In an article in the Daily Mail U.K., Rowan Pelling, a former editor of the Erotic Review, writes that modern erotica being published by women encourages casual sex and is a betrayal to women and feminism. I’m not up on the latest in erotica themes and trends — Pelling references books with titles like Loose Girl: A Memoir of Promiscuity and Confessions Of A Working Girl — so I decided to pick the brain of someone who is. Frisky writer Rachel Kramer Bussel is herself a successful erotica writer and editor and I suspected she’d have some thoughts on the subject. Her response, after the jump… Keep reading »
In an essay published on Nerve.com, Matt Morse writes about the time he roofied his wife to save their marriage. “Roofie” is the slang term for Rohypnol, commonly known as the date rape drug. Before getting married, Morse and his wife had an adventurous sex life filled with role-play, but after marriage, he writes, “our fantasies would have to be safe, like the rest of our over-insured suburban existence.” Before she requested that he participate in her date rape fantasy, Morse and his wife hadn’t had sex in three years. When she proposed the fantasy, Morse doesn’t even blink, his mind immediately wandering to cover the details.
“To drug and abduct my wife — but which drug? Television seems to have convinced her that date-rape concoctions are ubiquitous, as if I could just run to the nearest GNC or have a box overnighted from a website in Mexico. The latter might be true, but I’d prefer not to add my name to any FBI lists. So while she’s in the bedroom, I rifle through the medicine cabinet and find a stash of giant pink pills — some sort of narcotic from the dentist — and throw a small handful into the coffee grinder. Decisions, decisions. My costume, my fake name, my fake identity — there is so much that has to be just right. Konked-out victim? Her part is child’s play. I’ll be the one who has to drive the conversation and strike the proper balance between charming and sinister, all the while maintaining some sort of backchannel of actual attraction. I douse myself in aftershave and begin humming the jingle, or what I remember of it. “There’s something about an Aqua Velva man.” Oh yes, there is: He drugs strange woman and drags them back to his lair.
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Guys sure love tearing into our hymens. It’s about time we do too. Because, like, it’s part of you…or at least it was until you had pre-marital sex, you tramp! Just kidding, but seriously, knowledge is power. And like Wonder Woman and She-Ra before us, we deserve Powerful Privates, right? After the jump, a crash course in what we like to call “hymenology.” Keep reading »
Hi, I’m Dr. V. I’m not a real doctor, I just play one on the Internet. What I am is a lady, a lady who is a fool for love! And I love nothing more than sex. My deepest desires have happily led me on many adventures in the sack, but they have also, sadly, made me one of my gyno’s most valuable players. But I’ve lived to tell the tale(s)! So, from time to time, I will dish the dirt on everything from getting freaky to getting freaked out. Now, let’s get this party started…
This week’s Dr. V was inspired by a letter I received from a lady who just started dating a guy who wasn’t circumcised. She wanted to take their love life higher, but just wasn’t sure how to lift the darn thing with all that extra material. Rest assured, my friend, all penis models work the same way. If you’re sexy to them, they’ll be sexy to you! However, an uncut penis does require extra care. So, here are some tips for naked time with a man who escaped the snip-snip. And keep those letters coming, you know I love to read your smut too! To ask me a question, email firstname.lastname@example.org. Keep reading »
I had a rather unique sexual experience recently. My boyfriend and I were making love and I was overcome with so much emotion that I began crying. At first, he didn’t notice because we were going doggie style, but once I started sobbing and heaving he knew exactly what was happening. Like any guy, he thought I was crying because I was in pain. But I was just so happy to be with him that I was overcome by the love we share. Now emotions aside, I do have to say that we weren’t having spectacular sex. It was just satisfactory. Keep reading »
I have this theory, which our Mind Of Man confirmed, that men save their downloaded porn in folders with silly names. Like “Unicorns,” as DeVore wrote. And yes, I know women download porn too (although, seriously people, you can watch it online for free), and maybe I’ll tackle THOSE funny names another time. But for now check out the REAL names of porn folders, according to the plethora of men I just polled, after the jump… Keep reading »
Japanese designers create such beautiful products. Just look at MUJI, the non-brand brand that makes everyday items like tape dispensers and thermoses simply elegant. It doesn’t surprise us that another Japanese company has elevated the look of masturbators. Yes, that’s what the eggs pictured above are. Peel the egg, and there’s a stash of lube inside, which, when poured into the egg, creates a vagina-like environment. Sure, guys could be like Seth Rogen’s character in “Zack and Miri Make A Porno” and buy a Fleshlight, but you can’t hide a Fleshlight in your refrigerator very well. [The Trendy Girl] Keep reading »
In last weekend’s New York Times Magazine, “What Do Women Want?” took a deep look into what really arouses women. A study by professor Meredith Chivers at Queen’s University in Ontario monitored men’s and women’s levels of sexual arousal while they watched various video clips: heterosexual sex, homosexual sex, a man masturbating, a woman masturbating, a chiseled man walking naked on a beach, a well-toned woman doing calisthenics in the nude, and monkeys having sex. Among the findings? Women are much more turned on by gay sex and monkey sex than they admit. What else turns women on that they don’t confess to anyone? We asked nine women to tell us their secret sexual fantasies. Keep reading »
We’ve been lied to by our parents, the media and our social, educational, and religious institutions. The messages they’ve given us regarding sex have been contradictory or absolutely false. In order to combat the lies (and to stop lying to ourselves), About.com has come up with a list of the biggest lies we’re told about sex. Please add to this incomplete list in the comments. Keep reading »
The next time your man blames booze on his inability to, uh, rise to the occasion, you might want to tell him about this recent survey that suggests otherwise. Researchers in Australia discovered that alcohol actually improves rather than hinders a man’s performance in the bedroom. In a study of 1,580 men, drinkers reported 30% fewer problems than those who don’t booze it up. Guys who had four drinks, five days a week — an amount that might raise eyebrows in some circles, but qualifies as “moderate” in Australia — reported the fewest instances of erectile dysfunction. Apparently, even “binge drinkers” reported less trouble getting it up than those who have just one drink a day or none at all. The study suggests a “favorable association between low-risk drinking and positive erectile function.” In other words, “whiskey d**k” may just be something a guy should aspire to. Then again, the researchers never asked women how these drunk guys performed. [Daily Mail] Keep reading »