“[W]hat does it say about our culture that it’s plausibly a ‘nightmare’ for a physically attractive 30-year-old woman to be seen topless at a private home with her husband? I wouldn’t dream of criticizing any Duchess Middleton reaction to this. In a similar position I might well be very upset at the invasion of privacy. What I couldn’t help but imagine is how awesome it would’ve been had Middleton called a press conference on a nude beach, arrived topless with a thousand women, and told the assembled press, “The photographer who invaded my privacy had no right to capture those images, but I face that nightmare on a daily basis. And no one gives a damn until one of them photographs me topless? Grow up. I am unashamed of my body. In fact, I rather love it, as all these woman love their bodies. That makes some immature people uncomfortable. And it is their problem, not mine. If you’re sitting at home obsessing over photos of me topless, or giggling and pointing on the streets, it’s you who should feel embarrassment and shame, not me. I refuse to do it anymore.” Ours is a society where that People cover makes sense, and that speech would never happen. We’re doing it wrong.”
– The Atlantic writer Conor Friedersdorf in a fantastic piece about how we all need to learn how to deal with boobs. That’s basically the thesis: Boobs — deal with ‘em. I strongly encourage you to read the whole piece, which addresses the dual stories of Kate Middleton’s nude photos and also the teenaged girl, Amanda Todd, who committed suicide last week after a man photographed her breasts and showed them to her friends. Neither of these things should be a big deal, he argues, yet they are persistent cultural taboos. Friedersdorf hits the nail right on the head: the very same society that tells breastfeeding mamas they should go feed their infant in a dirty bathroom stall is the same society that makes teen girls think their naked boobs are something they should be ashamed about. The simple fact of the matter is that breasts should not be taboo. Be modest, if that suits you. Don’t be modest, if that suits you better. But breasts are not sinful or shameful or bad. [The Atlantic]
A study recently published by Dutch psychologists showed that when women are sexually aroused, their disgust tolerance increases — not just regarding sex, but across the board.
In the study, the aroused group of women were less disgusted when asked to touch a “bloody” bone (actually it was red ink) or put their hands in a bowl of allegedly used condoms (which were actually not used, but covered in lubricant). The study also contained two other groups of women who were not aroused.
This study makes lots of sense to me. In my clinical practice, I am always looking for ways to help women reduce their aversions to certain sexual acts or bodily fluids. As shown in the study, if they are able to become aroused, they need less assistance. Unfortunately, for the the women I treat, the flames of passion are all too often extinguished. Read more…
Following the news that charges of child neglect and abuse would not be brought against her, Octomom Nadya Suleman celebrated at NYC’s XL Hot Mess Drag Review. You might recognize the name from Tanning Mom’s appearance at the same show back in August. Sorry Octomom, Tanning Mom’s been there, done that, and flashed her panties on the red carpet to prove it.
Octomom tried her damnedest to outdo Tanning Mom. The mother of 14 got wasted, pretended to breastfeed plastic baby dolls, simulated oral sex on a drag queen and screened a clip from her new porno, “Octomom: Home Alone.” Mercy, Octomom. You win the title of worst mother. Please, stop now. [Buzzfeed, Huffington Post]
With all the candy, costumes and wild parties, Halloween is the perfect holiday to trick-or-treat for hookups. We say, capitalize on the cheesiness of the holiday and test out so totally lame pickup lines. Worst comes to worst, the person who rejects you will never know what you really look like. They’ll just remember you as that pervy witch who tried to get in their pants. No loss, no foul. After the jump, pickup lines especially for Halloween! Keep reading »
So what does a male orgasm feel like? Do orgasms differ drastically between the sexes? On our search to find out what exactly goes on in a man’s head and body during sex, we first examined what we already know:
For starters, the male orgasm is significantly shorter, more intense and can, usually, only be experienced once during a single sex session. Women on the flipside, if properly stimulated, can pop out a series of orgasms with little recovery period. Secondly, the male orgasm unleashes a rush of drowsy hormones—norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, nictric oxide and the hormone prolactin—making it next to impossible for men not to feel sleepy after sex.
But what exactly does a male orgasm feel like, we wonder. To find out, we asked a few bonafide, penis-owning individuals if they could put it into words that coveted five seconds of orgasmic bliss. What we found? The question was downright hard. Asking men to explain the male orgasm was akin to having them describe the color orange. Regardless, we managed to cull a few truths. Read more…
Abstinence-only education starts with the idea that teenagers listen to adults and manages to get even stupider. It’s working to turn the only life-threatening problem in the world that can be fought by balloons into a biblical plague. We’ve reached a point where even the Pope OKs some condom use, and he thinks about sex the same way non-Popes think of the Ark of the Covenant: imagining what the other side has while believing that looking directly at it will melt the soul from your body.
Abstinence-only education turns sex education into an oxymoron, deliberately not teaching people things we know about. It’s what happens when a species breeds so successfully, they start showing off. It’s the reproductive equivalent of riding a bike with no hands and eyes closed: They’ll keep pumping away for a bit, but pretty soon they’ll screw up and their crotch will hurt. The only way to teach something so stupid is to be extremely stupid, and that’s the only thing these campaigns got right. Read more…