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PurrVerse: Behind The Lens With Sex Worker Photographer Isabel Dresler

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Recently I got a chance to meet Isabel Dresler (safe for work), who I’ve taken to calling “photographer to queer porn stars.” She’s shot with some queer porn faves like Courtney Trouble, Dylan Ryan, Andre Shakti, and Siouxsie Q. We got to chatting at a shoot for the cover of the East Bay Express on the local porn scene, where Betty Blac, Jolene Parton and I helped fulfill her desire to have a photo taken while she was being smothered by breasts.

There’s an interesting combination of intimacy and high fashion that manifests under her gaze. I was curious to ask her a bit more about it, as well as why she decided to focus attention on marketing photos for sex workers. I liked how she called herself more of a scientist than an artistic photographer, investing her time in the study of her subject (which could be anything from insects to fancy homes). Everyone seems to be obsessed about the sex part of sex work, but it’s still work. As such, middle class indoor sex work often requires some practical and related investments: a decent website, a second phone, and, of course, some excellent photos.

Here’s my conversation with Dresler, after the jump: Keep reading »

Actual Thought Catalog Essay: “I Had Sex With A Trans Woman”

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Actual Thought Catalog Essay: "I Had Sex With A Trans Woman"

Hey guys, a straight cis dude fucked a trans woman even though he knew she was trans. Isn’t that amazing? Should he not be awarded the Nobel Prize for Enlightened Cock for putting his dick inside a woman who used to have a dick? After all, “she said she had all of her lady parts” and she did so that’s totally cool, right, bro? Maybe this bro will score sweet tang off the Hampshire grads he meets in a nearby coffee shop, because Love. Anyway, obviously this is on Thought Catalog and obviously you need to read an excerpt, which I shall provide here:

…I thought she was attractive before, so what’s the problem? None. There’s a first time for anything, anyway. She rocked me and made me fee like a stud. She even cleaned my dick with a cold wet rag after I came. It was great. And then I left.

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Girl Regrets Faking Her Period In Hilarious Tampon Commercial

Girl Regrets Faking Her Period In Hilarious Tampon Commercial
"Yeah, I got it. It's SO RED."

I have a distinct memory of being 12 years old and seeing one of my closest girl friends go off to huddle with another girl at school. “What were you talking about?” I asked her later. “Oh, we both just got our periods so….” she explained, her voice trailing off in such a way that indicated that I just couldn’t understand. I was so jealous, dying to be part of their special menstrual club. Of course, when my period finally arrived for the first time a few months later, I was horrified and burst into tears. Ahhh, hormones! This ad for Hello Flo — makers of menstrual care packages — does such a perfect job capturing the confusion of puberty, where all you want is your period … until you finally get it, that is. [YouTube]

Frisky Rant: I Get Laid Plenty, And I’m Still A Feminist

Frisky Rant: I Get Laid Plenty, And I'm Still A Feminist

Guys, close your eyes and imagine this.  You’re just trying to go about your life and do your thing, but there’s this chick who keeps tapping you on the shoulder to tell you really dumb, childish things.  She’ll say stuff like, “Hey, your shorts are stupid, and you look like shit in them.”  When you tell her she’s being an asshole, she claims you’re uptight and replies: “You just need to get laid!”

What the hell sense does that make, right?  The idea is that somehow you having sex will make you feel less angry about her being objectively rude.

This is a real thing that happened to me recently.  A guy made a blanket statement on social media that all women look like shit in high-waisted shorts and that we should all stop wearing them.  I pointed out that A) there’s a long history of men telling women what to wear that’s been detrimental toward our relationships with our bodies, and that’s sexist and uncool, B) we couldn’t possibly please everyone with what we wear because everyone’s got different tastes, so most people just wear what they want because they like it, and C) it’s rude to tell people they look like shit, especially when they didn’t ask for your opinion.  The response I got was two-fold: “You’re a cunt,” and “You obviously need to get laid.” Keep reading »

Your Ultimate Guide To Having Sex In Public (Without Getting Caught!)

Your Ultimate Guide To Having Sex In Public (Without Getting Caught!)

