“Should I be worried that my boyfriend has been secretly watching Internet porn?” — Dating Mr. Skin Flick, via email
Internet porn for guys is like sex for our parents…they all do it, we just don’t want to think about it (and they don’t like to admit it).
A healthy amount of porn for guys OR girls is absolutely nothing to be worried about. If your boyfriend secretly watches porn it doesn’t mean he’s “cheating” on you. It just means that your guy is average, and falls into the statistic that guys think about sex every seven seconds. He also probably feels a little embarrassed that he does it. This is all totally normal. Keep reading »
The slang “natural born freak” is gaining some expert evidence. Like to be tied up, rode hard, and left wet…or do that to your lover? Well, some scientific theories are swirling that sadomasochism, whether you’re the dom or the sub, is innate. You’re born wanting to get it on with whips, handcuffs, paddles, gags, and leather or for those S&M vegans, pleather. While sadomasochistic sex has been portrayed in marriage manuals dating all the way back to ancient India, the roots of the desire are still being debated. In 1948, when renowned sex researcher, Alfred Kinsey, claimed nearly 50% of people like to be bitten during sex, scientists were shocked (or at least pretended to be). Ever since, the studies have been pouring in and people have been putting out, telling their deep, dark, dungeony secrets. Sure, some psychoanalysts think that S&M stems from fears of castrations or early childhood shame, but others have a new idea about the sex play. Vivienne Parry, a self-proclaimed S&M loving columnist with a science background [No relation! -- Editor], has done her homework and thinks that just like homosexuality, it’s in your genes if you like to get kinky. That it is in fact nature over nurture. Sounds like people are even more bound to bondage than they imagined! [Times] Keep reading »
Storytime! Over at Feministing’s newly relaunched site, a teenage user on their new community board recounts a story of trying to buy a pregnancy test with her best friend at a drug store and being refused because of her age. When the teen presents the fact that she legally has the right to buy a pregnancy test despite being “underage”, the drugstore teller tells her she shouldn’t be having sex in the first place. After much back and forth the teens were finally able to procure the test, but only after a teller in his late-teens allowed them. This is why a person’s personal beliefs on sexual activity shouldn’t be a factor when they’re on the job. Oh and the teen wasn’t pregnant in the end, thank goodness. [Feministing] Keep reading »
They don’t call it the golden years for nothing! Senior citizens are overwhelmingly sexually satisfied — to anyone who has seen Blanche Devereaux slut her way through an episode of the Golden Girls, this will come as no surprise. But the men are getting their fair share too — 54% of single men are sexually active, while 68% of married guys are hittin’ it on the regs. Strangely, married women are only at 56%…. Anyway, who’s been brave enough to ask all these old pervs about their sex lives? The University of Gothenburg in Sweden — they’ve surveyed 70-somethings since the ’70s. Thanks to them we’ll never look at Grandma and Grandpa holding hands the same way ever again, especially after yesterday revelation that STDs are up amongst this crowd as well. [Health News]
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So you know all those people having unprotected sex with multiple partners? Maybe it’s your MOM! Or your Grandpa! Researchers at England’s West Midlands Health Protection Agency found that over the last 10 years, STD rates had more than doubled among people ages 45 and older. Hey, Granny Goose, just ’cause you went through “the change” doesn’t mean you don’t need to strap one on when you get frisky with Mr. Hooper in the Senior Center activities room. [Time] Keep reading »
“The guy I’m dating is seriously under-endowed. Is this a total deal-breaker?” — Dick-appointed, via email
Have you had sex already? If you have, then you know the answer better than I do. Just ask yourself this: Was it good?
When women experience orgasms during sex, it usually has nothing to do with how far in a penis goes or how wide. Most women’s orgasms are clitoral, and are achieved when pressure from the man’s pelvic bone rubs against her. The G-spot (which needs to be stimulated in order for a vaginal orgasm to be achieved) doesn’t exist in every woman, but those who do have it can reach it with their finger. I don’t know when the last time you measured your finger was (I measure mine all the time), but it’s not that long. Get my drift?
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While sticking a bunch of microbicides up your hoo-ha may seem like a bad idea, turns out it may save your vaj from the likes of HIV and other STD’s. Researchers are currently conducting clinical trials at UCLA’s AIDS Institute for microbicides, a shield you would schmear in your vajane. Nowadays, women must rely on making sure their male sexual partners use condoms, but the hope is that this type of safeguard will help ladies take matters into their own hands. The study in the U.S. is based on the larger 12-month trial of microbicides involving 10,000 people currently underway in South Africa, Tanzania, Rwanda and Belgium. Fingers crossed we girls can get some protection! [Newswise]
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What with all the promiscuous sex the U.S. is having without condoms, we’re curious about how often you get tested for sexually transmitted diseases/infections. I will start: I last got tested, like, three years ago because I’ve been in a committed relationship for a lonnnng time, but prior to the man-friend I got tested every year. Now, take our poll! Keep reading »
Remember that poll we conducted about how often you use condoms? Well the result are in, and a whopping 46% of you don’t use condoms EVER. We were curious and wanted more info, so for those of you that don’t use condoms, please, oh please, tell us why. Keep reading »
“My girlfriend has Vaginismus. We have a great relationship and we hook up orally and with hands a good amount. Unfortunately, because of her condition, we can’t have sex because it is really painful for her. Obviously I am never going to push it on her because it is WAY harder for her than it is for me. But I’m still a guy and I can’t help wanting to do it. Fortunately, she’s in physical therapy for it now. My question is, how likely is it that she will get better, at least to the point of being able to have sex comfortably?” — Concerned Boyfriend, via email
If you ever want to imagine what Vaginismus is like, have a friend pretend to poke you in the eye. Know what happens? Your eye suddenly closes as the object gets closer. In the case of your girlfriend, your penis is the “poker”, and her vagina is the “eye.” Sooo not fun.
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