In a piece for The Good Men Project, Hugo Schwyzer writes about the many men he’s talked with who lie to their girlfriends/wives about the amount of porn they watch. One man told him that he downplays how much X-rated material he consumes because “women go ballistic when you tell them the truth.” Really? Do women actually go ballistic? Are dudes really lying about how much porn they watch? We decided to ask a few of the guys on our IM — who are ALWAYS honest with us — about this very subject. Find out what they had to say after the jump! And please, male Frisky readers, tell us whether you have lied about how much porn you watch and why. And ladies, would you actually go “ballistic” about your dude’s porn usage? Keep reading »
How did it happen that “vajayjay” quickly became the slang term for vagina? Did Oprah start it? Was it Grey’s Anatomy? It almost feels like a fable at this point — but regardless, there has ALWAYS been slang terms for what’s in your pants and who knows? By the year 2067, vajayjay may sound as old-fashioned as “delta of Venus” or “aphrodisiacal tennis court” do now. After the jump, we’ve compiled a list of 40 slang terms for every important occasion. (Reminder: Just don’t use any of these…) Keep reading »
I was scrolling through some questions on Dan Savage’s Savage Love advice column and came across this one:
“You probably get this question every day. I’m a man who loves it when my girlfriend f**ks me with a strap-on. Another great thing: My girlfriend ejaculates frequently and plentifully when we have sex, and she has done so when she’s pegging me. Which leads to my question: What are the possible issues from getting female ejaculate in your ass? I am thinking about modifying a toy in a way that might enable her to squirt up my ass. It probably won’t work, but I am going to try. Because if it does work…”
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When a friend introduced me to the author Kate Monro over email, explaining she’d just published a book filled with virginity loss stories, I knew that I would love it, sight unseen. The First Time: True Tales Of Virginity Lost And Found (Including My Own) totally delivered! Monro, who used to work for the band Blur and for Dazed and Confused magazine, began collecting stories on a blog called The Virginity Project. For her first book, Monro collated vignettes from Brits and Americans, from grandpas to high school girls, who all reminisced about their first time with fondness, earnestness and occasional heartbreak. It may have been a long time since any of us has been a virgin, but if the bare humanity on display in The First Time is any indication, we could do well to revisit it.
Kate Monro lives in the UK, so we had to conduct our interview over email — but I’d like to imagine we chatted over cups of Earl Grey and some Tim Tams while staring off into the London fog. Our Q&A, which was edited for length and clarity, begins after the jump. Keep reading »
My new favorite pop star? Italy‘s Gionny Scandal. What an artiste! His new song, “I’m Horny,” features a bevy of barely legal blondes sucking lollipops and being sprayed in the face with whipped cream while they sing a chorus about giving him a blowjob. Everyone’s mamma must be so proud! [Europopped] Keep reading »
There’s no eloquent way to talk about bush, or for those of you who prefer to be anatomically correct, pubic hair. But some terms for ladies’ pubic regions are far more inappropriate than others. For example, a certain Frisky employee who shall remained unnamed, referred to her own bush as a “fur pie.” As in, “I am off to get my fur pie waxed.” I had never heard the term before and I hope never to hear it again. After the jump, a list of unapproved names for a woman’s bush. Keep reading »
Last night I did something I’ve never done before: I slept naked, alone, in my bed.
I usually sleep with my window open — there’s a screen, of course — so gusts of wind can circulate in my room. Last night, though, there was not a single gust of wind. It might have been 75 degrees outside at midnight and maybe 80 degrees in my stupid bedroom that doesn’t have air conditioning. I flipped and flopped and wondered how my pillows could possibly feel so warm. At last, I decided the only thing left to do would be to take my pajamas off — my “pajamas” being a summery romper that weighs, at most, three ounces.
Let me be clear about something: I never sleep naked, even if I’m sleeping alongside a dude and even if we just had sex. It feels so … bare to me. I have to wear underwear and pajamas — top and bottom preferably, unless it’s summer and I’m wearing something lighter — or else I can’t fall asleep.
As you can imagine, this has not been such a popular opinion with dudes. Keep reading »
Did you need something new to worry about today? No problem, I can help you out with that. According to the C.D.C., a new strain of gonorrhea — aka “The Crap” — identified in a woman in Japan and two men in Norway, appears to be resistant to treatment. While no cases of the new gonorrhea “superbug” have been reported in the U.S., officials are concerned about the “very complex bacteria which has a pretty amazing ability to mutate and for people to develop resistances to antibiotics.” In fact, that crafty bug has already mutated three times since the 1940s. And not to get you worried or anything (well maybe just a little bit), but we are currently using the last known treatment for the STD. So what does that mean considering that more than 700,000 people in the U.S. contract the clap every year? Outlook not so good if supergonorrhea starts spreading. So yeah, you already knew this, but, um … SAFE SEX. [NY Times] Keep reading »
My mother and many of her second-wave feminist peers view pornography as an institutional ill that is degrading to women and damaging to developing sexuality. She believes that the camera-ready angles, waxed and plastic body parts and pervasive depiction of extreme acts as “normal” distort human sexuality and give young porn-viewers a whole bunch of false and dangerous expectations.
My mom is a smart lady, and she’s not wrong. While I agree that some porn (okay, most of it) fits the bill she describes as damaging, I don’t find the filming and viewing of sex acts as objectively offensive. In other words, I think that porn is not inherently problematic, but its content often includes problematic ideas and attitudes. I also believe when viewed as entertainment, porn can be a positive element in the repertoire of adult sexuality, Keep reading »