Horndogs looking for a quick cuddle-and-run, listen up. A new study from really smart scientists has found that the chances of a cuddle session leading to sex are only one in six.
Researchers at the University of Michigan looked at the methods, motivations and eventual outcomes of the average couple’s cuddling sessions, and the results show it usually only leads to conversation, not copulation.
Over 500 men and women in relationships
were asked about the nature of their cuddling, defined as “intimate, physical and loving contact that does not involve sexual behavior and that involves some degree of whole body touching, not just hand to hand or lips to lips.” Read more…
Are you guys as obsessed with the Food Network as we are? We could spend hours watching enthusiastic chefs whip up culinary masterpieces and compete on ridiculous food-themed game shows. But sometimes while we’re enjoying a marathon of “Chopped” or “Cupcake Wars” we find ourselves getting a little, umm, excited. We thought it was time to pinpoint our specific Food Network turn-ons, so we made a list of 11 sexy chefs, desserts, and haircuts that really get us going. Click through to check ‘em out, and please add your own foodie fetishes in the comments!
“It’s really straight guys who get the bum rap. The way straight people have redefined marriage, and the way they define sexuality, it’s really unrealistic about male sexuality … And reading letters from straight guys made me hugely sympathetic to straight guys. And I was already sympathetic to straight women, because men are pigs and I sleep with men so know what that’s like. I arrived sympathetic to straight women—I became sympathetic to straight men, reading these bat-shit letters from straight guys who were being terrorized and being driven crazy, because sex is scarce if you’re a straight guy.”
– Dan Savage on being a gay man giving sex advice to straight men. You can read some more really interesting excerpts from Dan Savage: The First Gay Celebrity, an e-book by Mark Oppenheimer here. I never really thought about sex being scarce for straight guys. I was too busy thinking about how sex was scarce for me. But I suppose that has been, for the most part, by choice.[The Atlantic]
Are you feeling a bit bored in the bedroom? Is sex with your spouse feeling awfully routine lately? If so, help is on the way.
In this video, relationship coach, sex therapist and YourTango Expert Moushumi Ghose explains that “in long term relationships, sexuality ebbs and flows. Sometimes the sex will be exciting and passionate and sometimes its going to be a bit of a lull.”
Moushumi suggests that “[i]t’s very important that you communicate your needs to your wife as well as asking your wife what her needs are and what needs that she might not be getting met.” To have a healthy marriage and sex life, “communication is key.” Read more and watch the video!
A few years ago ….
Today, in 2012, I avoid him as much as I can. But my friend (?) Richard used to joke (?) that I only called him when I broke up with my boyfriends. Kinda true, kinda false. Regardless — a few years ago — I don’t even call him this time, I just end up at his apartment for some small party.
He scents the pain in me, and suddenly we’re in a back room, alone. One of the reasons he’s so good at this is that he smells vulnerability like a shark smells blood. I don’t remember whether I ask him to hurt me, or he just grabs me. “Something’s close to the surface,” I tell him, while he leaves bite-shaped bruises on my upper arm. He knows me; he doesn’t leave bruises in places I can’t cover with a t-shirt.
“What is it?” he asks, and I choke on it. I’m already starting to cry. We’ve only been doing this for a moment.
“Red,” I say. The safeword. I’m sobbing. “Red.” Richard stops immediately. “Tears,” I say. “Tears were close to the surface.” Keep reading »