I have a really difficult time coming during sex. I can get there, but I need to be in the right frame of mind, my brain can’t be in full-on ADD mode, and I need, like, direct and constant pressure on my clitoris. (Dudes who hope to bang me, you should probably get out a notepad and write that down.) I’m hardly the only woman who has difficulty reaching orgasm during sex or who needs a lot of clitoral stimulation — according to Planned Parenthood, 30 percent of women are in the same boat. I sometimes will break out a vibrator in the bedroom, but depending on the sexual position, it either gets in the way or I find it awkward to hold for an extended period of time. The best position for me is doggystyle (can I just say I hate that term? can we call it something else?) because it lends easy access to my bits, but with one hand busy, I’m left holding my body up with the other arm and really that’s not terribly comfy either. WHAT TO DO? Perhaps Eva is my answer. Keep reading »
Many of society’s roles and traditions that govern the male/female relationship have their roots in a single biological imperative: to procreate. We long understood that in order to keep our species from going extinct, certain rules and guidelines must be put in place to help men and women get along and keep it together long enough to produce offspring. So belief systems and institutions were created to reinforce the importance of mating and pairing like gender roles, chivalry, dating and marriage.
That was before technology came about and completely changed the game. Society has already witnessed the great impact birth control like condoms, the pill, shots and other contraceptives which have revolutionized the ways men and women interact and the societal rules that govern those interactions. Gender norms that were once rigid and unchangeable have been transformed in ways unimaginable. Without the constant of pregnancy, women and men can more freely express their sexuality and desires. Keep reading »
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If you’ve ever wondered what happens in the tiny corners of the internet where people expose their most vulnerable selves, I have an answer: They put their hardened penises into women’s shoes. Keep reading »
I will admit: I’m fascinated by the female condom. For starters, it’s the only female initiated dual-protection (against both pregnancy and STIs) method available. The potential for women all over the world to have agency over our reproduction is amazing. But why, I’ve wondered, is uptake so low? Why don’t any of my friends use it?
There are certainly some aspects of the female condom that are less appealing than other methods. At $7.00 for three, they’re much more expensive than traditional condoms. They’re also a bit less effective than the traditional condom, and there’s the ever pervasive “I don’t like how they feel on my peen” argument for both varieties of condom (although female condom praise-singers are trying to combat that one). The narrative around them in the developed world is often something like “meh.” Female condom manufacturers and advocates have attempted to reframe the discussion to include benefits including enhanced pleasure and ease of use. I’ve joined the call for feminists and health care workers to advocate for their use and access, but the benefits beyond risk reduction feel clumsy and don’t really ring true for me. Can it REALLY stimulate bodies in ways that are worth using them over traditional condoms? Could watching someone insert one possibly be alluring?
So when a friend suggested I shut up and try it, I realized I really should put my birth control where my mouth was. Or something. Keep reading »
See that thing above? Is it A) art, B) a Christmas tree, C) an enormous butt plug or D) all of the above? The answer is D! American Artist Paul McCarthy erected, heh, the sculpture, called “Tree,” in Paris last week, noting that he got the idea for it after noticing that a butt plug sort of looks like a Christmas tree. Okay then. Sadly, this m-ASS-terful work was not appreciated by all, and a rogue group of individuals who clearly hate anal sex decided to take matters into their own hands, The police told the BBC, “An unidentified group of people cut the cables which were holding the artwork, which caused it to collapse.” See the butt plug, I mean “Tree,” in its sad deflated form, after the jump. [BBC] Keep reading »
I’ve always been a fan of lube, but until now, I’ve never really been a hardcore lube advocate. For years, I’ve kept a generous stash of KY in my underwear drawer for emergency purposes, and dive in when necessary. As a healthy, sexually active 27-year-old, I don’t usually have problems getting wet down there, but I do sometimes struggle with staying wet down there. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been lucky enough to regularly experience multiple orgasms during intercourse. But, like clockwork, once I have that first orgasm, my lady dam starts to dry up. Keep reading »