If you think it’s obvious why most men aren’t exactly lining up to date Rumer Willis, think again. According to a new study it may not be just because they find that big chin unattractive. Researchers say a prominent chin can be a “telltale sign that a woman will be unfaithful.” Hmm, can someone say Claire Danes? Perhaps, Hillary Swank? 

I’m not proud to say this, but I recently went out with a guy who well, had a girlfriend. Oops! I didn’t get that was his deal at first, but after I connected a few dots—okay, there was a tampon out on his kitchen table—I realized he already belonged to another woman.  While I’m glad this revelation saved me from a fate that involved that pig, I still feel bad for playing a part in his scheme, albeit unwittingly. I wish I could tell his real girlfriend what a philandering d-bag he is, I don’t know who she is. So instead, I will share with you the tell-tale signs that I pieced together afterwards that all pointed to the clear fact that he was nothin’ but a Cheatin’ Charlie!

I’m single, 40, and have dated more than any good man should. Add to that the fact that I love women, I love seducing, and my ego is clearly invested in the power it gives me, and something tells me I’m not the man you’d think would advocate devotion and fidelity. But the truth is, I’m a closet monogamist. It doesn’t come easily, it might not even come naturally, but at the end of the day, I think monogamy is a majesty worth fighting for. Many of the reasons are obvious—the comfort, having a good-guy reputation, the regular and maybe even condom-free sex—but there are some that might surprise you.

Before I start, I want to tell my current boyfriend something. Babe, I did not cheat on you while I was in Chicago.

Now that that’s out in the open, let’s begin. You went on vacation, you met some hot guy, you [insert excuse here] that you had a boyfriend, and you [insert what you did with hot dude]. I’m not here to judge you, I’m here to tell you what you should do—and what I did – afterward. Confess.

There’s no sex like beginning-of-a-relationship sex. The anticipation. The exploring. The grabbing your new lover as soon as they walk in the door, throwing them onto the kitchen table and banging their brains out with the fervor of a Greek god and the enthusiasm of Rush Limbaugh on an anti-Hillary tirade after a three day coke binge. (Apologies if your lover’s face is replaced by Rush’s chubby mug next time you’re going at it ... ).

About a year ago, rapper Riskay had a recommendation for all the ladies who think their man is cheating.  She suggested suspicious lovers should ask to “Smell Yo Dick.” While the song was an underground hit, a woman was just beaten for using that line on her cheating husband.  Just a straight shot south on the Florida Turnpike will get you from Riskay’s home in Bartow to the real scene of the “smell yo dick” crime in Port St. Lucie.  After the 37-year-old victim followed her man into the bathroom to get wind of the truth, he punched her in the face and kicked her to the ground.  The dude has been missing ever since, but his battered wife of three years refuses to press charges. Penis sniffing and prosecution dodging, ah, the things we do for love! [TCPalm]

At first, when we found out David Duchovny had checked himself into rehab for sex addiction, we were like, “Damn, that’s kind of hot.” But that was naive. After researching sexual addiction—earlier Susannah Breslin discussed how many think the affliction is a myth—we’re feeling some serious sympathy for his wife of eleven years, actress Tea Leoni. It seems that David’s not just acting sex-crazed on his Showtime series. But how can sex, a natural bodily function, become a disease making headlines? The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.” Just like drugs and alcohol, some people feel they’re abusing sex and themselves to get a high. But as Breslin points out, even doctors can’t decide if sexual addiction is a real condition or merely a symptom of a larger problem that goes beyond sex. Either way, it’s reeking havoc and wrecking homes. So how can you tell if your man is a slave to his wee man?  Seven signs, after the jump…

We’ve all heard some variation on the maxim “once a cheater, always a cheater.” In my personal experience, the decision to heed or not to heed said aphorism seems directly related to just how sprung one is on the guy in question, but nine times out of ten, the truth will come out. And that truth generally involves a wandering wang. 

I’m not the only one who thinks so. Relationship expert Dr. Gilda Carle, who’s written a book on the matter, called “How to Win When Your Mate Cheats”, thinks that without the genuine desire to reform and a good therapist, a habitual cheater is doomed to repeat him- (or her-) self: “If they’re willing to put in the time and effort and acknowledge they have an issue, then there’s a chance they won’t cheat again. But if they think, ‘I can get away with this. My father was like this my uncle was like this all my buddies are this way,’ then you don’t have a shot in hell of reforming this guy. And no woman should try to reform a guy anyway because it’s a lost cause.” Of course, every relationship is different. Take a gander at two women who represent both sides of the debate, after the jump…

There seems to be a lot of infidelity lately—just look at some of the biggest celebrity breakup of 2008. But not all cheating leads to splits. In an article that ran in London’s Sunday Times, writer Kate Spice investigates why wives have stood by their men even as they’re sleeping with someone else. Some of the reasons for staying with an adulterous spouse were:

-For the kids’ sake.
-Because she doesn’t want to have sex (and letting her husband have a mistress is akin to hiring someone to clean the house).
-For the good of a family business.
-As long as he comes back, it isn’t doing any harm.
-Love.

