We live in a society that has us believe that if we’re not getting any, then our life is a failure. OK, that might be dramatic. But if you’re not getting laid your friends often look at you with pity in their eyes, as they try to console you with promises that you’ll have sex again, someday, even if that someday is five years from now. Read more on YourTango.com…
For years, there’s been a lingering stereotype that women just aren’t interested in watching porn. Well, not only do we now know from a number of studies that that stereotype is patently untrue (although frankly, all you’d need to do is look at my browser history to figure that out), we also know exactly what—and who—they’re watching, thanks to the latest Pornhub Insights study in collaboration with Buzzfeed.
Like most Pornhub Insights posts, most of the results of the study weren’t exactly surprising: Of course women are more likely to search for “porn for women” than “double penetration” or “gang-bang,” and of course women are more likely to search for James Deen than any other male porn star. Yet Pornhub did unearth one fascinating tidbit about heterosexual women’s bean-flicking habits: namely, how many women are tuning into lesbian or gay male porn. Keep reading »
Gettin’ down with someone new for the first time is exciting and nervewracking. There are so many decisions to make! Lights on or lights off? Do you get on top, or do you just park yourself on the bottom and hope for the best? Will it be evident that it’s been a minute? The thing about it, is that once you do it, it really is like riding a bike. You never really forget, you just have to get back on the horse. Hooking up with a new person for the first time can be totally awesome. Sure, there are awkward moments as you figure out each other’s moves and tastes, but the sexual chemistry carries you through. But there are those other times when your new paramour’s behavior in the bedroom is inexcusable. We all have our limits. Dudes, take heed. Here are some sex dealbreakers that will definitely not get you another lay. Keep reading »
This video from Vox shows magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) scans of human beings doing all kinds of nifty things, like blowing a trumpet, drinking pineapple juice, giving birth, and even having sex. Watching a penis thrust into a vagina — or what I assume was a vagina — is far less erotic than you think; in fact, it almost appears violent. Far sweeter is when two people are showing kissing and the MRI scan revealed how fast one person’s heart is beating. It’s all very cool and that science dork sort of way. And you thought “Masters Of Sex” was impressive! [YouTube]
I don’t know what it is about me that attracts male virgins. It could be that I’m vocal about just not giving a rat’s ass what people choose to do with their genitals (up to the point of criminality, obviously). I don’t care if people are gay or kinky or asexual or if they’ve slept with a hundred people. Not my biz. What people do or don’t do with their peens and vags doesn’t reflect on their character; the way that they approach their sexuality does (that is, preferably with respect and a sense of safety and responsibility).
So it kind of — OK, more than kind of — pisses me off that there’s a stereotype of male virgins as being necessarily not manly or masculine or cool. First of all, not having dipped your wick in a lady’s cooter doesn’t make you or not make you anything. And, of course, there’s the issue of vaginas or sex in general being transformative, as if having sex will make a man or break him. It’s a dangerous idea because it makes sex into something to be attained from somebody — sometimes at any ethical cost — rather than a fun and caring experience that two (or, hey, maybe more) people can share. Keep reading »