If you’ve done any reading on the Internet about the business of sex work, chances are you’ve come across Melissa Gira Grant. She’s written about sex, politics, labor and tech everywhere from the UK’s Guardian to The Atlantic to Jezebel and Valleywag, making her one of the top intellectuals to turn to when America needs an explanation about why we’re so weird about sex.
A former “web cam girl,” Grant just published her latest book, Playing The Whore: The Work Of Sex Work, which is unlike any book about sex work or feminism that I’ve ever read. In it, she critiques law enforcement’s treatment of actual or perceived sex workers; labor issues surrounding sex work; and the tendency for governments and some outreach workers to treat all sex workers as “victims” in need of being “rescued.” However complicated you might have thought issues pertaining to sex work were before, Grant’s excellent book is extraordinarily illuminating.
Grant recently spoke to me about “whore stigma,” feminism, police, and the media’s struggle to accurately cover sex workers. Our Q&A begins after the jump: Keep reading »
With outspoken advocates in the spotlight like Janet Mock and Laverne Cox, the transgender community is finally making some positive headway when it comes to fighting discrimination and ignorance with the public at large and within the community After five year of honoring transgender adults in the entertainment industry at the annual “Tranny Awards,” the celebratory event has decided to change its name to the ‘Transgender Erotica Awards’ (T.E.A.) because, let’s be honest, “tranny” is a dehumanizing slur. Explains the event creator, Steven Grooby:
“When we named the show the ‘Tranny Awards’ in 2007 the climate was different and the usage of the word ‘tranny’ was appropriate as a catchy title in an online porn event… As we aim to be inclusive of all areas of transgender erotica and are looking to broaden the appeal of the show to mainstream media, we believed it was time to re-brand the event…I’d like to thank the extended trans adult community for their input and feedback over the last few months. We will be producing a show that the whole transgender adult community can be proud of.”
Amen to that. [Nerve]
Even Miley Cyrus gets lonely on tour. Good thing she has her Hand of Adonis fisting dildo to keep her company. [Idolator]
When I say someone invented an orgasm machine, I’m not talking about the world’s most effective vibrator. I’m talking about a surgical implant designed to give a woman an orgasm at the push of a button. Creator, surgeon Stuart Meloy, says he came up with the idea for the cigarette-sized device by accident. “I was placing the electrodes and suddenly the woman started exclaiming emphatically. I asked her what was up and she said, ‘You’re going to have to teach my husband to do that.’” No, he did not start teaching husbands how to manipulate their wives spines to climax – he made a machine that would do it for them. Keep reading »
A sex new app called Lick This allows users to engage in interactive exercises that supposedly train your tongue for pleasure. I know what you’re thinking: Great idea, but how is that possible without actually licking my iPhone screen? Answer: it’s not. You are meant to flick a light switch, move a zipper up and down, solve a maze, crank a handle and ring a doorbell with your tongue ON YOUR GERM-INFESTED SCREEN. And then you want to put that dirty mouth in some unlucky person’s pants? I think not. Although the app’s creators suggest that you wrap your phone in plastic before you get down to business, we know that people are about as likely to do that as they are to use a dental dam. Keep reading »
Have you ever noticed that most of your traditional efforts to catch a guy’s interest (high heels, red lipstick, and such) go unnoticed, but on the day you drag yourself to the drug store for cold medicine, in pajamas, with unwashed hair and a crusty nose, you have to swat potential suitors away with a stick? One thing’s for sure: we’ll never truly understand the things that turn guys on. We shouldn’t try tot make sense of their love of unkempt bikini lines and vagina sweat (although we are sensing a general cavewoman theme), we should just go with it. From burping to unwashed hair, here are some things that we never expected to turn guys on, but, for some reason, have totally gotten them all revved up. Go figure. Keep reading »
Martha Stewart, the original domestic diva, did an Ask Me Anything Q&A on Reddit today, fielding questions about homemaking, cleaning, etiquette, cooking and her personal life. As you might expect, the always gracious but opinionated Martha took a hard stance against such things as tattoos (“I would not EVER, EVER deface my body with tattoos”), online dating (“Old news”) and truffle oil (“It is ruinous of most recipes”), but evaded answering questions about her past, specifically her time in prison. She did, however, answer one fan’s request for sex advice. Keep reading »
I love my boyfriend. And I love giving him blow jobs. What I do not love is the taste of spunk. No matter whose splooge it is, it tastes like a cross between sour juice, bitters, mold, and a dirty sock. Even Bobby Flay couldn’t make this milky concoction taste good. I’ve hypothesized women who say it taste good are either a) lying or b) have taste buds damaged by years of smoking. But I don’t smoke and like Abe Lincoln, I cannot tell a lie. I love a nice pearl necklace, but the taste of semen makes me gag. Can pineapple juice make splooge taste better? Read the results of our taste test on Your Tango…
“I fall in love with human beings based on who they are, not based on what they do or what sex they are.”
I knew Shailene Woodley and I were meant to be lovers! From her taste in books (Anais Nin!), to her religious beliefs (“My religion is the Earth … I believe in trees”), to her no-makeup looks on the red carpet, to her refusal to wear anything other than used clothes, she really is the woman of my dreams. Shailene herself didn’t use the label bisexual. But she made clear to The Hollywood Reporter that she falls in love with human beings, not body parts. Keep reading »