For the week of March 31-April 6, 2008
Aries (March 21-April 19)
Your hotness heats up, so aim high. Don’t waste time on charity cases and borderline crushes. You know they only occupy mental space that then makes you waste time analyzing his actions when deep down you could care less. Break free of those habits now. A worthy contender is coming; until then, save the juice for a more savory flavor.
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A natural birth control method that involves keeping track of your cycle with a set of beads and abstaining from sex from day 8 to 19 was shown to be nearly as effective (when used properly) as the Pill and more effective than the diaphragm or condoms, according to a study of 1,646 women in six different countries. We’re kind of skeptical though, because there were 14.1 pregnancies for every 100 women per year in the study. The main reason the women got pregnant, the researchers found, was that couples knowingly took a risk and had sex on fertile days. Ya think? Being forbidden from having sex 11 days out of every month is probably one of the best aphrodisiacs out there. [Reuters] Keep reading »
“Lots of things about my relationship are great, but the sex is vanilla — my boyfriend is weirded out by my collection of sex toys, and isn’t willing to experiment. What should I do?” — In Need Of Spice, New Orleans, LA
I think this depends on what kind of toys you have. If your collection is filled with gag-balls and strap-ons, I can’t say I blame your boyfriend for feeling uneasy. On the other hand, if all you want to do is lock him to the bed with furry pink handcuffs, there’s some room to negotiate.
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New Jersey native Sarah Reilly, 25, gives The Frisky the dirt on why she’s waiting for wedding bells before she does the dirty. It’ll truly be a Snow White Wedding…
So when and why did you decide to save yourself for marriage?
Well, my dad is a pastor and when I was a child my parents explained to us, my brother and sisters and me, why sex is beautiful and why it’s important to wait for that someone special. And on my 13th birthday I promised my parents and God that I would wait and my parents gave me a promise ring. Keep reading »
Lori took to the streets with quite a conundrum this week — would you rather do it in the exact same position or in a brand new position (no repeats!) every night for the rest of your life? Honestly…we pick the former. We aren’t that flexible or creative. Keep reading »
Hold on to your Prozac, because women who suffer from depression have 1/3 more sex than their “normal” counterparts. Finally, some news to cheer up my sad sisters! A study of 107 women, published in the British Medical Journal, found that when you’re down, you put out — no matter whether you’re in a committed relationship or ho-ing the road alone. Dr. Sabura Allen, who headed the study at Monash University in Melbourne, Australia, says, “When people are depressed they feel more insecure about their relationships and concerned that their partner may not care about them or find them valuable.” So they overcompensate to feel secure by getting naked, and as often as possible. As for the single girls they studied, researchers found they were more inclined to let loose and have adventurous casual sex. They make depression sound like Spring Break, without the hassle of traveling! [NY Daily News] Keep reading »
“I am dating a new guy and I want to have sex with him, but he’s extremely well endowed. If I start having regular sex with him will I stretch my vagina permanently?” — Dating Mr. Big
Unless his penis is the size of a 9 lb. baby, the answer is “no.” Vaginas have a lot of natural elasticity, and even expand with arousal. The width of a large penis is not likely to stretch your vagina any noticeable amount.
If this is an issue you’re worried about, try doing daily Kegel exercises. Kegels are like pilates for your vagina, tightening the muscles that surround the urethra, vagina, and anus. If you’re not sure which muscle to contract for this exercise, try testing it out while you’re peeing. The muscle you use the stop the flow of urine is the same one you should contract for kegels. Start with reps of 10 a day and increase as needed.
Now go have sex, my child!
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Have you ever dreamed that you slept with your father? Or rode a mechanical bull while a coworker watched? We have and were disturbed for months. Fortunately, dreams don’t always mean what you think they do, and having sex with your father is nothing to worry about, so long as it only happens in your subconscious. Here, we ask psychologist Veronica Tonay, Ph.D. to decode your crazy dreams each and every week, so that you can sleep at night, and dream some more.
THE DREAM IN QUESTION: I never had fantasy dreams when I was single, but now that I’m committed to one person, I have them all the time. I once dreamed that I met present-day Paul McCartney, my favorite Beatle, at a Stella McCartney fashion show. We had sex in an abandoned, pink Spanish-style house with no windows that was covered in ivy. Then, we moved it to the roof of his silver Mercedes, which was parked outside under a big tree. — Kickin’ It With Macca Keep reading »
Ever had sex with a guy who just lies there? Well, it’s booooorrrrrrring! Who wants a lazy lover? Well, actually, female spiders do. According to researchers at the University of Aaarhus in Denmark, arachnid females are sorta natural necrophiliacs. Technically, if their male suitor just plays dead, they are twice as likely to get laid as the males who use food as bait. The study, published in the journal New Scientist, showed that among pisaura mirabilis, a spider species native to Europe, lying motionless even made the sex better! Those male spiders not only increased their chances at copulating, they were then able to get it on for longer! Perhaps this is justification enough for why spiders will survive the apocalypse. [Nerve]
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Pandas are a bit shy when it comes to sex, and that’s not a good thing since the species is endangered. No sex=no pandas. It’s just that young, inexperienced pandas don’t really know what to do, and all pandas have low sexual desire. To help counter this, handlers at the Chengdu Research Base of Giant Panda Breeding are teaching male pandas a dance-like routine that involves hip- and pelvic-strengthening moves to boost the pandas’ stamina. They’re also making young pandas watch more experienced pandas’ love-making in hopes that they’ll pick up some moves. [CNN] Keep reading »