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Doin’ It With Dr. V: The Truth About Oral Sex

Hi, I’m Dr. V. I’m not a real doctor, I just play one on the Internet. What I am is a lady, a lady who is a fool for love! And I love nothing more than sex. My deepest desires have happily led me on many adventures in the sack, but they have also made me one of my gyno’s most valuable players. I’ve lived to tell the tale(s)! So, I dish the dirt on everything from getting freaky to getting freaked out. Now, let’s get this party started.

STD Awareness Month is almost over, and I hope you lovers survived. Next week, I’ll go back to answering your burning sex questions — whether they burn literally or not. Today, I want to talk about a mistake I’ve made trying to play it safe.

If I had a nickel for every time I bartered a new partner down from sex to a BJ, I’d be rich! In some situations, oral sex can seem like the best bet to keep him coming back for more and to protect your promised land. But that argument is as busted as Bill Clinton saying he didn’t have sex relations with Monica Lewinsky. It’s still sex — oral sex, to be exact! While I used to think I was Lady Safety for starting off slow(ish) with a beej, oral is as risky a way to get frisky. Even though he’s not sticking his beef in your buns, your mouth is as ready to be an STD sandwich. New research shows it can even cause cancer. While we gals can get a lot of things, we can’t seem to catch a break! Here are some things to consider when you’re going down. Keep reading »

The Five Most Important Things You Should Know About: Syphilis

  1. Syphilis is a mighty morphing STD that is hard to detect. Its symptoms don’t occur in a consistent order, but experts have narrowed them down to four stages. The primary stage is when a firm sore, called a chancre, appears around your lady parts. You can get one firm sore or many love bumps. They may dry out and heal, but you’re still stuck with the infection. The second stage includes on-and-off rash, fever, fatigue, aching, and sore throat. The third stage is the hidden stage, when symptoms don’t appear for years, as this STD attacks and progresses.
  2. If left untreated, syphilis can damage your heart and brain in the final stages. The tertiary, or late syphilis, stage also attacks the eyes, blood vessels, liver, bones, and joints. Signs of late syphilis include paralysis, numbness, blindness, and even dementia. If you think you might have the Syph, you need to get treatment as soon as possible. Your chances of getting HIV increase if you have syphilis because chancres make it easier to pass on and acquire HIV.
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The Five Most Important Things You Should Know About: Pelvic Inflammatory Disease

Every year, one million U.S. women will become infected with pelvic inflammatory disease, also known as PID, an infection or inflammation of various reproductive organs. Yikes! This common disease can cause many other problems, including infertility and other conditions that may lead to death. Sorry for the quick scare, but it’s true, and you should know. Thankfully, the proper prevention and care can help prevent those complications.

  1. It’s normal for certain amounts and types of bacteria to reside in the vaginal area. However, sex and douching can cause them to get pushed further inside the body where they don’t belong. This can cause PID. Having sex with multiple partners, a partner who has multiple partners, or a partner who has an STD can greatly increase the risk. Bacterial STDs, such as gonorrhea and chlamydia, are common factors in PID cases.
  2. Unfortunately, more than half of all PID cases go undetected until the damage has been done. Many times there are few to no symptoms, especially in PID that occurs from chlamydia. Ladies, if you’re experiencing fever, pain during intercourse or urination, abdominal pain, or irregular bleeding during your menstrual cycle, it’s time to get tested ASAP. A rare pain also can occur in the upper abdominal region.
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What Were You Thinking The First Time You Had Sex?

What He’s Thinking the First Time You Have Sex“? According to Jake at Glamour, guys are thinking about how you smell, flexing, and how to get you off the first time they’re doing you. But what are women thinking the first time they have sex? After the jump, the mind wanderings of women as they lost their virginity. Keep reading »

15 Things That Are Worse Than Going To The Gynecologist

A blogger for the Guardian recently wrote about her experience at the gynecologist, admitting it was her first time getting a pelvic exam in ten years (she was inspired to go after the recent death of reality star Jane Goody, from cervical cancer), and that it would most likely be her last. The problem, she said, is that her doctor wasn’t very “encouraging,” something she thinks all physicians should be, especially with patients who suffer from mental health problems, learning disabilities, and/or a history of sexual abuse. She found it difficult to relax during her exam, but instead of asking her physician for relaxation techniques or getting recommendations for a different physician altogether, this woman is swearing off pelvic exams for the rest of her life — because potentially dying is a better fate than a few minutes of discomfort. Ladies! Don’t be like this woman! Don’t let a little fear stand between you and your health. If you aren’t getting a yearly pelvic exam because you’re afraid or embarrassed, keep in mind that you’re already suffering through plenty of things that are far worse than lying naked in a pair of stirrups for five minutes. After the jump, 15 things that are worse than going to the gynecologist. Keep reading »

Your Vajayjay’s First Protective Shield!