I hate admitting that I even have a bucket list in the first place, but I do and there are many things on it, and I hope to eventually cross all most of them off. While I know “Yoko-ing” a band and becoming the muse for the fashion designer Nicolas Ghesquière, à la Charlotte Gainsbourg, are likely impossible to achieve, there are still some things that I must do before I die – if only to kill the curiosity within and gain some bragging rights. One such item on the aforementioned list is having sex in public. Why? I don’t know. The thrill, maybe; the been there, done that, need to check it off my list, even more so.

Having just recently updated my bucket list to include a public romp (and running the Boston Marathon — haha, I can’t even run a half-mile!), my new husband and I ventured off on our honeymoon. Italy is a country of love, art, and pizza, so what better a place to have sex in public? It’s not like we’d be the first to take a roll in the grass of Boboli Gardens (where we made our first attempt), nor will we be the last to have sex in a dully-lit alleyway against some ancient ruin in Rome.

My husband, already having done the whole public sex thing, wasn’t as enthused as I was. “It’s different when you’re younger,” he said. But that didn’t deter me. After a couple of minor debacles, we pulled it off like champs, well, as close to champions we’re personally able to be, and I can proudly say that my bucket list is one item lighter. Does this make me a pro? Hell no! But from my experience and the experience of some others, I now present the ultimate how-to guide for having sex in public. It’s the summer, you guys; let’s get the most out of this warm weather, shall we? Keep reading »

Even Brown Bears Like Oral Sex

Birds do it, bees do it … even brown bears in Croatia do it. The journal Zoo Biology in Croatia has observed brown bears performing oral sex on each other over a period of six years, witnessing it 28 times! But Live Science really buries the lead here: it’s not just that the bears were doing the nasty, but it was two male bears doing it. Keep reading »

6 Things I’m Thinking While Going Down On You

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Some girls hate giving blowjobs, others can’t stop raving about how much they love it. Me? I fall somewhere in the middle. You’ve likely found that guys are pretty vocal about what they want (or physical, we’ve all experience the head-push) when it comes to oral sex, while us girls tend to keep our BJ opinions to ourselves because the male ego is très fragile.

Can we finally drop the curtain and talk about some of the thoughts that go through our heads while we’re giving head? I honestly don’t think there’s a funnier inner monologue anywhere, and I bet you too have experienced many of these feelings, observations and frustrations. Read more on College Candy…

Lea Delaria Was Worried PETA Was Going To Freak Over That Lil Boo Peanut Butter Scene On “OITNB”

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“Can I tell you how many #peanutbutter’s I got today on Twitter? I laughed so hard. I couldn’t believe the first one… And then there were suddenly like 10 more. … When it went down, I was a little nervous. Am I gonna be getting tweets from PETA? And it’s a joke… I also probably wouldn’t MacGyver a screwdriver into a dildo and fuck myself with it either. But bestiality exists.”

One of the first things I noticed when I started watching season two of “Orange Is The New Black” was that Lil Boo, the service dog that inmate Big Boo is training, was no longer on the show. (Spoiler alert ahead.) On the show, BBig oo revealed that their relationship was getting complicated and the camera cuts to an image of the vigorously dog licking peanut butter … the implication being that Big Boo was starting to think about doing something nasty with the PB and the pooch. It’s gross, yes, and  in a new profile on Buzzfeed, the actress Lea Delaria who plays Big Boo reveals she was just a little bit afraid that PETA was going to flip. So far, so good! [BuzzFeed]

Here’s What You Need To Know About Sex At The World Cup

I may not care about the results of the 2014 FIFA World Cup, but I do care about sex with hot soccer players. (Or, as they are called in most of the world, “football players.”) Fortunately, Quartz has researched a handy-dandy list of all the countries’ team sex policies for the 2014 games. The long and short of it (HA)? There are some pretty weird rules on pre-game boning. Spain and Germany, for instance, ban sex the night before a match. How this is enforced, I don’t know. Russian players aren’t allowed to bring wives or girlfriends, so presumably they are either employing the local sex trade or abstaining. And the French, being French, have all sorts of complicated rules about sex before games but mostly advise you get a good night’s sleep. [Quartz]

Study Says Women Are Aroused By Their Shoes

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Women see shoes as purely utilitarian accessories that help them get around town … right? Uh, not exactly. The online retailer Shoebuy.com has confirmed in a nationwide survey that women really do love their shoes—in ways that are a little surprising, The Oklahoman reports. Read more on Newser…

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