I’ve been in a relationship for 10+years (we’re both Capricorns) and we got married last April.  We own a house together, have a dog, etc.  He is a computer geek (I’m an amateur photographer), however, a couple of years ago he traded in his hardcore gaming lifestyle for a hobby we could share together — racing his car. We had great fun getting away for the weekends and spending time together.

Unfortunately, this came to a screeching halt a few months ago when he wrecked his car at the track and the insurance failed to pay.  So, on top of having his hobby squashed, we were stressed about the car we are still paying off and he turned back to video games to fill his time…all of his free time.  At our core we are very different. I like to go out, have a good time, be social and have fun.  He likes to stay at home and play games. To defy him, I started going out with close friends all of the time, including one guy friend in particular, who I had hooked up with years ago. He’s a Gemini.

“Life is too short for the marriage I have.  I love my husband dearly—we’ve been together for 10 years and we have three kids, but we’ve had many troubles over the years. He causes some terrible financial messes and never learns from them. He also cheats — mainly cyber, but possibly for real. No matter how much proof I see, he denies it all. It’s terribly frustrating for me. I adore sex, have a head full of fantasies I feel I never get to share, let alone do. He won’t flirt with me, but he flirts with other women. No efforts are made to seduce me, no birthday presents, no dirty talk, he won’t tell me what turns him on and he never asks me what I want.  I feel like I’m just a friend, a frumpy housewife and not his lover.  I’m not even 30 yet and I feel my life as a sexy woman is totally over. It’s driving me insane. What do I do?! (I was born 16th of January 16, 1979 at 5:10pm in Chelmsford, Essex, U.K. He was born October 4, 1974 in Chelmsford, Essex, UK.)” —Husband Trouble

“How do I tell if an Aries man is lying? Are there any telltale signs? Do they lie? Are they good at it? I have a very strong suspicion that my Aries ex was cheating on me during our relationship and that he is currently with the woman he may have cheated on me with. I want to drag the truth out of him, but want to know what to look for!” —Scorpio With A Hunch

“My boyfriend wants to start swinging. He says it has been something he’s wanted to do for a long time. It has nothing to do with being bored with our sex life, but he feels it could add a new dimension to the way we have sex and love each other. I trust him and I feel that it’s great he can be open about his sexual fantasies with me, but I don’t want to do it. I’m a Capricorn; he’s an Aquarius. I think with diseases out there, it sounds unsafe. He won’t do it without me, but I know he’ll be upset if I didn’t say yes. How can we both be happy?” —At A Standstill

Has your life gone haywire in the last week? Communications amiss? People from the past randomly showing up? Feel like you might be losing your mind, as no one you know seems to make any sense to you any more? Fret not, it’s not you, it’s the universe — yes, blame the cosmos, as Mercury, the planet of communication, halts and appears to go backwards, causing all sorts of chaos on mankind.

Frightfully, this bizarre phenomenon happens three times a year and fortunately, this will be the last time in ’08. Officially beginning at 7:18 Universal Time on Sept. 24th and lasting until October 15th, the effects can be felt up until October 31st. What does this mean? In general, it means a period of pandemonium for all things regarding communication. That’s right, forget trying to make any major decisions — and definitely don’t sign any contracts (unless the deal comes from someone in the past or is renewing), backup your software, expect problems with travel and don’t rely on any of the information you get at this time.

There was a period in my early twenties, not too long after college graduation, and even sooner after the painful break-up of my first real relationship, that I hopscotched through a series of dead-end jobs (seven in four months!), dated recklessly, and pumped my body with substances I wouldn’t clean a carburetor with these days. Then, one day, perusing the self-help aisle in Borders, I came across a book on the “quarterlife crisis.” I picked it up, found a comfy chair in the back of the store, and skimmed enough pages to understand there was a name for what I was going through, a phase, and it was just a matter of time before I’d move past it.

This week on Project Runway, the designers were partnered with season five’s eliminated contestants and were challenged to create an avant-garde look based on the zodiac. Once Tim specified that the designs had to be based on the zodiac, I knew they would either be hot, stinking, costume-y messes or chances for the designers to really shine. I was disappointed by half of them.

How much do you LOVE the FriskyScopes written each week by our fabulous Astrosexologist Kiki T? Well now you can get them on the comfort of your desktop or share them with friends on Facebook with this handy-dandy FriskyScopes Widget! Just click “Show Menu” above, “grab” the FriskyScopes widget, and put it wherever your little heart desires. And tell your friends! We’d love to enrich their sex and love lives through the magic of astrology too. By the way, while you’re at it, head on over to our Widgets page and grab our Headline Widget and Amazing Guy Spy widgets. All the cool kids are doing it. [FriskyScopes Widget]

You know our girl Kiki T? She of the amazing FriskyScopes and Astrosexology Advice board in the Frisky Forums? Well, she’s a Renaissance woman—in addition to penning the fantastic Celestial Sexpots Handbook, she also recently became a featured expert on MyLifetime.com, where she dispenses sex and love advice straight from the stars. Check out her “Celestial Charm School” videos, especially the ones which give you the sexual and celestial lowdown on all the signs of the Zodiac. [Celestial Charm School With Kiki T]

Is your love life in a tizzy? Feeling trapped in a scandalous situation that only cosmic forces can pull you out of? Looking for answers that only fate can provide? If so, then you’ve come to the right place — right to the presence of Kiki T., the one and only Astrosexologist Extraordinaire and overall moral authority.  Spill your sexy secrets and find out how to satisfy yourself celestially. By learning all the astrological ins and out to love and lust, you can realize that getting some control isn’t necessarily light years away. Sure, Kiki’s FriskyScopes are awesome, but aren’t you hungering for more….specific advice? Head to Kiki’s board on The Frisky Forums and post a question about your own sex/love life—just be sure to include as much astrological info as possible so Kiki knows who she’s workin’ with.

From now through February 19th, Mercury turns retrograde because of Aquarius, aka your life is going to get seriously messed up. Watch your mouth and back up your computer files because for the next three weeks communication will get more damaged than Britney’s kids.  But don’t freak out, because now is the perfect time for introspection.  You should be chock full of ideas, focus, and independence. Just don’t let all that personal empowerment make you so stubborn you screw up your plans with other people. Namely, your boyfriend. Now is the perfect time for a huge, dish-throwing, drag-out fight. [Blog Her]