Is there anything that would make you want to stay with a man who cheated on you? Tell us in the comments…

Memo to the ladies: Your boyfriend jerking off to Perfect 10 or the occasional American Apparel ad is not cheating. Masturbating to a hot message that he got from a new 17-year-old “friend” he met on Facebook is. See the difference there? We hear a lot of complaints, especially from women, about concerns regarding their partners’ insistent masturbation. “Would you consider this cheating?” some ask. While no question is a stupid question, such queries do give me pause. Catholic guilt aside, when did self-love become tantamount to infidelity?

Sneaking around on your spouse is all the rage in Hollywood. Just this weekend, Angelina Jolie, openly admitted she and Brad Pitt fell in love while he was still very married to Jennifer Aniston. Ouch!  But she wasn’t the only one messing around in tinsel town. Téa Leoni has allegedly been messing around on David Duchovny with Angelina’s ex, Billy Bob Thornton? Oh, the incestuous web celebrities weave! Alas, in Hollywood, cheating the camera isn’t just an acting technique, but off-screen it can get a whole lot trickier. More, after the jump…

I tried marriage and I don’t understand the attraction. I hated it. It’s such hard work. I had to organize the maids, the chef, assistants, chauffeurs, gardeners. All that staff. Exhausting. What really did it for me was when my husband told me he wanted children. Can you imagine? Ruining your figure for babies; those smelly things that leak at both ends?

At the beginning of a marriage everyone is on their best behavior. Everyone is pretending to be something their not. He’s pretending to be terribly fascinated in everything you say, he brushes his teeth, acts like a super stud in the bedroom, and living room, and kitchen… And we women pretend that he’s our “super hero,” we wear high heels and naughty little teddies, we shave our legs everyday. But six months and he’s turned deaf and dumb, your legs are hairy, neither one of you has brushed your teeth, you pick your nose and he picks his butt. He farts, you burp. The teddies have been replaced with sweats; he sits in front of the TV with the “game” on, mumbling, a beer in hand. You barely speak to each other; you’re too tired to have sex. Marriage. What is the advantage?

Cheating is a tricky business. As it should be, considering it is morally reprehensible. However, I’m not here to judge anyone about their extra-marital affairs, I’m just here to give the facts. And the fact is AshleyMadison.com is supposedly the world’s number one “dating” service, with over 2.5 million members. I decided to do a little undercover work and signed on to the site to find out exactly what members are entitled to. This site began in 2001—with the motto “Life is Short.  Have an Affair.”—but has just not started to garner attention since it’s been featured on “The Tyra Show,” “20/20,” “The Ellen DeGeneres Show,” “Dr. Phil,” and “Larry King Live.”  One woman told Tyra that within the last six months of being on AshleyMadison.com, she’d slept with about 150 people.

The National Enquirer, which famously broke the John Edwards cheating scandal, claims that Cindy McCain has been cheating on John McCain. The magazine says that Cindy has been canoodling with a “washed-up 80s rock star”—the picture they’ve produced as evidence looks pretty darn grainy to us, but the woman in the photo does have Cindy’s signature platinum hair. But without getting a look at her eye makeup, I’m not willing to say if it’s her or not. The McCain spokespeople have declined to comment. In any case, if it is true, maybe she’s decided to run around John before he runs around on her—after all, their relationship started with HER as the other woman. But still…kind of mean to kick a man while he’s down! [National Enquirer]

I’ve been thinking a lot about cheating lately, and what constitutes cheating for men and women. Personally, I think anything physical starting with kissing is cheating, though of course it increases in severity the more clothes come off. Emotional cheating is very real in my opinion too—I would be dismayed to find out that my ex, I don’t know, was having, say, a developing emotional affair, possibly, with his younger female coworker, confiding in her and sending her notes about missing her. No physical boundary may have been crossed, but giving your heart to someone, when it belongs to someone else, is just as bad to me. But what about men? Do they have the same guidelines? And how much would they forgive?

Women are still working on closing the wage gap, but we’re coming closer to our male counterparts in other areas. A New York Times article discussing infidelity says younger women are cheating on their spouses nearly as often as men, and even newer marriages aren’t immune. Researchers found that 20 percent of men and 15 percent of women under 35 admitted to being unfaithful. What’s interesting is that they don’t know whether women are actually cheating more, or if we’ve always done so but are finally fessing up to our infidelities. Would you be honest about being an honest women if a researcher asked you whether you’ve cheated? [NY Times]

Yesterday we told you about how, thanks to a new spa trend, women are finally able to get happy endings. That’s right, after centuries of men being able to get some so easily, we ladies are finally getting our fair shot! However, even though the playing field has been leveled, we wonder, if you’re in a relationship, is it still considered out of bounds or is it just a fun way to score? After reading this awesome article by Gina from Mom Logic, who encouraged her husband to cash in and get off during his weekly massage, we had to wonder… do you consider a hand job from a professional masseuse cheating?