“Ugh, the guy I have been dating will not shut the hell up during sex! He’s always directing me (“do this…do that”) or giving a play-by-play of every second (‘I love seeing your breasts bounce, blah blah blah’). How do I politely tell him to BE QUIET?” — Wishing I Was Deaf, via email
Ugh…that would drive me crazy! For me, talking non-stop in bed is like talking in the movies…totally uncalled for and annoying. But some chicks are super into it, and that’s probably why this guy you’re dating does it. An ex of his probably said, “Oooh, yeah. Tell me what you’re doing to me right now. Talk dirty to me!”, and he decided to work it into his sexual arsenal. All it takes it one girl to eff it up for the rest of us.
Go ahead and undo the damage caused by that beyatch and tell him talking during sex makes you feel weird. Tell him you’re not used to it and it takes your focus away from him. If he doesn’t understand or like what you’re saying, then you might be too late to save this one.
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According to the Chicago Sun Times, more women are applying to donate their eggs and act as surrogates as the economy worsens. This got me thinking about the other ways in which the poor economy — including skyrocketing gas prices, increased unemployment, and the mortgage crisis — are affecting the sex and love lives of women. Personally speaking, the poor economy has taken a negative toll on the real estate market — and since the man-friend and I are looking to move, aren’t finding much in our budget and are getting stressed as a result, romance has taken a little beating as well. After the jump, a list of how the recession is both hurting AND improving some women’s sex and love lives. Keep reading »
Ladies, it’s time we start embracing our vaginas and stop letting money hungry clinics, offering vaginal cosmetic surgery, dictate what makes a beautiful vajayjay. The Royal Australian and New Zealand College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recently warned that the trend of “designer vaginas” may be exploiting vulnerable women. Women in Australia, New Zealand, Britain and the U.S. have been trekking to these vagina spas to have vaginal rejuvenation, re-virgination, designer vaginoplasty and G-spot amplification. But the college said these procedures lack scientific backing and are dangerous and expensive–one procedure can cost as much as $9,500. The surgeries can also do more harm than good. Keep reading »
The Pill is a miracle. It’s 99% effective at preventing pregnancy, which is almost as good as you’re gonna get from abstinence. We said almost. While 12 million American women rely on the oral contraceptive to stop them from going prematurely preggos (Ashlee Simpson must not have gotten the memo), it’s unfortunately not indomitable. There are still five ways you can get pregnant while pill popping. Have your cervix take notes.
1. Alcohol: Since spirits lodge themselves in your liver, just like the pill, binge-drinking affects the way the medication is metabolized there. Keep reading »
Bad kissers can destroy good chemistry. No one likes to be slobbered all over and it’s especially embarrassingly in public. But before you go kicking honky lips to the curb, remember, sex is all about communication and any new lover needs some coaching on techniques to turn you on. While talking to a man about his moves is always a precarious situation, it must be done! Granted you have to tread more gently than when you snuck home after curfew as a teenager. So how do you stop the drool? Howcast.com has created an instructional video (see above) to talk you through your lip service problem. Watch, learn, and make out!
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According to Belgian researchers, how you walk is related to how you orgasm. They studied tapes of a controlled group of women walking on the street, where 50% percent of the group claimed they get an orgasm solely from stimulating their clitoris, while the other 50% can orgasm through intercourse without clitoral stimulation. The report is published with a lot of high-brow lingo, but basically, the “sexologists” associated a good strut, complete with sashaying hips, with the ability to orgasm with only penetration. Surprisingly enough, they were 81% accurate! Even still, these “experts” still weren’t able to pick out women who required clitoral stimulation….isn’t that the story of our lives. Something tells us this study is just a load of good guessing B.S. [Psych Central] Keep reading »
Do you have a license to lay? Brooklyn-based STF(ree) is making private issued cards so your potential lovers can check the results of your last two AIDS/HIV tests. No lying, no guessing, no putting off the inevitable. All you have to do is fill out their enrollment form and ask your doctor to send your lab results to STF. Then you’ll be issued an ID card. Using your personal number on the card and a private password you provide, people you’ve selected can call up the information line 24/7 and find out the truth about the party in your pants. It’s a small price to pay for some piece of mind to go with that piece of ass! Maybe this would come in handy if they ever legalize prostitution… [Via Boinkology]
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After last week’s post about proposed legislation in San Francisco that would decriminalize prostitution and our poll that indicated that 73% of you not only supported decriminalization but legalization as well, we decided to take a more in-depth look at both. After the jump, we break down the differences and the pros and cons of both. There may be a soap box moment from yours truly as well.
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Should I be worried that I think about Daniel Craig every time I have sex with my boyfriend? — Boning For Bond, via email
For the most part, fantasies are a healthy part of a sexual relationship. Letting images filter into your mind during sex is natural, and feeling anxiety about them only makes sex less enjoyable. Fantasies can be worrisome when they’re obsessive, or focus on one person. Thinking only of Daniel Craig or an ex when you have sex could signal a bigger problem with you or your relationship.
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We’ve been thinkin’ about hookers lately, after last week’s poll and our new obsession with Secret Diary Of A Call Girl. After researching ladies of the night in films and TV, we’ve noticed an interesting trend — pricey call girls are incredibly fashionable, as Secret Diary suggested, but news that Darren Star would be producing an HBO based on Diary Of A Manhattan Call Girl proves it. Play a hooker in a relatively “serious” movie, and guess what? Oscar is the only man you’ll take home! (Your chances are even better if the director is Woody Allen.) After the jump we break it down with the help of a fun timeline of sex workers on TV and in the movies. Keep reading »