Last year marked a confluence of events both real (Eliot Spitzer and Ashley Dupre) and thinly fictionalized (Showtime’s “Secret Diary of A Call Girl”), that arguably made 2008 the Year of the Prostitute. A cache of articles glamorizing the oldest profession in recent months, combined with the economic tailspin, has put a question you might once have asked yourself in your darkest hour firmly at the fore: Would you sell your ass for money? Sure, the prospect of exchanging your goodies (and we’re not just talking sex, but any sort of sexual activity) for goods still carries stigma, and the feminist positions for and against are as numerous and complicated as the positions in the Kama Sutra. But the more attention the topic gets on the national stage, the less it stays a dirty little secret. Two women’s takes on the matter, after the jump… Keep reading »
In a recent article from “Men’s Health” a female writer decides to speak for her gender and tell the mostly male readers what women wish they’d do to get them off. Of the 18 fantasies she lists, I concur with six…well, maybe six and a half. The others are just so off-the-mark and absurd, I worry about men incorporating these fantasies into their sexual routines and turning off women so dramatically that all sex becomes just a fantasy. After the jump, a few of the “women’s fantasies” that are especially ridiculous. Keep reading »
With the proliferation of straight girl-on-girl action being popularized in the media — from “Girls Gone Wild” and Miley Cyrus’ sleepover kiss, to Katy Perry’s hit “I Kissed A Girl” and super-babe Megan Fox admitting she had a girlfriend — there has been a great change in the way female sexual orientation is perceived. It has become more of an open spectrum than a box. There is a clear upside to straight women making out with another woman without anyone batting an eyelash — we should all be free to do what and who we feel without judgment. However, Details magazine has tried to explain the downside. In the article, “Flirting With Disaster,” men recount how their lesbian fantasies became an obsession that turned into a variety of devastating scenarios. From the guy who pressured his girlfriend to the point that she felt violated, to a guy whose threesome dirty talk made his wife realize she was gay, sometimes taking a chance that seems irresistible can bring about the downfall of a relationship. However, the real problem here is that men often feel like they are responsible for and therefore dominate the desires and sexual expression of both people in a relationship.
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A new study reveals that when it comes to a woman’s pleasure during sex, size does indeed matter, but not in the way you may think. Apparently, men with large incomes give women more orgasms than men with smaller ones. The Chinese Health and Family Life Survey interviewed 5,000 Chinese people about their personal lives, including questions about their sex lives, income and other factors. Of the 1,534 women surveyed with male partners, 121 reported always having orgasms during sex, while 408 more had them “often”. Another 762 “sometimes” came while 243 had them rarely or never. These figures are similar to those for western countries. While there were several factors responsible for these variances, money was attributed as the main factor. Study author, Dr Thomas Pollet, said: “Increasing partner income had a highly positive effect on women’s self-reported frequency of orgasm. More desirable mates cause women to experience more orgasms.” Dr. Pollet believes this phenomenon “is an ‘evolutionary adaptation’ that is hard-wired into women, driving them to select men on the basis of their perceived quality.” So basically, he thinks women are biologically predisposed to be gold-diggers. Surely there are other reasons women may have orgasms more frequently with wealthy men. Perhaps men with larger incomes are more sexually confident; Maybe they have less anxiety about their flaws and, um, shortcomings, making them better lovers; Or, maybe, just maybe, this study is totally bogus. [Times Online] Keep reading »
Wake me up at the crack of dawn looking for sex, and I’m likely to ignore you, or yell at you — and not in a dominatrix type of way. To put it mildly, I’m not a morning person — or, rather, I’m up for “morning sex,” if 11:59 a.m. counts as “morning.” But others have different ideas on the matter, so I asked my friends what time of the day equals sexytime for them. Keep reading »
Sure, all anyone is talking about these days relating to Washington, D.C., is the inauguration, but there are other things going on in our nation’s capital. Like giant pandas trying to make babies. Mei Xiang and Tian Tian, two giant panda’s at the National Zoo, tried to mate throughout the day last Thursday without success. “Because competent mating did not occur,” a statement from the zoo said, vets had to insert some of Tian Tian’s semen into Mei Xiang’s uterus. You might be thinking that these kids just need a few more days of love-making, but, unfortunately, scientists believe giant pants are able to conceive only one or two days a year. And while the couple have successfully given birth to one baby panda, in 2005, they weren’t so lucky in 2002, 2003, 2004, 2007, and 2008. We’ll know in 90 to 185 days whether Mei Xiang is going to give birth. [Washington Post] Keep reading »
On the newest episode of “The Real World: Brooklyn” (the show started last week and has been relatively boring), one of the male housemates made a big show of having to use Magnum condoms. Oh really dude? Seriously, there is no bigger marketing scam than Magnums, except maybe New Coke, only New Coke failed, and Magnums, for whatever reason, are still on shelves. Keep reading »
Hi, I’m Dr. V. I’m not a real doctor, I just play one on the Internet. What I am is a lady, a lady who is a fool for love! And I love nothing more than sex. My deepest desires have happily led me on many adventures in the sack, but they have also, sadly, made me one of my gyno’s most valuable players. But I’ve lived to tell the tale(s)! So, from time to time, I will dish the dirt on everything from getting freaky to getting freaked out. Now, let’s get this party started…
This week, I got an alarming phone call. My most recent ex-boyfriend went to get tested like a sensible young man and I’m so proud of him — but I’m sorry he had to call me with his results. While it wasn’t good news, I’m truly grateful he talked to me about it openly. Sex is dirty, and sometimes you can’t totally clean up the mess, but you can always take measures to stop it from spreading! I know my ex was not so thrilled to have to call me to tell me to get tested too, however, it made me realize why I was with him in the first place. He’s respectable and responsible for divulging what he knows with me, for better or for worse. Although it can be a tearful inspiration, I’d like to dedicate this installment of Dr. V to all the men and women, like my ex-boyfriend out there, who are brave enough to pick up the phone and show someone they still care by telling them the truth about their health and the risks they shared. According to the CDC, who just this week reported 19 million cases of STDs in 2007, there are a lot of people who need to make a similar confession. So, here’s how you do it, as pain-free as possible.
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When we heard our friends at AskMen.com wrote a book on how to get women from the bar to the bedroom, we were convinced the “tips” were going to be wild ways to get a lady drunk. However, we found “The 11 Rules For Picking Up And Pleasuring Women” to be, well, kind of sweet. From “Express Yourself” to “Keep Her Satisfied,” the tips seemed more focused on connecting and mutual satisfaction than just an ego-fueled crotch conquest. Go figure! They should consider changing their name to AskGentlemen.com. Anyway, while those goals are inspirationally high falutin’, here are some quick, tangible, girl-approved ways a man can up his chances of wooing us from the bar to the bedroom.
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Durex’s new ad, featuring condom balloon animals doing it in various positions, is so amazing and funny, it could do a lot for the rubbers’ public image. After all, more than one guy (and girl) has complained to us about hating them, despite knowing they’re necessary in order to prevent pregnancy and the spread of STDs. After the jump, we tracked down even more hilarious outtakes from the condom balloon animal video shoot — those horny humpers sure get outta hand. Keep reading »