For all the sex positive writing that I do, I’d never actually talked with someone who worked in the adult entertainment industry for a living. Like a lot of people, I just assumed they all were failed actresses and cokeheads.
That was unfair of me.
Over the summer, I met up with Ryan Keely, an adult film star, Penthouse Pet and Penthouse advice columnist, and an erotic dancer. Ryan, who is originally from Seattle, is as smart as she is beautiful; it’s clear from spending time with her that her heart lies in bringing the joy of sexuality and sensuality to others. Recently, Ryan has been teaching seminars for Porn Star Sex Life, co-founded with Josh Rosenberg, a pick-up artist who created UpYourAttraction.com. I was a little skeptical, too, of Porn Star Sex Life classes. Generally speaking, I think porn gives us stupid role models. The actors and actresses fake great sex and know how to make it look really awesome on screen. Why would we want to emulate that? But Ryan is an approachable educator: she’s had a lot of sex with a lot of partners, both men and women, both onscreen and off, and she is ashamed of nothing. “What it takes to be a porn star is you want to explore your sexuality,” she told me. “The people that are in this industry for the right reasons are people are want to take sex to the next level. We’re sexual athletes.”
I walked away from an afternoon of cake and milk with Ryan thinking, “Damn, I want this girl to be my best friend and I want to sleep with her.” After the jump, Ryan opens up about why missionary is the best sex position for women, her stance on sex positive feminism, why she hates KY Jelly, and her one-woman campaign to bust sexual taboos! Keep reading »
There’s nothing like a good makeout sesh in a forbidden location. Well, sometimes. Over here in NYC there’s not much privacy, so sometimes we have to get creative about where we get it on. Bar bathrooms, taxis, park benches, stairwells, any semi-private nook will do when you’re really hot to trot. After the jump, some makeout tales. Tell us, where have you gotten down and dirty? Keep reading »
This week is Banned Books Week — a time to celebrate and acknowledge all the great and not-so-great works of literature that at one point or another have been considered too hot or too controversial for libraries. Among the most famous banned books? J.D. Salinger’s The Catcher in the Rye, Ernest Hemingway’s A Farewell to Arms, and J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter series. Banned Book Week is a great time to celebrate our freedom to read, and to think about how important access to information really is.
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For years, adult toy makers have been unable to sell their wares on TV commercials, but a new ad from Trojan featuring the company’s Tri-Phoria vibrator has made it on TV — by not saying the word “vibrator.” Instead, the unseen, boxed tool is referred to as “three massagers in one” that may result in “screams of ecstasy, curled toes, a sudden glow, and intense waves of pleasure.” The commercial doesn’t run only in the wee hours either, but, for example, during the day and early evening on Comedy Central during “The Daily Show.” Some — surely, sex toy sellers among them — may see the ad as “progress,” but it seems silly that in this day and age a vibrator is still taboo. Hey, it’s just a “personal massager.” [NY Times]
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Forget Epic Mickey and Super Mario Galaxy, the Mojowijo Wii Vibrator is the funnest reason to get the wand gaming system. Thanks to choice attachments, Mojowijo is designed for both men and women. Plus, it promises totally customizable vibes, so no more finding the right setting, speed, or fighting battery power. Your sexy time partner — or you — wave the wand in the rhythm you want and then it echoes back the pattern in the sex toy attachment. It even works if your partner is in another country, thanks to an internet connection. Hell yeah! And the best part is, the game is looking for beta testers. The line starts behind me. [Mojowijo via Asylum] Keep reading »
Over at Asylum, the guys asked former call girl Tracy Quan about the end of sex ads on Craigslist.
“For johns, Craigslist had a reputation as an Internet souk for the sexually deprived, where they could shop for a GFE, unload their gently used furniture and find a GRE tutor.”
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But say your lover’s penis is small. I’m talking really small. A micro-penis. Well, if size really does matter to him, and to you, there are some surgical and non-surgical options to help with that. [Read more … Keep reading »
For Paris Vogue‘s 90th anniversary, model Lara Stone took off her top to expose her decolletage. How to know the masked beauty is her? We’d know those gap teeth anywhere. The massive issue has 622 pages that editor-in-chief Carine Roitfeld promises will be as provocative as ever: “Vogue Paris has always played the card of audacity,” she told WWD. Soon enough, they’ll probably do without the clothes altogether. [Huffington Post] Keep reading »