Oprah may be responsible for “vajayjay” — slang for “vagina,” for those of you living under a rock — entering the English lexicon, but she doesn’t own the trademark. That explains why VJJ Enterprises — which has filed a trademarking application — was able to manufacture the first product ever featuring the term. The best part? It’s a visor. For your vagina. Marketed as similar to a jock strap, the Vaj-j Visor is described as a “protective vaginal shield designed to help protect a woman’s inner vulva area inner labia, clitoris, and vaginal opening.” For sports? Actually, the Vaj-j Visor is supposed to be used during grooming activities, like Brazilian and bikini waxing, depilatories and shaving, hair coloring, tanning or spa treatments. Your vaginal muscles help keep the visor in place. All this contact with your naughty bits means that each visor needs to be tossed out after use. Visit the company’s website to find out how to buy it wholesale. [Vaj-J Visor via Mother Jones] Keep reading »

Google Users Prefer Hairy Bush

Contrary to what we’ve heard from the guys on our IM, Google searches seem to indicate that men prefer women to have a wild, out of control bush over waxed or shaved pubic styles. According to YesButNoButYes, a bikini shop owner did some investigating of Google search trends and discovered that more people search the term “hairy p*ssy” than they do “bald p*ssy,” “shaved p*ssy,” “brazilian wax,” or “bikini wax.” These are hardly scientific results; after all, who knows if these Googlers were searching for these terms based on pubic hair preference. And besides that, the other results added up about equal the total for “hairy p*ssy” searches. Also, don’t people search for things they’re generally really, like, interested in? Maybe those who really, really like untamed pubes are more devoted to their fetish than the majority who prefer but don’t obsess about a little below-the-belt grooming. Keep reading »

This Week In Sex News: Oral Contraceptives, Chlamydia Screenings, And Viagra For Girls

  • Researchers from Texas A&M University have found that women who do resistance exercises and take oral contraceptives don’t seem to gain as much lean muscle as those who aren’t on the Pill. [Medical News Today] — This could explain why my arms aren’t exactly ripped.
  • If you weren’t planning on heeding our advice about getting screened for STDs regularly, the CDC reports that fewer than half of at-risk women in the U.S. are getting screening for chlamydia. While 47 percent is a lot better than 25 percent, it’s not enough. Chlamydia is the most common bacterial STD in the U.S. [Reuters]
  • Male sexual dysfunction drugs might help women with comparable problems. Researchers at the Medical College of Georgia tested Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis on female rats and found they helped with sexual dysfunction. [MSNBC] — But what works on rats doesn’t necessarily work on humans, so don’t pop any of your boyfriends pills just yet.
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    The Five Most Important Things You Should Know About: Hepatitis

    Many people have heard of hepatitis C from Naomi Judd’s public battle with the disease and her crusade to make people aware of it. However, there are seven additional forms of hepatitis in existence that few people are aware of, including the kind you can get from having sex.

    1. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), hepatitis is the inflammation of the liver, but it’s not quite that simple.
    2. There are eight different types of hepatitis, viral and nonviral. Hepatitis B is the type is primarily transmitted through sexual contact. It can be acute or chronic, and acute hepatitis B can become chronic, resulting in long-term health problems and even death.
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    Should A Dude Blow Smoke Up Your Vag?

    While men love it when we blow them, can women get blown, too? I’m talking literally — with smoke. That’s what I’ve been wondering on 4/20 (remember kids, don’t do drugs!). Erowid, the online encyclopedia of drugs, answers this burning question:

    I was sitting around with my girlfriend yesterday, smoking marijuana out of a bong. We decided to try an experiment, so I exhaled a bong hit into her vagina and held it closed for a few seconds. When I let go, a significant amount of smoke was forced out. I did this three times, and a few minutes later she reported feeling high. My girlfriend has asthma, which prevents her from smoking up as much as she wants to. If vaginal administration of marijuana smoke is safe, it would allow her to get high without irritating her lungs. Is this safe for the vagina and the rest of the body?

    Dope or dopey idea? Find out after the jump. Keep reading »