The New York Times had an interesting article in the Style section about two couples, both with books coming out, who made a commitment to have sex every day for a set period of time. One couple did it everyday for a year, the other for 101 days straight. The premise was that to keep sexual satisfaction going in a marriage, you kind of have to work for it — so these couples made a commitment to do it everyday, whether they were sick, not in the mood, running late for work, whatever the usual excuse might be to not drop your drawers and have a hump. An interesting experiment to say the least, and one I considered trying myself for about a half second, before I realized the feef goes out of town for work atleast once a month and OH YEAH, sometimes I would seriously much rather watch TV and paint my toenails. But what about you guys — is this an experiment you would be willing to try yourself? [NY Times] Keep reading »
“I’m on anti-depressants that have totally killed my libido but have made me feel much better in every other way. Should I consider switching to something different because of the sexual side effects or is there a way to increase my libido without coming off my meds?” — Pill Popper, via email
The sucky thing about anti-depressants is exactly this. They make you feel all nice and happy about things, but kill your sex drive…which in turn makes you depressed. It’s a vicious circle. Keep reading »
Songs about the walk of shame are getting trendier than energy drinks. And now the two have combined powers in one cool commercial, which, especially thanks to the dude in a thong and a trenchcoat, inadvertantly acts as an ad for sobriety and safe sex too. You may also want to protect yourself from the AMP Energy Drink it promotes (it probably tastes like Sweettarts on steroids), but at least the vid is straight up sweet. [World of Wonder]
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“What percentage of women ejaculate and why?” — Squirt Alert, via email
Female ejaculation (aka shooting or gushing) has been a topic of discussion for hundreds of years. Even Aristotle pondered about “vaginal expulsions”. Which I THINK begs an even different question: Aristotle was so good in bed he made women gush?
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The gadget loving guys at Boing Boing have made a list of the Top 10: Gadgets That Go Inside You. While we have a favorite that rhymes with habit (coincidence, we think not), we actually learned something about the least sexy thing you can shove in your secret garden — the speculum. You may joke that medical tools seem like Medieval Times torture devices, but as it turns out, the simple metal machine that opens us ladies up has been used on women since before the Dark Ages. The speculum has been traced to scholarly writings in a Hebrew book called the Talmud that dates all the way back to Ancient Egypt, circa 1300 B.C.E. That means most of your biblical female heroines had this “technology” in their hoo-ha, too! Although it’s older than dirt, it wasn’t officially named till Roman times. A speculum specimen was even unearthed from the rubble at Pompeii. Can you image the look on the 19th Century archaeologists’ faces when they discovered a mummified woman and dusted off her va-jay-jay? There’s another history lesson here: Do not go to the gyno near an erupting volcano. But if you think the vaginal speculum makes you squirm, just keep in mind that there’s an anal one for dudes. [Sexual Health Matters] Keep reading »
After a bad break-up, I hid in my room for a while listening to Beck’s sad Sea Change, clutching my childhood stuffed animal, Muffin, wondering what I did wrong. But after the obligatory period of self-pity, I was ready to move into phase two: the drunken rebound. My newfound freedom had me wanting some free love! So I rounded up my lady friends, put on my please f*** me pumps, and went out just to get back out there.
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“The skin around my vagina itches a lot. I’ve taken a look and there doesn’t seem to be any rash or visible problems of any sort – what could be the problem?” — Snatch Attack, via email
Most likely you have a yeast infection, especially if you’re experiencing abnormal discharge (white and clumpy). However, a yeast infection is only one possibility if you’re experiencing vaginitis, a term used to describe infections or inflammations of the vagina. Aside from yeast infections, vaginitis can be caused by antibiotics, excessive alcohol consumption, and allergies. A lot of women think they have yeast infections when they’re really allergic to latex condoms.
Before you head to the pharmacy to get an over-the-counter medicine (such as Monistat) make an appointment with your OBGYN to get an exam.
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“The guy I’m seeing just told me he has herpes – what should I know to keep myself infection free should we decide to have sex?” — Don’t Want This Gift Thanks, via email
Kudos to your guy for telling you early on. I can only imagine how awkward that conversation must be. “Hey, can you pass the salt? Also, I have herpes.” But he’s not alone. Apparently 1 in 4 adults in the US have herpes, and some never show any signs that they have it. How scary is that? Now that you know exactly what you’re dealing with, you have to decide how into this guy you are, and if you’re willing to risk getting the disease yourself. There’s no 100% guarantee that if you have sex him that you won’t get it. But there are ways to lower your risk significantly. Keep reading »
Traipsing through Europe with nothing but a briefcase of glass phalluses and a bunch of condoms, the silly and sexy team of Noah and Baron make us happy they brought along a video camera to catch all the hilarity on tape. Sent around the continent by Lifestyles condoms to talk about safe sex and cultural differences in the sack, these boys pull lovable Harold & Kumar-style hijinks as they try to cop a feel in each country. They hang off a balcony throwing condoms and telling people to go eff themselves in Amsterdam, they ask drunken Slovaks about penis size, and they get Swedes to come out of their shy shells and talk smack. The film shorts are like tagging along with your favorite guy friends from college as they try to get laid, but they’ll at least succeed at making you laugh. [Ad Freak]
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“I’ve heard about the various birth control pills that you can take to go without your period for a few months and longer. Are they really safe and recommended?” — Banning Aunt Flo, via email
Have you seen that SNL skit (clip after the jump!), where the women are going ape sh*t because they haven’t had their period in months? I have, and I have to say it scared that crap out of me. Keep reading »