I’m pretty sure/hopeful that there is loads of great amazing best sex in my future, but Wednesday night was pretty killer—I’m officially on the pill, so no more condoms! Holla! I asked some friends for the best sex they’ve ever had—read what they shared and then brag away in the comments.

“Tell me what you want to do to me,” I cooed in Brandon’s* ear. It was our first time in bed together and I was hoping he would pass my “dirty talk test.” The test is simple. I ask the man what he wants to do to me and he responds with his own special brand of dirty talk. Easy, right? Not always so simple.

It’s easier to get the little head than the big head in the game. But the problem is, I only want to have sex with a man when both heads are present. I want him to understand that my pleasure takes place first in my mind and then in my body. And if he can’t stimulate my mind, he has a very slim chance of stimulating anything on my body. Sure he can fumble his way around and accidentally push a button, but why bother? I know some people don’t like to talk; they just like to “do.” But for me it’s not enough.

That’s not just a tacky sculpture of a woman with no nipples—that’s a vintage ad for an actual phone! I love how this redheaded lady is buck naked except for the gold leaves covering up her lady bits to preserve her modesty. To see a full-sized (NSFW) pic, click after the jump…

In a Mail Online article, writer Denise Robertson questions whether having a pill women could swallow to put them in the mood for sex would be a good thing, or whether it would actually be harmful to relationships:

"Libido-boosting drugs like Viagra wrongly used divorces sex from love -- they have the potential to reduce love-making to nothing more than a cold, physical act. After all, if you can pop a pill, you can dispense with the need for the affection, friendship and comfort that make up a truly fulfilling love-life. If you want the best sex, foreplay is a 12-hour commitment -- you need to spend all day every day cherishing the object of your desire so that they feel important -- and feel desire in return.'

She also argues that women who can't get turned on often have psychological issues they should deal with, and masking the symptoms of their problems doesn't treat the cause. Do you think a "female Viagra" would help relationships, or would it turn lovemaking into nothing more than a physical activity?

When you want to take your bedroom sexy times up a notch, role-playing is one way to do it. Now, I’ve heard of people playing doctor and that’s all well and good, but this kit is taking things a little too far into the realistic role-playing realm, in my opinion. This “Beginners Vaginal Speculum Kit” comes complete with, yes, a vaginal speculum—it opens up to 4” wide!—a bottle of lube, and “after play” cleaner. Oh yes, I am as serious as a bad case of the herps. Do you have to pee in a cup too? [Trend de la Creme]

Welcome to the Frisky “Sex Diary,” in which an anonymous person shares the details of her sex life over the course of a few days. Sometimes these entries are filled with revealing romps, while other times there is nary a naked moment in sight. Some of these diarists are frequent contributors. Want to share a page from your sex diary? Email diary@thefrisky.com. All entries will be anonymous.

This week I decided to tap some real personal assets: my guy friends. Whenever I need sex advice, I turn to them! This time, I wanted to find out what I may or may not be doing wrong in bed. Hey, they know being friends with a sexy lady like me means they’ll eventually have to divulge the dirty deets on how they like to get down, or in this case, how they don’t. Here’s what these stallions told me they hate during nakey time—uncensored.

Getting vocal during sex isn’t a crime—unless you live in England and the noises you make are so loud and disturbing, it “constitutes a statutory nuisance.”

Your underpants aren’t just preventing you from gettin’ booty, they’re destroying the environment. Well, that is unless you’re wearing easy-off, eco-friendly GreenKnickers. The line of string bikinis and boxers are so hot, you might just globally warm a hole through them yourself! Luckily, the “fair trade undies for nice people” are made from organic cotton, silk and hemp. And, judging by their ad, the ladies that make them really love to love nature. Unlike this giving tree ad, going green clearly shouldn’t be a niche market. [Trend Hunter]

“If I feel it’s appropriate to show some nudity in the scenes then I go for it. As much as I use my sexuality, I have never felt exploited. I feel like it’s on my terms and I have no problem with it.”

That’s actress Eva Mendes, who stars in the upcoming “Bad Lieutenant: Port of Call New Orleans,” on going naked in the movies. If she’s in control of her sexuality, her theory goes, how can she be exploited? Cinematical’s Peter Kaplan agrees:

“Speaking as someone who first noticed Mendes when Ethan Hawke opened a door in ‘Training Day’ to reveal her lying naked on a bed, I say: ‘I have no problem with it, either.’”

One imagines Broadsheet’s Kate Harding would not concur.

Jessica Valenti posed an interesting question over at Feministing this week—should we be encouraging women (and men) to have pre-marital sex? She argues that yes, we should, writing:

“Because, let’s face it—if you’re going to commit yourself to someone for (presumably) the rest of your life, it’s probably best if you know that you’re sexually compatible ... Do I think that people can have perfectly wonderful satisfying relationships without having had sex before making a commitment? Sure, I’m positive that happens often. But considering what a huge role sexuality plays in our lives and relationships ... well, I’d rather be super duper positive.”

Our editor Amelia is turning 30 in a week and her essay on the subject really resonated with Frisky readers, both younger and older than 30. With that in mind, we’ll be reposting our “Before 30” series, which originally ran late last year, over the next few weeks. Enjoy!

So I’ve heard about this “sperm allergy” before but never really knew if it was true. Believe it or not, scientists confirm that not only is it a legitimate allergy—the technical name is “seminal plasma hypersensitivity”—but it’s also really common for women. Stats say that between 20,000 and 40,000 women in the U.S. are allergic to their man’s spunk. About 30 minutes after sex, sufferers may experience hives, swollen eyes, diarrhea, and breathing problems—the same symptoms common to food allergies. What are women suffering from this allergy supposed to do? Become celibate? Subscribe to a “sperm-free” diet? Carry around an epi-pen for sexytime? Not necessarily. Doctors say, aside from using condoms, there may also be a vaccine that can help woman’s body become more tolerant. Good news, I guess? [Glamour]