What Kind Of Gesture Would Get You To Take Your Ex Back?

Yesterday, I poured over Wendy’s “15 Signs You’re Over Your Ex,” and then immediately felt tempted to catch up on my Facebook “reading.” I’m weak, weak I tell you! I know I already cried on your shoulder about the “Signs You Should Take Your Ex Back” -- and then totally messed them up myself. Guess we all make mistakes. But I wonder, what if he had brought me flowers or even a box of candy one of those times he showed up at my door? Would a simple gesture have convinced me to give it one more go? That’s what Japanese artist Mashairo Minami bets. He just won first place at the Tokyo Midtown Awards for his Samurai hair-shaped candies, which say “I’m sorry, baby” oh-so sweetly. Since a Samurai’s badass chonmage (top knot of hair) is also a mark of his pride and status, giving you the lock, let alone an edible piece, is supposed to show any woman r-e-s-p-e-c-t. Now, if a guy goes and cuts his real hair off, we might think he’s gone crazy, but would a token of gummi candy do the trick for you ladies?

What would get you to take an ex back?

The way back to my heart is through my stomach. Candies, wining and dining, a special home-cooked meal, etc. Yep, that does the trick.
Candy is nice, but I'm into jewelry and fancy cars. You think Kim from "The Real Housewives of Atlanta" takes Big Poppa back for less?
It's hard to admit when I'm wrong. If he wants to talk it out, I know he cares and that's the only reason to stay together.
I'm in it for the make-up sex. If he says sorry and flashes those puppy dog eyes, that's good enough for me!
Nothing. If I take him back, I'm lying down and giving up when I just need to move on.
He has to do something super romantic, something so brag-worthy that Jennifer Aniston would want to star in the movie version of our love story.

comments

esmee
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 09:55 am: [report]

It would take me feeling like I’ll be alone forever and so going back to him. Which would suck for both of us. He shouldn’t be a fallback guy, even though he swears that would be enough for him.

And I know that I would end up breaking up with him for someone else—again. After doing it twice in 6 years together, I don’t want to do it again.

betty123
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 09:56 am: [report]

It really depends what ended the relationship. That would determine the level of taking him back. My ex cheated on me, a whole other story, so nothing he could ever do would make me take him back. However, I have other exes where the issue was simply timing and I would be willing to try again if I came across them by chance.

spatula
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 10:00 am: [report]

The f*cking apocalypse.

Anyone else wanna punch this istock photo guy in the balls?

Perceptible
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 10:00 am: [report]

I would die alone before taking any of my exes back. There is no amount of money, no gift, no “change of heart” that could do it. Ever.

It’s probably easy for me to say, since I’m in a committed relationship now with someone I’m totally in love with. But I was by myself for almost 5 years and even then, I wouldn’t have even taken a phone call from any of my exes. (Except for my son’s father. Blah. I have to talk to him. Ugg. But I would NEVER entertain taking him back. Ew. No. Just no.)

Riley
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 10:06 am: [report]

@Spatula - Thanks for the morning laughs.

EastCoastMale
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 10:20 am: [report]

hmm it would take them being a totally different person (literally) and us never having known each other before. An ex is an ex and I would never take one back or go back to one.

danila
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 10:28 am: [report]

It takes a hell of lot to actually break up with someone. Once it’s done…I’m DONE. I’m not going to take someone back because of some romantic gesture because the gesture doesn’t solve the initial problem. It covers it for a week, tops. Then the problems re-surface and I have to go thru the break up process all over again.

BlueVibe
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 10:36 am: [report]

I generally don’t take them back. I don’t break up over trivial things, so if I’m dissatisfied enough that it went that far, it’s probably over. But I would consider it if the break-up issue was a specific, potentially negotiable thing and we could agree to work on it.

majicksand
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 10:39 am: [report]

Gifts are definitely not the way to go. My ex husband thought that money would make me stay, but you’ll note he’s my ex husband. A man who geniunely realizes that he screwed up and lost the best part of his life might have a chance. It depends, of course, on why we broke up in the first place.

Perceptible
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 11:05 am: [report]

Obvs I voted for “nothing.” But the Jen Aniston option is too funny!

Lexington
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 11:14 am: [report]

Why isn’t groveling on this list? Or am I the only person that appeals to?

canthelpmyself
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 11:38 am: [report]

These options are all rather disappointing. I think that the given options fail to recognize what would be most important in getting back together with an ex- communication. Both parties need to look at why they broke up and if they can effectively communicate and work through their problems. If both people are willing to try, then it might be worth a shot. Buying candy or flowers is a nice gesture, but in the end they prove nothing.

lovelie
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 11:59 am: [report]

Hell to freeze over. I would honestly rather die a thousand painful deaths than ever even look at him again. True story.

powplz
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 12:11 pm: [report]

I’m down for “never” - my ex was an abusive, controlling, cheating piece of sht.

@spatula - yes, but that would imply that he had any.

*sam*
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 05:02 pm: [report]

I’m the type of girl that will spend years in a loveless relationship “just making sure” that it’s never going to work. Therefore, when I’ve finally managed to cut the strings, there is literally nothing the guy could do to take me back.

canadiancutie
wrote on November 4 2009 @ 11:22 pm: [report]

... nothing on God’s Green Earth.