This week, I got a letter from a lady who has an itch she’s been meaning to get scratched. She just can’t quite seem to reach it.
I have a dilemma and am looking for some advice. I’m 28 years old and still a virgin. It isn’t something that I planned, and I find it a bit embarrassing. I dated the same guy all through college, but at first I just wasn’t ready yet. Even once I personally was ready, I knew that having my first time be with him wasn’t probably the best idea. (We were complicated, angsty, and breaking up/getting back together all the time, and I felt like having sex with him would just complicate things further.) I dated a guy for quite a while after college whom I wanted to sleep with. We had great chemistry, and plus I was really ready by then. He told me he didn’t want to because he “didn’t want to be the jerk who took it from me,” and eventually he cheated on me. It took a little while to recover from that, and I didn’t even date for a while.
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The Daily Mail released another one of their sensational studies yesterday. This time the researchers cast their glare to women, drinking and their ability (or lack thereof) to have sex sober. “One in 20 women has NEVER had sex sober as they lack body confidence” screams the headline. Keep reading »
I’ve had 7,419,564 sexual partners in my life! And you thought your number was high? OK, so more accurately, that’s how many direct and indirect partners I’ve had. After I read in the Telegraph that the average British person has had indirect sex with 2.8 million people, I was dying to know how many people I’d tangentially banged. So, I went to this website,
“Sex Degrees of Sexual Partners,” which has a calculator developed by Lloyds Pharmacy to totally mess with your friggin’ head! Oh, I mean it’s meant to help you understand the risk you’re taking by having unprotected sex. Deep breaths. [Telegraph] Keep reading »
Who hasn’t had a drink or two before hopping in the sack? I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve been guilty. I mean sex—especially with a new person—can be a daunting task. A nice little buzz can help alleviate some stress or spice things up a bit, right? But hold on one second before you polish off that cosmo. Do you really need that drink to get down? A new study conducted in the U.K. about women, sex, and alcohol suggests that maybe the answer is yes. The study concludes that not only do women seem to prefer drunken sex to sober sex, but we also are using alcohol to compensate for confidence, especially about our bodies. After the jump, some more sobering stats that may make you think twice about drinking before getting it on. Keep reading »
A letter in this week’s Time Out New York’s sex column, Get Naked, reminded me that sometimes it’s the simplest things that can boggle a mind. A woman writes to columnist Jamie Bufalino:
I like dry sex with my husband, but it only happens a few times per month. I assume hormones are at work, but is there anything I can do to sustain this? Dehydration? I just feel so much more when everything is dry and not ruined by wetness.
At first, I thought, Oh, she likes dry humping with her husband … like they’re a couple of teenagers … that’s kinda cute, I guess … But I continued reading and realized, Oh she means actual dry sex, like with a dry vagina. Um, ew! I’ve never heard of this, have you? I mean, as far as fetishes or sexual preferences, or whatever, go, it’s decidedly tame, but, still, a dry vagina? Really? I mean, wouldn’t that feel … horrible? Bufalino isn’t even a woman and he thinks so — his response to the letter writer after the jump. Keep reading »
“Saved By The Bell” fans: Prepare to have your minds blown. Adding to the too-long list of porn spoofs
that have rolled out of Porn Valley as of late, now there’s “Saved By The Bell XXX.” Shockingly, it looks trashy and
“Your favorite characters from Bayside High are 18 and going WILD! Will Zack’s schemes work? Will Slater stop being a girl-crazy Bubba? Will Lisa and Screech hook up? Pick up a copy and find out!!!!!”
A real X-rated masterpiece, surely. Here’s hoping the theme song isn’t stuck in your head all day, as it is mine. Can someone shoot me? Keep reading »
Thanks to BuzzFeed for reminding me of something totally ridiculous that I noticed in the most recent issue of Cosmopolitan. We’ve already warned you about five sexual tips courtesy of the lady rag that you should absolutely not follow, but, oh, there are so many more. Take the “fun little trick guys love” suggested in the article above. “Use your thong as a hair tie!” Um, what? Why? When? Do not understand! But maybe dudes DO like this weird little move? I asked some guys for their gut response to this suggestion. Their responses, after the jump … Keep reading »
Two weeks ago, my gentle and loving boyfriend of three months held me down and forced me to have sex with him against my will, and then told me I had asked for it. And technically, he was right.
Jacob and I had only been dating about a month and a half when I intimated that I had a rape fantasy. Over the years, I’d had my share of experience with role-playing and rough sex. I vividly recall a male friend of mine in college telling me that I had a distinct air of “sexual prey” about me, and me thinking that this was a huge compliment. Being dominated and playing the innocent who secretly wasn’t had been my currency and had guided the sexual dynamic I forged with partners for the last 10 years. But only for the last few months had I allowed myself to entertain what I considered to be the final frontier — a simulated rape. Keep reading »
By now, you’ve probably heard of RealDolls. They’re those lifelike, anatomically correct silicone sex dolls that costs thousands of dollars. They’ve appeared in movies (“Lars and the Real Girl”), on TV (Howard Stern, natch), and in books (Still Lovers). These days, though, it seems the love doll industry is taking a hit. In these tough economic times, not every guy who longs for a synthetic lover with a fully articulated internal armature has the means to buy one. Sniff. The man who dreamed of spending $6,499 on a life partner with a choice of vagina attachments may be S.O.L. Thankfully, the folks at RealDoll.com are offering some unique deals. “Order a RealDoll, RealDoll2 or Male RealDoll2 and get a FREE FACE!!” the website advertises. “Order a Female Flat Back Torso get the Head Kit FREE!” You know, this 21st century depression might not be such a bad thing if it means free faces and head kits for lonely guys looking for women with removable visages. Keep reading »
Duo Fertility, a new producer of fertility monitors, is selling itself hard on a guarantee that’s the opposite of what you hear when it comes to sex—pregnant in 12 months or your money back. Keep reading »