pictures or inappropriate comments that, when taken out of context, can lead to serious problems at home,” said study author, Steffen Ruehl.

Facebook, like nuclear technology, is a tool that can be used for good as well as evil. And there are clearly some people who lack the ability (or desire) to use either responsibly. One of my all-time favorite Facebook stories involved a recent college graduate backtracking it to the old Alma Mater (it wasn’t Tucker Max) on a recruiting trip. He went to a neighborhood watering hole, flashed some of that first-year cash and, later, worked on his night moves with a fine, young coed. Unfortunately, he knew she was going to Facebook (it’s a verb now) him and he still had a few days in College Town, USA. So, he did the prudent thing and changed his status to Single. He and his old old girl were on the rocks and he thought he’d enjoy the rest of the trip. This was how now ex-girlfriend found out. She was dumped by Facebook. And because this is neither Vietnam nor the Wild West, we decided to implement some rules of etiquette for Mark Zuckerberg’s handiwork. After the jump, the top 10 rules of etiquette for using Facebook responsibly in and around relationships.

Six months after putting up a Facebook profile, I’m utterly bored. I’ve said it. I’m sure I’ll be assaulted by the Facebook cultists, but it’s true.

Whitney Casey’s The Man Plan: Drive Men Wild… Not Away promises to help you find Mr. Right or a bunch of Mr. Right Nows. How? We’re not sure, but as a “relationship expert” on Match.com, a TV personality and international journalist, Casey, we’re sure, has a wealth of knowledge regarding the opposite sex. Check out some facts about Casey and other ways to find her relationship advice after the jump.

Don’t you just hate it when a friend starts dating a guy and she does absolutely everything with him? She can’t go to the grocery store without him, she can’t do her laundry without him, and she certainly can’t update her Facebook status without including his name. We’ve been noticing that a bunch of couples are doing joint status updates, i.e., “John and Jane are ringing in the New Year!” or “Kelly and Josh just got the most amazing espresso machine.” We don’t like it. Isn’t the internet the last refuge for lonely singles?

Along with adults in Santa hats and Scientology, fury over women breastfeeding in public and in photos is something I just don’t understand. The latest breast feeding scandal comes courtesy of Facebook, which removed photos of mothers nursing their babies from their personal pages. More than 58,000 people have joined a Facebook group called “Hey, Facebook, breastfeeding is not obscene!” to protest the censorship of the photos. “Whether there’s a nipple exposed or not, female breasts, specifically in the context of breast-feeding, should not be considered obscene,” says Stephanie Muir, one of the group’s administrators. I completely agree—feeding and nourishing a child through breastfeeding is one of the most natural things on earth and just because the body part she uses to do so has been sexualized in other ways by society, doesn’t mean the act of nursing is sexual or obscene. Hey Facebook, why don’t you spend a little more time dealing with all the pro-rape “flair” on your site instead? [NY Daily News]

Poor Nicole Kidman. Just when everything was looking up for her—a new baby, a seemingly happy marriage to successfully-rehabbed Keith Urban, a starring role in an epic film about her native Australia alongside fellow countryman and People’s sexiest man alive, Hugh Jackman—a bunch of meanies with nothing better to do started a Facebook group called Am I Taking Crazy Pills or Is Nicole Kidman the Worst Actress in the World? While it’s too early to tell if the group’s cruel intentions will be enough to drive Nic into indefinite hiding with Sunday Rose and her favorite feathered-hair crooner, for the sake of cinema let’s hope she never reads any of the group’s choice comments …