Jessica Valenti posed an interesting question over at Feministing this week — should we be encouraging women (and men) to have pre-marital sex? She argues that yes, we should, writing:
“Because, let’s face it — if you’re going to commit yourself to someone for (presumably) the rest of your life, it’s probably best if you know that you’re sexually compatible … Do I think that people can have perfectly wonderful satisfying relationships without having had sex before making a commitment? Sure, I’m positive that happens often. But considering what a huge role sexuality plays in our lives and relationships … well, I’d rather be super duper positive.”
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Our editor Amelia is turning 30 in a week and her essay on the subject really resonated with Frisky readers, both younger and older than 30. With that in mind, we’ll be reposting our “Before 30” series, which originally ran late last year, over the next few weeks. Enjoy! Keep reading »
So I’ve heard about this “sperm allergy” before but never really knew if it was true. Believe it or not, scientists confirm that not only is it a legitimate allergy—the technical name is “seminal plasma hypersensitivity”—but it’s also really common for women. Stats say that between 20,000 and 40,000 women in the U.S. are allergic to their man’s spunk. About 30 minutes after sex, sufferers may experience hives, swollen eyes, diarrhea, and breathing problems—the same symptoms common to food allergies. What are women suffering from this allergy supposed to do? Become celibate? Subscribe to a “sperm-free” diet? Carry around an epi-pen for sexytime? Not necessarily. Doctors say, aside from using condoms, there may also be a vaccine that can help woman’s body become more tolerant. Good news, I guess? [Glamour] Keep reading »
Masturbation isn’t a very sexy word. But despite its poor branding and marketing, self-lovin’ gets us all (hopefully) to the big O. So, rather than harp on the weird choice of word, like vagina (not the best work of the English language), why not try one of these ridiculous euphemisms for “dancing with myself”? Hey, they might inspire you to come up with more, uh, nicknames.
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I went to the very liberal Sarah Lawrence College, where they often invited sex workers to campus to talk about sex toys, BDSM, even squirting. I was exposed to more nudity, dildos, vibrators, and threesomes than I’d care to mention. It was awesome. My brother and dad went to the more conservative Duke University, where they’ve recently been conducting a study on women and sex toys, inviting female students to sex toy parties (think: like an old-fashioned Tupperware party) where they can buy erotic toys, lingerie, and games. Before and after, the students fill out a survey about their thoughts about sex. But the Duke Catholic Center is pretty pissed about this research. Reverend Joe Vetter thinks that the study doesn’t promote relationships and wants to discuss this atrocious study at mass. [News & Observer] Keep reading »
This week I got a letter from a lady whose man has been stickin’ it to her, even if he doesn’t know how hard he’s been working:
My boyfriend and I just moved in together and we’ve been doing it all the time, including a couple nights ago when he woke me up in the middle of the night to have sex. He started going for it, not me. But the next morning, he didn’t seem to know we had sex. He swears he doesn’t remember it AT ALL. Come on! Is he joking? At first I was like, What does it matter? But really, I’m kinda freaked out. How could he have sex with me and not remember? We did go out drinking with some friends that night, but we didn’t get wasted. I’ve seen him a lot drunker than that! Is he playing a joke on me? I don’t get it. I can’t stop trying to figure out why he’d lie to me. Is it really possible we had sex and he had no idea?
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Here’s the second Frisky “Sex Diary,” in which an anonymous person shares the details of her sex life over the course of a few days. Sometimes these entries will be racy and filled with revealing romps, while other times there will be nary a naked moment in sight. Some of these diarists will be frequent contributors. Want to share a page from your sex diary? Email firstname.lastname@example.org. All entries will be anonymous.
Today we have a sports widow who is not sure her libido is going to survive football season! Keep reading »
Because fruit bats, it seems, have been doing it just as long as us. Very few animals engage in oral sex, but according to scientific research, fruit bats are all about blowies. During copulation the female fruit bat “lowers her head to lick the shaft or the base of the male’s penis but does not lick the glans penis which has already penetrated the vagina.” And the male bats love it so much that if the female bat gives them a little licky-licky during copulation, they’re likely to last longer. HAWT. [PLoS ONE] Keep reading »