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Is Oral Sex About To Become Extinct?

I’m concerned for the future of oral sex, folks. A few unflattering news items are threatening to make our favorite pastime a thing of the past. What a tragedy that would be. After the jump, the latest bad news about oral. We’re sorry, old friend. Keep reading »

A Sex Toy Store For Muslims Only

Frankly, I don’t know if there are sex toy — er, “marital aid” — stores out there just for Christians or just for the Jewish, but there is one just for Muslims. The Amsterdam-based business is called El Asira, and it was created by Abdelaziz Aouragh, a 29-year-old Dutch-Moroccan orthodox Muslim who, one imagines, looked into the future and decided the world’s “first halal sex shop” promised to be the next big thing. According to Aouragh, who opened the store late last month, the outlet has been sanctioned by fatwa thanks to a Saudi sheik, so long as the products — lube, condoms, sexual stimulants — are used within the context of marriage and are animal fat-free. In the spirit of discretion, the site features no provocative pictures of hot-and-bothered men and women or racy language, and they don’t sell anything battery-operated. And Aouragh claims part of his mission is transforming the image of Muslim women. “The image of women in the kitchen, submissive, dressed in a burkah isn’t true,” he says. “Our shop puts the woman at the centre of things.” Sadly, the site is temporary offline. Observant Muslims will have to wait a little longer for their Islamic sex shop. [True/Slant] Keep reading »

For Some, Breast Expansion Is The Thing

Over the last couple years, we here at The Frisky have seen some pretty interesting things — sexually speaking, that is. Some guys are into watching women pump the gas pedal, otherwise known as “pedal pumping.” One dude married a pillow. And our own Jessica shared her spanking story. Now, the issue is breasts. What’s “breast expansion”? Find out more and watch the total crazy videos after the jump. Keep reading »

The 5 Most Obnoxious Things People Usually Say While Discussing Date Rape

  1. That’s what happens when …

    “That’s what happens” is just another way to say “boys will be boys,” meaning it is another way to level some of the blame on the victim instead of squarely on the perpetrator where it belongs. Saying “that’s what happens” to the victim is dismissive and unust. Sexually assaulted by a drunk guy at a party when you were drunk, too? That’s what happens when you get drunk around a drunk rapist. Sexually assaulted walking home alone at 2a.m.? That’s what happens when you’re out alone in the middle of the night with no one to protect you from a rapist. Sexually assaulted when you were passed out and couldn’t defend yourself? That’s what you get for passing out and not being able to defense yourself from a rapist. You get the ida.

  2. Silence is the same thing as consent, or “Not saying no is the same thing as saying yes.”

    Everyone flips their shizz when anyone suggests that sex should have consent. (Google the words “Antioch college” and “rape” for proof of this.) Somebody — usually the type of woman or man who writes the anti-feminist stuff — immediately overreacts and makes accusations that you’re “ruining” sex by requiring that two people ask each other permission before they do anything together. No, no, and once again, no. No one seriously believes I should have to verbally ask my boyfriend “Can I kiss your lips?”, “Can I unbutton your pants?” or “Can I take out your penis and stroke it?” But there has to be some kind of consent — whether it’s verbal articulation, like “That feels good!” or “Yes, yes!” or just happy noises, like “Mmm!” — for sexual activity to be kosher. Especially during the first, or first couple, of sexual incidents. If I unbuttoned my boyfriend’s pants and started playing with his penis and he did not verbally or physically indicate to me that he liked and wanted to encourage this behavior, I would stop. I have no idea whatsoever why someone would kiss, grope, have sex with, etc. another person who is lying there passively and/or is not fully engaged. He or she not consenting — in fact, it doesn’t sound like they’re at all interested — so why is their sex partner persisting? That is how date rape happens.

What’s The Best Lubricant?

I once asked a sex shop proprietress for the best sex advice she could give to couples and she immediately waxed poetic about lube. Her arguments were so compelling, it made me wonder how anyone ever has sex without some lubricant at their bedside.

Venturing into yet another sex shop, Babeland, I then drilled the store clerk about the best lubes — for any bedroom. She sent me home with some advice and three of the best lubes in Babeland. Read more Keep reading »

Sex With Susannah: 7 Things Your Mother Never Told You About Sex

We’re taking a break from our regularly scheduled “Sex with Susannah” programming to bring you breaking news from the “everything your mother never told you about sex” front. During the course of writing this column, receiving reader letters, and writing about sex and relationships for The Frisky, it’s come to my attention that there are certain basic sex life facts that it would behoove everyone to know, especially the ladies. Find out what they are after the jump! Keep reading »

How Do The Guys In Your City Measure Up?

Condomania has big, big news: In fact, they’ve undertaken a study that is poised to change the face of this great nation and the men who live here. See, back in 2004, the company launched TheyFit Condoms, a line of “tailored-fit prophylactics” that come in 76 — count ‘em — 76 different sizes, and have since tracked the sales of the over 27,000 men in 70 countries who bought them. Analyzing this cache of data was no small (heh) undertaking, but the results for the U.S. have been released (haha) and, well, let’s just say not everything’s bigger in Texas. [Condomania]
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Sex With Susannah: “My Boyfriend Watches A Lot Of Porn”

I’m 26 and my boyfriend is 29, and we recently moved in together after dating for about two years. Things are going great except for one thing: my boyfriend watches a lot of porn … at least, it seems like a lot to me. Before we lived together, I knew he looked at porn periodically, but since we moved in together I’m realizing that it’s more frequently than I thought — like, three or four times a week. Lately, he wants to incorporate it as part of our foreplay, watching together before we have sex and then trying out some of the stuff they do in the videos. I’m fine with some if it, but not some of it. I’m worried that since my boyfriend watches so much porn, he’s going to lose interest in me. I guess I’m wondering why, if he loves me and is satisfied with our sex life (like I am), he feels the need to watch so much porn, and does he truly expect me to do all those things he see the porn stars do?

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5 Perfectly Good Reasons To Sleep With Him On The First Date

Oh, there are just rules for everything, huh? Floss after every meal! Don’t wear white after Labor Day! If you’re going to pick your nose, do it in private! As Mischa Barton knows, rules are meant to be broken and there’s no bigger one to break, in my book, than that whole “don’t bone a dude on the first date” rule. Sure, there are plenty of decent reasons to resist doing the horizontal mambo right away, but there are just as many to justify dropping your drawers and getting it on tout de suite! Here are five. Keep reading »

Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About The Big O

Finally! A book about orgasms that we can actually trust. If you’re tired of hearing one myth after another about the elusive O, there’s a new book on the market that will turn you into an orgasm expert. The Orgasm Answer Guide, authored by a group of university professors, is sure to have a happy ending for all. Try not to get too excited. After the jump, some of the fun facts from the book. Keep reading »

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