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Representation In Porn, Or A Lack Thereof, And Why It Matters

Have you ever wondered what racial representation looks like in porn versus the United States population? Well, I have.

I get tired of conventional porn sometimes, and I want to see porn with women especially, but people in general, who aren’t going “ooohnnnn ooohhhhhnnn ohhhhhnnn” like seals throughout the movie, or who aren’t skinny, or who aren’t young, or who aren’t white, or who aren’t conventional-looking, or who are engaging in sex acts that they really, really, really love of their own accord rather than being just sort of down to do because it’s their job. That’s why I love Beautiful Agony (just assume that none of the links in this post are safe for work) — it’s all orgasms, it’s all very understated, it’s a pure celebration of pleasure, and lots of different kinds of people are represented. It’s also why I love the Art-Porn Tumblr: there’s at least some diversity, there’s a lot of kink — real kink — and many of the photographers and directors portray sex in a way that doesn’t feel so … I don’t know. Gratuitous. There’s nothing wrong with gratuitous, conventional porn, of course, I just get tired of it. It’s made for a male audience, and I’m not male. I want to see something different. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Let’s Get Real When Discussing Complicated Sexual Experiences

The Soapbox: We Can't Limit Our Vocabulary When Discussing Complicated Sexual Experiences

There’s been a lot of talk lately in the media about sexual violence. Late last month, former CBC Broadcaster Jian Ghomeshi was fired amid allegations of sexual assault. A few weeks ago, Shia LaBeouf came forward with claims that he was raped during an art exhibition. And by now everyone’s heard of the sex abuse allegations first brought against Bill Cosby decades ago, which seem to just keep coming.

Then a little over a week ago, Rolling Stone released an editor’s note that undermined their own investigative account of a brutal gang rape that allegedly took place at a fraternity house at the University of Virginia. It was a move that The Frisky’s Beejoli Shah astutely noted as “just another example of shifting the focus away from the real issue at hand: how we talk about rape, and how hard it is for survivors to come forward.”

As a former sex worker turned sex writer I think it’s good that people are talking about sexual health. It’s unfortunate, however, that we don’t know how to talk about complicated sexual experiences without focusing on two words: consent, and rape. In certain circumstances, I wonder if these aren’t the wrong words. Certainly, they shouldn’t be the only ones. Keep reading »

2014: The Year In Boobs

Holy moley, were there a lot of boob stories in 2014! You’d think that between #BreakTheInternet and “Anaconda,” this year would go to butts, but you’d be wrong. We learned a lot about Dolly Parton’s boobs, Free the Nipple became part of the feminist movement, and Jasmine Tridevil beguiled us all. Click through to see the best of this year’s boob news!

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6 Crazy Things People Used To Believe About Vaginas

6 Crazy Things People Used To Believe About Vaginas

Vaginas are an unfair source of widespread confusion and embarrassment: Plenty of us don’t know how they work or what they look like. But it’s not just popular culture that gets vaginas wrong. Scientific and medical minds long misunderstood female anatomy. We didn’t even fully know how the clitoris worked until 2009, and even today, many textbooks still misrepresent female sexual anatomy. Read more on Huffington Post Women…

Real Couples Play “Sexy Charades,” Try To Act Out Sex Positions Based On Their Hilarious Names

Real Couples Play "Sexy Charades," Try To Act Out Sex Positions Based On Their Hilarious Names
This One's Called 'Intermediate Swimming Lesson'

I think I just found a new game that I want to bring to every party I will attend for the rest of my life. The Cut has come up with “Sexy Charades,” a game in which real couples are asked to act out a sex position based on its name, and its name only. As I’m sure you know, some positions these days are given…um, unique names. Take, for example, One Sausage Wrapped To Go, or The Intermediate Swimming Lesson. The Cut producers used the “Position Of The Day” card deck by the editors of Nerve.com as their guide, and let the games begin! So how did their test couples do getting into position? Watch the video above to find out! [Happy Place]

8 Good Reasons To Have A One-Night Stand

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I am presently married, but before I reached this impressively adult position, however, I had my way with a series of gentleman across the fair island of Manhattan. I was a little late to the online dating game, and once I discovered it, look out! I had a date more than half the nights of the week. And, if I’m being honest, I slept with a decent number of them. What can I say? I’m a fan of the one-night stand.

One night stands, I think, are like that very, very rich piece of cheesecake: Delicious and a total treat, but if you had it every day, you’d be like, “Oh my god. I’m disgusting. I feel gross. I hate myself.” They’re not for every day, but they’re for sometimes. The key is in the approach. You need to practice moderation. You need to find the right guy with whom to do it. And the right guy is simple. He is someone you’re very attracted to and with whom you have zero interest in a relationship.

Now that I’ve laid the criteria for the gentleman with whom you want to have a one night stand, let me work to convince you further as to why you should indulge … Keep reading »

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