In “The Great Girlie Gross-Out,” Salon’s Rebecca Traister takes a look at the online phenomenon in which women, mostly young women, share intimate things about themselves that others may or may not want to know. The most notorious offenders include Moe Tkacik’s tale of a wayward tampon, Tracie Egan’s ongoing urinary tract infection problems, and Miranda Purves’ post-childbirth … jellyfish. Without a doubt, “Oversharing is in.” The question is: Is all this spewing too much information — or the voice of a new generation of women who aren’t afraid to be candid about their bodies? Ultimately, the intention may be more about getting attention than getting empowered. “We have edged away from a time when talking openly about the female body was necessarily a brave political statement and into one in which it can be self-promotional, potty-mouthed and kind of sweet.” Or, as Tkacik confesses: “You write gross things for page views too.” In other words, postfeminist chicks mistake clicks for politics. [Salon] Keep reading »
If a woman knows how to suck a Popsicle, she’s halfway to being a fellatio expert. But what prepares a man for going down on a woman? Like most women, we’ve had the unfortunate experience of being with a guy who is willing to go down but has no idea what he’s doing when he gets there. Tell him? Well, we didn’t want to hurt his feelings. It’s hard to talk about sex when you’re in the middle of it. After the jump, women reveal what they really want. Keep reading »
We told you how to have sex in public, but we didn’t tell you exactly where to go at it. Who can keep track of all the options out in the world? Apparently, Outdoor Lovemap can. If you’re looking for the ideal location to make love alfresco, this interactive map will help you find a spot that has been suggested by people who know from personal experience. How else would you have known about Alaska’s Matanuska Glacier — by asking the locals? So far, Outdoor Lovemap encompasses 20 countries, but perhaps you have a few places you’d like to add to the list. [via Flavorwire] Keep reading »
Valentine’s Day is about sharing your love. Forget the usual cheesy crap and give holiday favors you can enjoy as a couple. Here are our favorite present picks for pairs who want to get frisky and give each other the gift that keeps on giving … Keep reading »
I must say that, ever since I took Women’s Studies in college, I’ve been a natural sort of woman. I assumed that men who wanted their partners to wax their pubic area were closet pedophiles. Pubic hair, I reasoned, was what made a woman a woman. Why get rid of it? Keep reading »
As the economy goes soft, some women are seeking to earn extra cash as freelance sex workers. As it turns out, there’s a market for powerful career gals who can dominate a man’s world — literally. According to Tracy Quan’s “Kinkonomics,” recently laid off ladies are freelancing as professional dominatrixes. Although sex workers generally consider pro-domme work the most difficult sex work, these well-educated, middle-class working girls have decided to try their hand at the kinky version of the world’s oldest profession. It’s another type of economic stimulus package; this one includes bondage, verbal humiliation, and foot worship. [The Daily Beast]
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Beyond those “Boogie Nights” and the rise of video, internet porn has really been putting the lick in click. Still, there seems to be something missing from porn — good old-fashioned making out. Susan Walsh asks: “Is Porn Changing The Way We Kiss?” Sucking face is an essential part of lovemaking, baby! So, we decide to ask Joanna Angel, the punk rock porn star and female founder of BurningAngel.com, why there isn’t a lot of kissing in porn. Keep reading »
My girlfriends and I got to talking the other night (okay, actually it was several nights with several different girlfriends and several bottles of wine). You may guess where this is going. The funny thing is, I thought I did too. Keep reading »
In an article in the Daily Mail U.K., Rowan Pelling, a former editor of the Erotic Review, writes that modern erotica being published by women encourages casual sex and is a betrayal to women and feminism. I’m not up on the latest in erotica themes and trends — Pelling references books with titles like Loose Girl: A Memoir of Promiscuity and Confessions Of A Working Girl — so I decided to pick the brain of someone who is. Frisky writer Rachel Kramer Bussel is herself a successful erotica writer and editor and I suspected she’d have some thoughts on the subject. Her response, after the jump… Keep reading »
In an essay published on Nerve.com, Matt Morse writes about the time he roofied his wife to save their marriage. “Roofie” is the slang term for Rohypnol, commonly known as the date rape drug. Before getting married, Morse and his wife had an adventurous sex life filled with role-play, but after marriage, he writes, “our fantasies would have to be safe, like the rest of our over-insured suburban existence.” Before she requested that he participate in her date rape fantasy, Morse and his wife hadn’t had sex in three years. When she proposed the fantasy, Morse doesn’t even blink, his mind immediately wandering to cover the details.
“To drug and abduct my wife — but which drug? Television seems to have convinced her that date-rape concoctions are ubiquitous, as if I could just run to the nearest GNC or have a box overnighted from a website in Mexico. The latter might be true, but I’d prefer not to add my name to any FBI lists. So while she’s in the bedroom, I rifle through the medicine cabinet and find a stash of giant pink pills — some sort of narcotic from the dentist — and throw a small handful into the coffee grinder. Decisions, decisions. My costume, my fake name, my fake identity — there is so much that has to be just right. Konked-out victim? Her part is child’s play. I’ll be the one who has to drive the conversation and strike the proper balance between charming and sinister, all the while maintaining some sort of backchannel of actual attraction. I douse myself in aftershave and begin humming the jingle, or what I remember of it. “There’s something about an Aqua Velva man.” Oh yes, there is: He drugs strange woman and drags them back to his lair.
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