What do you do if you’re an advice columnist who gets a letter from a young woman with questions about her crush on the twins sisters who make up the band Tegan & Sara? If you’re Dan Savage, you go right to the source and ask Tegan to answer the question for you. A woman wrote to the sex advice columnist saying:
I’ve been confused about my sexuality for two years. I am a 22-year-old female. I liked guys when I was in school, but then, in perhaps the most stereotypical of fashions, I developed a HUGE crush on Tegan and Sara when I was nearly 20…
Does that make me gay, she wondered?
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“Dude, it feels so f**king good,” screams the naked woman getting her boyfriend’s name tattooed in her asshole at a Florida tattoo convention. “There is no f**king way that’s true!” responds me, the woman who been inked three times (but never on my ass or butt-hole region, for the record). I’m just not buying it. That shit has to hurt. Although Asshole Tattoo Girl makes a valiant effort to convince us it doesn’t. Also, she appears to be taking shots or something while the gun is in her anus. She’s definitely on something strong. Thanks, again Florida! You always bring us the best news. [BlackBook]
The most famous editor of Cosmopolitan magazine, Helen Gurley Brown, has died at the age of 90, according to a press release from Hearst. The controversial editor, who was also the author of the groundbreaking Sex and the Single Girl, passed away at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia after a short hospitalization. Brown was in charge of Cosmo for 32 years, and is credited with the mag’s sexually frank tone. She made news earlier this year when she donated $30 million to Columbia’s School of Journalism and Stanford’s School of Engineering. [The Wrap]
18 Again: it’s not a sequel to the Zac Efron romantic comedy “17 Again.” It’s a vaginal tightening gel and lubricant available in India. In this commercial set in a family’s home, a woman dances with her lover to a song that sounds likes Madonna’s “Like A Virgin” while hinting at him that she is — wink wink nudge nudge — “18 again” down there. Keep reading »
Go ahead, just guess. Fancy faucet? Nope. Ornate door knocker? Wrong again. This is a rare 19th century, copper anti-masturbation device. The oh-so-comfie looking chastity cup was strapped on with a belt and worn by boys in France in the late 1880′s to prevent them from committing the “sin.” This cruel antique was auctioned off on eBay in 2008 for starting price of a little under $1,000. I just hope the lucky owner is not using it. Oh, the things the Catholic church came up with to keep people from getting off. At least they had the decency to include pee holes. But still. Sad face. [Dangerous Minds]
First date, second date, kiss, have sex, meet the parents, move in, get engaged, get married, have kids.
This is the default for men and women living today in the United States (other countries may vary). Why is this our default?
Mostly because of Disney movies. That’s how we were programmed as a kid and that’s what we assume as adults. We unconsciously mold to this model, even when it’s not what we intended. Sometimes we meet girls and don’t want a relationship. What’s an honest man to do?
The secret is proactive communication. Read more…