If you don’t know the answer to this question, don’t feel bad. The other night I was out with one of my good friends when we started talking about her ex. I never quite understood why things didn’t work out with them. “Why did it end?” I asked. “He was a feeder,” she replied. OK, so I had absolutely no clue what she was talking about. Thanks to Dan Savage, I know more than I ever would have cared to know about adult babies, boytaurs, and polyamorous relationships, but feeders—just not a term I’d ever come across. Luckily, my friend filled me in.

Welcome to the Frisky “Sex Diary,” in which an anonymous person shares the details of her sex life over the course of a few days. Sometimes these entries are filled with revealing romps, while other times there is nary a naked moment in sight. Some of these diarists are frequent contributors. Want to share a page from your sex diary? Email diary@thefrisky.com. All entries will be anonymous.

Your bed is a logical place to make out. It’s comfortable, it’s private, and if the make-out session leads to sex, there will be no need for awkwardly getting up and walking to another part of the house. It’s no wonder most of us think of our bedrooms when it’s time to get busy. However, if you’ve only ever made out in beds, it’s time to push your boundaries and get frisky out in the world. Here are our top places to make out. Read more ...

Andy Wright has taken the time to outline six weird things women do to their vaginas. Thanks, Andy! Among the odd things we ladies do to our hoo-has: apply vagina deodorant, douche, get labiaplasty, insert vagina mints, bleach and dye, and get them tightened through so-called "vaginal rejuvenation." Well! It's hard to argue with a list like that. Although, surely, most women don't pay thousands of dollars to get their labia trimmed. (Or do they?) But she forgot the recently discovered trend of: bedazzling your vajayjay. Jennifer Love Hewitt, what would we do without you?

Whoa, high school flashback! Feministing's "sexpert," Professor Foxy, recently fielded a question from a 16-year-old young woman who just masturbated for the first time and is a little freaked out by the experience. I can totally relate: around the same age, I was paranoid I'd "hurt" my delicate ladyparts and have to make an awkward doctor's visit. I knew my hymen was supposed to break eventually, but my mind was full of what ifs? as to how this would actually happen. What if my fingernails scratched something? What if I pushed my vibrator too deep inside and damaged my cervix? I couldn't tear anything in there, right? (Hey, don't judge! I think I may have seen a childbirth video at some point and my imagination got carried away. It happens.) Lucky for me, in time, I learned my ladyparts aren't so delicate after all and are actually quite elastic. But it took me years to learn this — yes, years! So, Little 16-Year-Old Writing To Professor Foxy, I know what you're going through! [Feministing]

Last Friday, we asked you what top-secret tip makes your bedroom romps so amazing in exchange for the season one and two DVDs of Showtime’s “Secret Diary of A Call Girl” and the book the series was based on. You had some sage advice (don’t worry, we’ll share the exhaustive reader wisdom next week), but Alex’s answer made so much sense to us that we think we might have to give up pajamas for good:

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, the passion can ebb for the simple reason that you both know exactly what’s coming. It could be the best and dirtiest sex anyone has ever had, but it doesn’t matter: it’s the same as it was last time. It doesn’t mean you care any less about your partner, or find them any less sexually attractive, it just means you need to break the spell of sameness, and break out of your stale sex routine. Read more ...

Last night, my friend Lauren sent me a link to a quiz on Women’s Health‘s website called “Are You A Penis Expert?” While watching “American Idol” I took the quiz—though I assumed I, duh, was—and was mildly pleased to get six out of nine correct. Not too shabby! Then today I saw that Women’s Health also has a “What’s Your Vagina IQ?” test and thought, Surely I will excel at this one! I am my lady flower’s BFF! I got seven out of 13 correct. According to my calculator (because I forgot how to do division), that means I got 54 percent on the vagina quiz and 67 percent on the penis quiz. I know more about the P than I do the V. As a woman, I am sort of embarrassed. In my defense, the questions on the V quiz were a little trickier, what with some of the questions being about the vulva not the vagina and I failed to think about the distinction. Anyway, I learned some useful things. Did you know that most gynos recommend going commando over wearing undies, unless your clothing is irritating? Take the quizzes and lemme know how you stack up! [“What’s Your Vagina IQ?” and “Are You A Penis Expert?”]

Oh hai, Sex Toy Fairy? I would like this doohickey the next time you’ve decided I’ve been a good Editor and deserve a present. The Incognito Droplet Necklace is a piece of jewelry with two small vibrating cylinders on either end, which also double as, uh, nipple clamps. I’m not really into the latter, as my nipples lack sensitivity entirely—seriously, I can’t feel a thing, it’s unfortunate now, but will come in handy when I breastfeed. Anyway, I am interested in finding out whether this sex toy is actually as stealth-like as the name implies, as well as whether the two tiny vibes pack a mean punch. OK, thanks! [$109-$125, Babeland.com]

I’m of the last generation to learn about sex without the help of the internet. While I was spared the misinformation my pre-teen mind would’ve encountered in her furtive Google searches, I also missed out on the comprehensive dialogue that today’s young people can access. Which might not be so bad, if I’d had access to any other trustworthy way to learn about sexuality.

• Sexologist and relationship counselor Jenna Brett Ashley was only impressed with half of the celebrity fellatio techniques she critiqued. [Asylum]
• Will there will be one less man on “Mad Men” in season four? Say it isn’t so! [TV Guide]
• Chris Brown finally does something to improve his image by volunteering with Best Buddies. [The Young, Black & Fabulous]

Porn: whether you love it, hate it, or feel indifferent, you can’t deny it influences people just like any other form of media. Generally, “Think of the children!” hand-wringing is something I ignore because I think it can get really overblown. But a recent report on how exposure to porn affects young boys is a brash wake-up call that not worrying about their exposure is to their, and our, detriment.

Having sex while Aunt Flo is in town is definitely a love it or hate it situation—friends and fellow bloggers Twanna Hines and Desiree Moodie were on opposite sides of the fence on the subject and asked to argue their viewpoints for The Frisky. Read both of their extremely convincing arguments after the jump (who knew there were so many benefits to period sex?!), then tell us what you think in the comments.

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A new, controversial report claims the increase in carpal tunnel syndrome cases in Britain is the result of too much sex. Repetitive movements and extending full body weight to the wrists during lovemaking seems to be related to the most common wrist ailment in the U.K., which affects one person in 20. The symptoms include numbness and pain from trapped nerves. Although the exact cause of the syndrome isn’t exactly known, doctors often attribute it to keyboard or mouse use and prolonged use of vibrating hand tools (no, not those vibrating hand tools). But, according to this new research, the increases in carpal tunnel sufferers coincided with the launch of Viagra and other erectile dysfunction treatments in the late ‘90s. Of course, many people also started using computers continuously throughout the day around this time also. But one researcher maintains that sex is the leading cause of the syndrome because it’s the only widespread activity that requires both hands at the same time. So it sounds like this is the perfect excuse to switch positions and put old standbys like missionary and doggy style to rest for a bit. [The Sun]