I’m 26 and my boyfriend is 29, and we recently moved in together after dating for about two years. Things are going great except for one thing: my boyfriend watches a lot of porn … at least, it seems like a lot to me. Before we lived together, I knew he looked at porn periodically, but since we moved in together I’m realizing that it’s more frequently than I thought — like, three or four times a week. Lately, he wants to incorporate it as part of our foreplay, watching together before we have sex and then trying out some of the stuff they do in the videos. I’m fine with some if it, but not some of it. I’m worried that since my boyfriend watches so much porn, he’s going to lose interest in me. I guess I’m wondering why, if he loves me and is satisfied with our sex life (like I am), he feels the need to watch so much porn, and does he truly expect me to do all those things he see the porn stars do?
Oh, there are just rules for everything, huh? Floss after every meal! Don’t wear white after Labor Day! If you’re going to pick your nose, do it in private! As Mischa Barton knows, rules are meant to be broken and there’s no bigger one to break, in my book, than that whole “don’t bone a dude on the first date” rule. Sure, there are plenty of decent reasons to resist doing the horizontal mambo right away, but there are just as many to justify dropping your drawers and getting it on tout de suite! Here are five. Keep reading »
Finally! A book about orgasms that we can actually trust. If you’re tired of hearing one myth after another about the elusive O, there’s a new book on the market that will turn you into an orgasm expert. The Orgasm Answer Guide, authored by a group of university professors, is sure to have a happy ending for all. Try not to get too excited. After the jump, some of the fun facts from the book. Keep reading »
Welcome to the Frisky “Sex Diary,” in which an anonymous person shares the details of her sex life over the course of a few days. Sometimes these entries are filled with revealing romps, while other times there is nary a naked moment in sight. Some of these diarists are frequent contributors. Want to share a page from your sex diary? Email firstname.lastname@example.org. All entries will be anonymous. Keep reading »
Alright, truth time. How many of you have faked it, and how often? Maybe it was just that one time—you were caught up in a moment or had a one-night stand gone awry. Maybe you’re nervous about that hot new guy you’re dating and figure you’ll just fake it at the beginning, so that he doesn’t think the sex sucks and leave. Or maybe you’re in a steady relationship or married, and you fake it all the time because you, rationalizing from a very warm and loving place, don’t want to bruise your significant other’s ego. Maybe you think a synthetic “O” is the best way to keep the peace, you’re too shy to say what you want, or you’re just tired from a long day’s work and want to get it over with.
Not to be pushy or anything, but it’s really important that we stop. Keep reading »
Have you ever heard of Vulva? It’s a perfume that supposedly smells like a woman’s vagina. Well, now the Vulva commercial is here. Not surprisingly, the ad focuses a great deal on a woman’s vagina. Nevertheless, it remains unclear exactly what Vulva smells like in real life. And why the woman who stars in this commercial is working out the entire time, I am not entirely sure. It’s possible Vulva is a “gag” product, but I don’t know. I think people would buy this stuff. But maybe not women. [Copyranter] Keep reading »
If Kotex isn’t allowed to say “vagina” or even “down there” in their tampon commercials, they should check out LoveYourVagina.com, a veritable thesaurus of ladyparts synonyms. LoveYourVagina.com is asking ladies to “tell us what you lovingly call yours …” and graphing the answers in a massive tag cloud. Eve Ensler would be so proud! Or she might cry. I can’t really tell.
After the jump, let’s take a look at16 straight-up weird names we girls call our vag. Keep reading »
In some cultures, the word “hymen” could use a little re-branding — so the Swedish Association for Sexual Education is renaming it! The Nordic org is publishing literature in English, Arabic and Sorani Kurdish that refers to that little piece of tissue as the “vaginal crown” or “vaginal corona” and provides diagrams and info explaining that not having a hymen when one first has sex doesn’t mean one is not a virgin. The group hopes that more education on the hymen — er, the “vaginal crown” — will have an effect on the number of so-called “honor killings,” when male members of a family murder a woman who has had sex out of wedlock or even associated with a man who is not socially approved by her culture.
The Frisky is pretty happy to live in a place where having a hymen on our wedding night is not a life or death situation. But we couldn’t help but get the ol’ wheels turning when it comes to renaming the hymen. After the jump, some suggestions that were probably rejected … Keep reading »
On Sunday afternoon I walked between a naked man and woman in public, through a doorway actually. They stared at me as I tried to avoid her breasts and to not graze his genitals with my oversized handbag. I couldn’t make eye contact with them, though I felt their breath. No, this wasn’t a sex party, nor a strip club. This was the Museum of Modern Art here in New York City, folks. This nude couple was re-enacting “Imponderabilia,” a performance first staged by artist Marina Abramovic and Ulay, her partner, at an art gallery in 1977. This is one of five live performances — three nude ones — of Abramovic’s that is being staged as part of The Artist is Present exhibit, a 40-year survey of the work of the self-proclaimed “grandmother of performance art.” Good timing, MoMA, since it’s National Women’s History Month …